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wife is estranged from father, how best to handle?
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:35 AM Author: vivacious background story she doesn't talk to him nor want anything to do with him. do i push her to reconcile or just leave it be? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565355) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:36 AM Author: well-lubricated son of senegal how old is this mental child you're married to? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565359) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:37 AM Author: vivacious background story 33 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565361) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:38 AM Author: well-lubricated son of senegal meh... if she get's to 40 and still can't do it herself, then yeah, maybe you need to push her along. but give her some time man. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565363) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:39 AM Author: vivacious background story only an issue now that we're going to have a kid. seems kind of mean for him not to have any contact with his grandchild. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565367) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:45 AM Author: lascivious rambunctious shrine Maybe she was raped and doesn't want to address it or make it a bigger deal. Let it go, brother, let it go. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565382) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:45 AM Author: Henna gay wizard this (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565385) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:47 AM Author: vivacious background story see below.
issue was her parents divorce and her dad being an asshole. i think she should move on as it was 10+ years ago but she can't seem to get over it. |
Date: February 4th, 2013 1:42 AM Author: Henna gay wizard What were the circumstances that led to the estrangement? I'm inclined to think that if a 33 year old woman is estranged from her father, the father was likely a gaping asshole. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565375) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:46 AM Author: vivacious background story father cheated on her mom back in the day (when wife was 18 or so), her parents got divorced, he married woman he was having affair with and moved to bali, wife thinks her mom was short-changed financially in divorce.
also, wife didn't want him to bring his new wife to our wedding; she ultimately got her way but he renegged on paying for 1/4 of wedding cost. that was pretty much the straw that broke the camels back in that she subsequently cut off all contact post-wedding (which was 2+ years ago). |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:49 AM Author: Violet zombie-like feces point He's shitty and you shouldn't tell her otherwise, but don't deny your child a grandfather. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565406) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:50 AM Author: Lemon School Asking for money but telling the dood he can't bring his wife is pretty shitty man (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565411) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:53 AM Author: vivacious background story that's what i told her in the first place. i mean, i don't blame the guy for being annoyed that he can't bring his own wife to the wedding of his daughter.
her mom was fine with the new wife coming, it was just her who had an issue with it, so, yeah, she held out knowing the financial consequences so i guess i respect her for that. |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:56 AM Author: Apoplectic Glittery Bawdyhouse but she still wanted the money.that ain't respectable bro. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565435) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:56 AM Author: clear arrogant cuckold yarmulke Titcr. That other stuff happened 10 years ago. Time to move on and reconcile. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565432) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:51 AM Author: vivacious background story yeah, it's really the latter issue that is bringing the issue to the fore. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565413) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:52 AM Author: Violet zombie-like feces point If you talk to her in the context of your kid but not about the dad being a good dude, it'll work out fine, it seems. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565421) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:55 AM Author: well-lubricated son of senegal So what exactly did he do wrong again? Your wife is an immature brat. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565430) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:29 AM Author: spruce underhanded heaven A lifetime grudge over 18 year olds playing house is ridiculous. How much shit could he have possibly had for a divorce at that age anyway? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565564) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:41 AM Author: vivacious background story no, my wife was 18 at the time; her mom would have been in her 40s. they were reasonably well-off and her dad was an accountant who predominantly worked in asia (but was based in australia) so it's entirely possible he had money that he didn't share. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565600) |
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Date: August 19th, 2018 8:29 PM Author: Cracking mildly autistic senate im inclined to think OP is a nigger (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#36645543) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:26 AM Author: Ocher jap range Leave it the fuck alone. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565553) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:28 AM Author: vivacious background story ty for your wise words xospouse (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565560) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:29 AM Author: Ocher jap range I'm serious. Nobody gets estranged from a parent without good reason. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565566) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 10:55 PM Author: bright very tactful community account crackhouse lol bullshit.
white women get estranged for any reason and no reason at all.
just lol at white people. |
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Date: August 19th, 2018 8:29 PM Author: Cracking mildly autistic senate (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#36645544) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:28 AM Author: Buff Outnumbered Forum Really Tough Guy probably should let it be. if you hate your kid not knowing its grandfather, maybe you could raise this once or twice in a nonthreatening/nonpushy way (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565558) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:29 AM Author: vivacious background story i won't push it. just wondering how to handle it at the point it inevitably comes up when or soon after it's born. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565565) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:30 AM Author: Ocher jap range Oh congratulations on impending fatherhood. Your life will never be the same. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565568) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:31 AM Author: vivacious background story ty. six months and counting... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565574) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:39 AM Author: olive angry idiot menage oooh when are you going to namethread! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565596) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:41 AM Author: vivacious background story my wife wants something traditional (e.g. Henry) which i am violently opposed to.
looking forward to having that conversation as we get closer... |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:44 AM Author: Ocher jap range My two rules:
- don't pick some deliberately mis-spelled name, that is so prole (or bogan, in your case)
- don't pick a name that will get him beaten up in school every day for having a faggy or girly name |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:47 AM Author: vivacious background story totally agree with first and, in principle, the second
i'm holding out for wilburforce for a boy but am willing to compromise |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:49 AM Author: Ocher jap range I like traditional names e.g Peter, Paul, Mark, Michael, John, David etc.
Boy names should be solid. You can get a little more experimental with girl names. |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:52 AM Author: vivacious background story i hate biblical names (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565628) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:33 AM Author: Buff Outnumbered Forum Really Tough Guy i'd just be positive about the fact that he is showing interest/the love that this baby could receive/etc. try not to dwell on the negatives and if she wants to do so, try to stay positive about the positive things that there are (while acknowledging that the grandfather has been shitty in other contexts - bad husband =/= bad grandpa) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565578) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:38 AM Author: olive angry idiot menage best to not (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565592) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 10:41 PM Author: pale exciting trump supporter dysfunction is he rich? will she inherit from him now? if yes and no, then tell her to get back in bed with him. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22570271) |
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Date: February 4th, 2013 10:53 PM Author: thriller judgmental church Daddy dial is TCR. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22570362) |
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Date: November 5th, 2013 1:41 PM Author: Puce Sound Barrier Abode If she strikes you as a reasonable, mature person in most areas in life, leave it alone. There could be a good reason. These things just don't randomly happen (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#24375513) |
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Date: November 5th, 2013 1:51 PM Author: Lavender 180 preventive strike home your life is less stressful if they don't make a show of having to spend time together,
your wife is an adult, if she doesn't want to spend time with him, you should respect that |
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Date: November 5th, 2013 2:05 PM Author: Histrionic field Eh, I'd leave it be for now, maybe push after the kid is born, might change her perspective. Also, don't ever get caught cheating, it sounds like she'd make your life hell. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#24375669) |
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Date: August 19th, 2018 7:37 PM Author: saffron jew Update on this, 5 years later? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#36645276) |
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Date: August 19th, 2018 8:26 PM Author: Orange painfully honest electric furnace locale Start with a finger in the pooper, move on from there (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#36645527) |