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Partner almost made me miss a wedding
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:39 PM Author: very tactful lettuce I was in the middle of a merger deal, working 80 hours a week, for about two months. For weeks, I’d been telling the partner, I was best man in an upcoming wedding and I couldn’t work Saturday the 5th. He assured me that I’d be fine. “For God’s sake, what kind of monster do you think I am?”
The Thursday before the actual wedding weekend, I reminded him yet again I wouldn’t be able to work Friday or Saturday night. Once again, he assured me that would not be a problem—though I did note the change in his words. It went from “of course” to “not a problem.” The next day, around 4 PM, I emailed him to say I was leaving for the weekend. His electronic response: “What do you mean “leaving?”
My head almost exploded. What do you mean, what do you mean “leaving”? We’ve been talking about this for weeks, asshole! Two minutes later, he was at my door, dropping work-bombs on my desk. Revise the lock-up agreement, tweak the merger docs, revise the S-4. So I just looked at him, like a psychiatrist might look at a sociopath talking calmly about decapitating a young boy, and reminded him that I was best man in a wedding. I wasn’t a guest, nor an usher. I was best-fucking-man!
“So you want to party all weekend, is that it?” “No, I just want to go to my best friend’s wedding,” I said, choking back my rage.
Asshole partner took this in, nodded, and then began cross-examining me. Where is the wedding? What time is it? What time will it end?
My mind started racing. Is this the moment I quit? Should I just tell him to fuck off? Punch him in the face as hard as I can? Instead, I just stood there nodding like a cowardly bobble-head doll, agreeing to work through the night (and blow off the rehearsal dinner). He did, however, agree to let me attend the wedding. From 5 to 9 on Saturday I was a free man. But he wanted me back at the office by ten. Because there was work to do. I agreed. Even thanked him for his compassion.
So I went to the wedding and had a miserable time. Not even a sip of wine. And like a loyal associate, I was back at the office at 9:45, in my tux, ready to work. |
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Date: May 4th, 2013 6:30 PM Author: Impressive tattoo church building http://www.bitterlawyer.com/my-former-best-friends-wedding/ (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23134409) |
Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:40 PM Author: Vivacious dopamine digit ratio jesus christ you pussy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122162) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:41 PM Author: very tactful lettuce What was I supposed to do? Get myself fired? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122170) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:42 PM Author: Vivacious dopamine digit ratio I would have told him to fuck off. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122172) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:45 PM Author: very tactful lettuce Enjoy unemployment! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122203) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:46 PM Author: Vivacious dopamine digit ratio Meh. Some things aren't worth it bro. This is your best friend's wedding. Supposed to be a joyous thing and a once in a lifetime deal and you ruined it for some faggot cocksucking partner to push paper like a drone. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122211) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 6:52 PM Author: bistre theater background story I wouldn't have used those words, but I would not have caved. And I would be pretty confident that my firm would back me if there was a significant fallout. If anyone readng this isn't similarly confident about your firm, you should find a better job. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122638) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:41 PM Author: Nudist Hunting Ground Gaming Laptop Are there really people really like this in real life? Whats wrong with them. They aspies? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122167) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:46 PM Author: adventurous opaque national People like this absolutely exist. Most offices dont have an HR where you can bitch about shit like this. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122214) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:43 PM Author: Bright jewess mother "So I just looked at him, like a psychiatrist might look at a sociopath talking calmly about decapitating a young boy,"
180 |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:45 PM Author: lemon low-t hospital i dont believe the story b/c of the way he "dropped" this work on you.
in a normal deal, you get the "drop" when you get a markup from the other side on Friday. The partner doesn't just say out of the blue, hey we've been dicking around all week but let's just tweak this now.
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:49 PM Author: fiercely-loyal selfie I've had multiple biglaw bro friends have to cancel trips that they have already paid for, last minute. THis includes hotel rooms and air flights. Once this happened to a bro over Memorial Day weekend, he totally bailed on us, he found out at late in the day on Friday. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122234) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:51 PM Author: seedy field trust fund any biglaw firm worth their shit will reimburse you for all the cancellation fees...or make the client do it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122254) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:52 PM Author: fiercely-loyal selfie I have no idea if they were reimbursed. still fucking sucks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122260) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 6:01 PM Author: lemon low-t hospital hey man i had a european vacation cancelled myself. sucks x100. but this story just sounded weird based on the specific work he was asked to do. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122326) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:46 PM Author: seedy field trust fund jesus. what a dik.
the worst part is that all of the things I missed for biglaw only happened because the partner had no interest in just doing the work himself...if I couldn't find another associate to cover, which I usually couldn't, I was f'd, even if it was something that the partner could do (and wasn't even below the partner).
this gets me angry thinking about that |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:52 PM Author: Poppy titillating lodge lol i enjoy your shtick brother (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122264) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:54 PM Author: very tactful lettuce tyft (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122272) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 5:56 PM Author: vibrant lavender menage Should've at least smoked a joint with the girl at the front desk of the wedding hotel brother (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122289) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 6:49 PM Author: very tactful lettuce That's a 180 idea (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122615) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 6:04 PM Author: Contagious goal in life irl, warn 3 mos out, warn 2 mos out, warn 1 mo out, warn 1 week out and then go, don't warn again. this is decent flame, though |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 6:51 PM Author: Silver Center I have read this exact story numerous times. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122628) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 8:03 PM Author: very tactful lettuce I am the Picasso of copypasta (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122928) |
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Date: May 2nd, 2013 8:05 PM Author: Fluffy brass masturbator den why have a job like this? just do something else. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23122942) |
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Date: May 4th, 2013 3:23 AM Author: sooty theatre depressive (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23131535) |
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Date: May 4th, 2013 3:59 AM Author: unhinged dashing associate marketing idea There's a cunt manager at my store who did this to my friend once. She told him he could either work or it would be an "unexcused absence" that would probably lead to termination. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23131615) |
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Date: May 4th, 2013 4:09 AM Author: Bull headed cumskin sneaky criminal meanwhile, I'm yelled at if I'm in the office after 4:30 pm. lol, just lol. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23131648) |
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Date: May 4th, 2013 4:52 AM Author: copper brunch round eye A friend worked for a particularly aggressive partner. She had a vacation planned and a few days before it began, her Aunt died. So she had to cancel the vacation and fly out for the funeral over the weekend. She informs the partner of this fact.
Halfway through the funeral (think it was on a Staturday), her phone starts blowing up. He called something like 4 or 5 times during the course of the service and sent multiple email messages telling her to contact him immediately.
Immediately after the service ends, she calls the partner. He asks her where the fuck she is at. She says that she's in another state. He asks her why the fuck she is there and that vacation is over (mind you, she left the office on the Friday prior). She tells him that she canceled her vacation and that she is at her aunt's funeral. He tells her that she can't do anything for the aunt now, and he needs her back in the office on Sunday to work on a temp restraining order.
She turned off her phone, came back on Monday and quit. Firm begged her to stay and let her switch offices. I heard a rumor that she got some $ out of it, but she wouldn't say anything. She ended up quitting a few months later. |
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Date: May 4th, 2013 8:41 AM Author: magenta liquid oxygen Yeah, when my dad died I only took half the day off and was back prepping subpoenas by 3pm same day and this was a shitlaw firm with only 30 lawyers in it. That's just the nature of the business. I quit and now I run a bunch if boutique stores and sell shit online. Forget lawyering. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23131919) |
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Date: May 4th, 2013 8:34 AM Author: twinkling ladyboy principal's office On my first big merger deal as a first year associate, I had to miss my grandfather's funeral due to a signing.
I've had to skip out on a few weddings, too.
The OP's story is obviously copypasta but it's grounded in fact. I know more than one associate who was allowed to stand up in a friend's wedding but only for the few hours that they would actually have to be on wedding duty. And then it's back to work. |
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Date: May 4th, 2013 6:27 PM Author: very tactful lettuce I am the Picasso of copypasta (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23134393) |
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Date: May 4th, 2013 6:28 PM Author: green corner Even if this story is flame, the anxiety is one-thousand percent real. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2245672&forum_id=2#23134400) |