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falling for beautiful girl from paris, need serious help part 2
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Date: June 12th, 2012 9:16 AM
For those don¡¦t want to read my prior post: she's 22, from paris, very beautiful, smart, stylish..just plain awesome. I met her a month ago, we went out on one date, had amazing time, hooked up, she then went to paris for 3 weeks for vacation (lives in ny now). We stayed in touch every day via whatsapp, except her last few days, when she started getting cold. It stayed that way for one week until I finally got in touch again and she agreed to go out with my again.
Here's what happened: we ended meeting up dinner at upscale restaurant, had an awesome time, and hooked up again (no sex again). She explained to me that the reason she was aloof when she got back is because she hooked up with a friend of hers she¡¦s known for a long time and that she has feelings for him. But she understands that she can¡¦t make anything of it because of the distance. When I asked her if she sees long-term potential between us, she said yes but is worried that I am a player; she also seemed to indicate that she needs time to sort out her feelings. Since I¡¦m insecure, always second-guessing, and hurt by the fact that she hooked up with a guy in paris (even though we only went on one date before) I took it personally. So here's what I did:
The following day I sent her a text saying, "great seeing you last night babe. Enjoy your time w/ your friend today."
She replied, "Thank you for last night babe, I had a great time. See you soon." Then she sent me a picture of her neck since I gave her a hickey and said, "my mom saw it first and said 'at least you had a good time' hahaha."
I took that as a positive text and an indication that she's interested, but I tried to appear distant, aloof, and terse in my response. I simply said "haha your mom is awesome."
Now here¡¦s what I did on Saturday night. I was out with friends at a hotspot and saw her smoking outside a club with some girlfriends. Even though she wasn't with a guy, I was surprised to see her out. And I was still reeling from what she told me about hooking up with the guy in paris... so I brought a hot blonde girl with me into the club and she saw it, but I pretended like I didn't see her. I left with the blonde and 5 minutes later I get the following text:
"You;re at ***!" (the place she saw me). Then 10 minutes later she writes again, "I guess it was you, if you were wearing a striped shirt, and left with a girl."
I was happy she wrote that since she seemed jealous (was she?). then I waited until 5 am to respond and said (playing dumb), "hey, just saw your text! Yeah I was there for a little bit earlier in this night, I didn't see ya though. You should have said hi! How was your night??"
Next morning she replies "you looked busy. It was a good night though."
Finally, I reply, "I wasn't busy. And even if I was, I would have dropped what I was doing to see u. anyway, glad to hear you had a good night :-)"
My questions are as follows:
Did I go to far? Does she like me? What do you advise me to do? Was it bad for me to be seen with the hot blonde? In short, WTF do I do next? For the record, I am crushing hard on her. HARD! Can¡¦t get her out of my mind. Please help.
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Date: June 12th, 2012 9:18 AM
i am not reading this faggot shit |
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Date: June 12th, 2012 9:19 AM |
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Date: June 12th, 2012 9:35 AM
(2) When you send her text messages, do you at all complement her body or the way she acts? Seems like the texts may be a little dull. Perhaps spice it up a little bit by complementing her on the one thing she dislikes about her self. If she hates her ears, say, "those earrings look great on you." I know this may not always work, but seems like you may need to spice it up a little bit.
(3) The chick move is a gamble. How hot was the blonde chick? Did you walk out holding hands, grabbing onto each other, or just as a group? She already thinks that you are a player, and that event may just confirm her thoughts. You should have played it off that you were just with some friends.
(4) Have you met her mom? If so, that is a good sign.
(5) I have only dated one French girl, and I had to be more passionate with her than any of my previous girlfriends. I am latino, so I am already pretty passionate. Try to do that with her on the next date. See how she responds. I am not talking about slamming her against the wall, but cooking her dinner and using some ingredients of her favorite destination. I dated a chick that loved Hawaii, I cooked a nice mahi mahi and bought some pineapple juice. Told her that I couldn't take her to Hawaii, so I tried my best to bring it to her. *Her panties melted on the spot* |
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Date: June 12th, 2012 9:39 AM |
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Date: June 12th, 2012 9:46 AM |
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Date: June 12th, 2012 12:17 PM |
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Date: June 12th, 2012 8:47 PM |
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Date: June 12th, 2012 9:41 AM
yeah i walked out holding the blone chicks hand. again, i wouldn't have played these silly games had this paris guy not been in the picture.
have not met her mom yet but she talks all the time about how she wants me to meet her, chill at her place, hang out during the day, etc.
your last point is well taken. to be honest, this girl talks a lot of sex and romance and how some of her previous boyfriends were dull and boring in bed. she's much different than any american girl i've dated. it's a bit intimidating but I can deal with it.
so how should I fix this—just send her a text and ask if she’s wants to meet up after work sometime this week?
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Date: June 12th, 2012 9:42 AM |
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Date: June 12th, 2012 9:46 AM
Whatever you say, do not say that you did it to get her jealous. The truth will only f- it up here. Perhaps, ignoring it may be the best form of action, but be prepared with an answer if she brings it up at some point. If she saw you walk out with the chick, then she will ask you about it at some point. Perhaps, something like, "Oh, she is my friend's girlfriend, but she was pretty drunk that night. She was falling all over the place." Edit: Just saw your poast about the blonde. Yea, bro, that is tough but not a killer. Can you play it off as your friend's girl?
Second Edit: If you do it that way, she may think of you as caring and being a protector. Also, what do you have planed for the next date? Also, a lil drama is not that bad. From my experience with the french chick, they like a little drama. |
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Date: June 12th, 2012 10:06 AM
Edit: What are her interests? |
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Date: June 12th, 2012 12:09 PM
When I grow Up I will have a beutiful Girlfriend from Peris. We will hold hands and i can give her adult Kisses. If she makes me mad I Can make her be jealus with a blond girls. Wolverine will be at our wedding! |
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Date: June 12th, 2012 1:41 PM
but i've never understood why people make unnecessarily wounding remarks on this forum, particularly when the OP posits a sincere question, whether it's related to work, relationships, or life in general. "faggot" seems to be the default insult. i personally don't have the time and energy to amuse anonymous posters with insults that, in every way, are lacking in creativity and originality. i can’t count the number of times a poster has made comments about how he’s extremely depressed and suicidal, and posters have responded with absolutely sickening comments. seems that 90 percent of the contributors on this site have some kind of severe personality disorder
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Date: June 12th, 2012 1:59 PM
Seems like this is the real problem you need to work on. |
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Date: June 12th, 2012 1:43 PM
but i've never understood why people make unnecessarily wounding remarks on this forum, particularly when the OP posits a sincere question, whether it's related to work, relationships, or life in general. "faggot" seems to be the default insult. i personally don't have the time and energy to amuse anonymous posters with insults that, in every way, are lacking in creativity and originality. i can’t count the number of times a poster has made comments about how he’s extremely depressed and suicidal, and posters have responded with absolutely sickening comments. seems that 90 percent of the contributors on this site have some kind of severe personality disorder
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Date: June 12th, 2012 6:21 PM
the text about how you'd drop anything was good tho; it def implied in a non-clingy way that you're interested in her beyond a p&d level
i'd say wait until seeing her to mention it... ofc if she seems cold/mad & doesn't want to go out, u could bring it up in text
gl!!! |
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Date: June 13th, 2012 9:50 AM
Edit: What are you going to do? |
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Date: June 13th, 2012 10:02 AM
meeting her at the park for coffee after work, keeping it chill. see where the night takes us. next date ill do it large
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Date: June 13th, 2012 11:10 AM
I have a GF, but it is going no where fast. She is a WOC, and she is your typical american chick. Wears jeans and shirts all the time, never exercises, has a poor diet, is annoyed with the thought of walking some place (she prefers to drive), etc. |
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Date: July 2nd, 2012 10:19 AM
Never met a girl like this.
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Date: July 2nd, 2012 11:06 AM
Edit: One of my best friends is dating a European chick. She is Swiss, and she is 180. She maintains her small frame, exercises often (and she eats healthy), and she seems like she would make a nice mom. I am going to start trying to cop me a Euro chick.
I went to Chicago this past weekend, and I saw a chick just scarfing down Al's Beef, bro. I can eat one (maybe two), but this one chick was going gang busters. |
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