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How do I become more confident and stop giving a fuck?
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Date: August 31st, 2015 10:53 PM Author: Fragrant Associate I think if I become more confident and if I stop giving a fuck about everything I'll become extremely happy.
How do I make this happen? My personality is geared against these things on an almost fundamental level. I need to change it. |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 10:53 PM Author: 180 Snowy Generalized Bond high T (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664875) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 10:54 PM Author: Fragrant Associate I feel like that would put me on edge more.
Also I want to become basically asexual. |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:09 PM Author: Fishy Corner These objections are ridiculous.
Get put on T. |
Date: August 31st, 2015 10:56 PM Author: lime startled menage go back in time, be accepted and build better social skills (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664895) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 10:56 PM Author: Peach Range bingo! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664901) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:00 PM Author: Fragrant Associate FUCK OFF (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664933) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:16 PM Author: Twinkling scourge upon the earth (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665056) |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 8:27 AM Author: Bearded Floppy Institution (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28666607) |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 9:29 PM Author: Drunken translucent partner national Better social skills make you care more, not less. Worrying about other people's opinions is by definition being socialized. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28670747) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 10:56 PM Author: Peach Range its not possible to do. you need to have grown up differently. take mdma or coke and see what happens. its like a switch, but urs is off normally. sorry bro. i mean, yeah its possible to change. just go out there and try to succeed in the face of obstacles and maybe your personality will change, though i doubt it, most likely you wont be able to live up to the challenge and you will implode from the stress and anxiety, not overcome it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664897) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 10:59 PM Author: Fragrant Associate Ljl fuck this gay fraud earth. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664923) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 10:59 PM Author: lime startled menage i have an annoying coworker who swears depression and anxiety can be fixed with nutrition (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664925) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:00 PM Author: Fragrant Associate That's bullshit.
Same with exercise. Doesn't do shit to improve your mood once you've been doing it consistently. |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:05 PM Author: lime startled menage i know man i argue with him about this all the time. he's one of these mindfulness retards who thinks anything can be overcome by the mind. a horrific childhood is nothing if you set your mind to fighting your anxiety. this type of attitude is exactly what's wrong with our hypercapitalist fake it til you make it culture. unhappiness isn't accepted. i'm sure that's why some people kill themselves, the fact that they can't just be unhappy and not be judged for not willing their way out of it. faggots like earl who believe this are ignorant (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664971) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:05 PM Author: henna ratface This. OP needs to start drinking during the day and at work (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664976) |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 8:35 AM Author: swashbuckling low-t twinkling uncleanness church (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28666619) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 10:59 PM Author: bat-shit-crazy locale I think the key lies in ceasing to want to BE anyone or like anyone else in the world. You have to learn to be YOURSELF, and love being yourself and have zero desire to emulate anyone else (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664920) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 10:59 PM Author: Fragrant Associate This seems highly credited. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664927) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:00 PM Author: bat-shit-crazy locale Much much much easier said than done, though (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664932) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:01 PM Author: Fragrant Associate Yeah that seems obvious. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664936) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:01 PM Author: lime startled menage this is true. i always say you have to have moral confidence, your choices are yours, you pick your identity and stick to your decisions. everyone else's life looks better if you're not confident with your own freedom (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664941) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:02 PM Author: bat-shit-crazy locale (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664950) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:04 PM Author: Fragrant Associate Any philosophy or shit that I can read to help back this up ideologically? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664968) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:05 PM Author: henna ratface Lmao (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664979) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:12 PM Author: Fragrant Associate If it's in a book it's true. Stop laughing, motherfucker. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665035) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:08 PM Author: lime startled menage idk existentialist philosophy is all about this, really (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664999) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:35 PM Author: Glittery French Chef cr and this takes a ton of investment that you wont see returns on for a long while, but you have to trust that when you listen to yourself and strengthen yourself, you will be a beast amongst children. takes years |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:01 PM Author: Dark Half-breed Protip: You can't and won't. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664935) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:01 PM Author: Fragrant Associate FUCK OFF (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664940) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:01 PM Author: green big-titted lay Just realize that none of this shit matters for the most part. A healthy dose of nihilism is always cr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664938) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:03 PM Author: Peach Range nihilism wont make you a confident person socially. nihilism isnt even the credited way to live, sorry. it might be true, but your biology doesnt mesh with it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664956) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:03 PM Author: Fragrant Associate Yeah I was extremely nihilistic when I was like 15. I had like no friends at the time but I definitely grew the most intellectually at that age. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664957) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:16 PM Author: Harsh Chrome Mother Den YER A WIZARD, HARRY (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665061) |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 2:55 AM Author: medicated coral pozpig parlour (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28666232) |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 8:37 AM Author: swashbuckling low-t twinkling uncleanness church (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28666620) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:02 PM Author: sickened theater stage main people go to prestigious schools and get a prestigious job. money+success will make you confident. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664947) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:03 PM Author: Fragrant Associate That's completely false. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664961) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:03 PM Author: Purple Mind-boggling Box Office Organic Girlfriend Just become a major depressive, you won't give a fuck about anything (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664960) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:04 PM Author: Fragrant Associate The point of this is so that I DON'T become a major depressive. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664965) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:05 PM Author: Purple Mind-boggling Box Office Organic Girlfriend Why not? Confidence stems from not giving a fuck, and not giving a fuck comes from realizing that there's nothing you can do about the tragic human condition (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664977) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:06 PM Author: Fragrant Associate That sounds more like holding an apathetic or nihilistic outlook on life as opposed to being depressed. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664987) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:07 PM Author: Peach Range i think you might be wrong. confidence comes from the self feeling accepted and loved, either by you or others. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28664991) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:11 PM Author: Purple Mind-boggling Box Office Organic Girlfriend But the op doesn't have that acceptance, I take it. So he needs to shed illusions and realize that life is just an absurd zero sum game and behave accordingly (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665023) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:17 PM Author: Fragrant Associate I actually do have a fair amount of acceptance and whatnot in my life. Socially I did pretty well in high school and I probably had an above average amount of friends, reputation, grades, accomplishments, etc.
I guess the big issue is that no matter where I get I'll always be able to look outside and see that someone else is always doing better.
I feel like the people who do the best don't really give a shit about praise or acceptance and go out and just do. |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:21 PM Author: lime startled menage right, you have to have values internalized so you just do shit. you don't think "oh, i'd better get good grades because x, y, z." you just do it because it's something you want to do. look at all the miserable lawyers on here who grinded into law because it was a prestigious profession. your personality must be autotelic (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665107) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:24 PM Author: Fragrant Associate Yeah exactly.
Whenever you read up on people who are extremely successful it's clear they just did shit because they wanted to do it or were good at it.
Like Terrence Malick dropped out of a PhD program in philosophy because he didn't feel like fighting with one of his professors over a translation of Hegel's work or something. So he just jumped ship and said fuck it and made movies. Then he made like one really good one and decided to quit. Then 10-20 years later he rolls onto the scene again and everyone is sucking his dick trying to get a role in The Thin Red Line. |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:34 PM Author: lime startled menage autotelic behaviour requires moral confidence though, which requires acceptance. you need to feel accepted as you are, ironically, apart from your achievements. only then you can you actually achieve excellence because you're doing what you want to do. this is why it's far easier in life to be attractive, for instance, from the get go. look at musicians, who are typically pretty good looking. or actors. they know they will always be wanted on some level so they don't have to go playing to others. how many successful people had parents who are artists and academics? i'm not just talking about successful artists and academics. this seemed to be a trend when i was wiki-ing people. their parents are 1) highly educated and can provide the environment for a good education, and 2) confident in their knowledge that loving what you do is the best motivator, so they encourage love of activity in their children. tiger moms might have successful children but they become bitter, neurotic assholes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665240) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:45 PM Author: Fragrant Associate That's the weird thing. My parents aren't that successful and work prole jobs but since day one my father has stressed to me the importance of doing something that you are passionate about. Most people generally view me as very attractive as well.
I guess the two biggest issues are that I'm not extremely charismatic and I don't have any real passions anymore, so it's hard to find something to do because I find inherent value in it.
That's kind of the reason I made this thread, though. If I stop caring what other people think and whatnot I genuinely believe I will be more charismatic as a result. It's a Catch-22 in that case, though, since there is an ultimate goal/end to not giving a fuck in the first place, which makes it kind of impossible. |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 2:40 AM Author: Adventurous Shrine The real problem in this world is that everyone who is not an ideal person (smart, good looking, talented) thinks they can fix the issue with their moral confidence by working hard. Its not the case. The lack of internal motivation or apathy is strictly because that person sees no benefit in the long run. I mean this is fucking SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST right here. Do everything in your power to extend your legacy and power to your descendants, its the endgame.
I don't believe that an autotelic person can really exist in this world. Someone who finds interest in an activity and does it for their personal enjoyment (other than drugs) is committing fraudlies by perpetrating this myth. These 'autotelic' fraudliars do an activity because it has a benefit that is not necessarily something that has material worth. Autotelic fraudliars participate in artistic, sporting and fitness activities because they are predominantly social pursuits. Since dumb people judge others by how they look, good luck being a musician if you don't look good. Good luck running those laps alone lol. I'm sure you care about your fitness or your musical ability more than you care about your ability to stay sane after having no human contact in months said no one ever.
Reminder that GW Bush has a double digit IQ and ran a country for 8 years. Do you think he thought very hard about the things he wanted to say? Do you think he deserved to be el presidente? Lol no, he just appeared chill and good looking. Just do 'doomed before you were born' bro. |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 10:24 AM Author: lime startled menage 180 some lives are just shittier than others (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28666924) |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 10:48 PM Author: Irradiated bonkers dilemma 180 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28671235) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2015 1:18 PM Author: lime startled menage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#29237137) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:24 PM Author: Purple Mind-boggling Box Office Organic Girlfriend Bump for using the word "autotelic" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665141) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:11 PM Author: lime startled menage i think when you reach complete rock bottom, you can be confident in giving in. you can be confident that you're fucked and the universe is an unholy, arbitrary place. from that position you can tear anything down. you don't have to believe in anything. you need faith to be happy - but faithlessness is a lower order faith of last resort (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665026) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:19 PM Author: Fragrant Associate Yeah kind of like Eminem. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665086) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:12 PM Author: boyish sound barrier church building Just imagine Trump yelling in your ear about what WINNERS do and telling you not to be a baby (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665030) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:17 PM Author: Twinkling scourge upon the earth 1. Travel back in time
2. Work out more
3. Make varsity footbal/basketball
4. ???
5. Profit |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:18 PM Author: Fragrant Associate I have a six pack currently. I also played varsity football and captained my wrestling team in high school. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665079) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:19 PM Author: Twinkling scourge upon the earth So then step 4 should be easy. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665096) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:21 PM Author: Fragrant Associate ljl (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665110) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:25 PM Author: concupiscible chapel useless brakes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665157) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:35 PM Author: Free-loading Marketing Idea Literally think the whole "don't give a fuck" thing is what Buddhism is about (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665256) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:38 PM Author: Fragrant Associate Yeah I've considered reading up on Buddhism a lot lately. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665269) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:39 PM Author: Free-loading Marketing Idea The problem is putting it into practice. Most of it sounds reasonable but it's a lot easier to be like "oh just think about your present moment and lose your ego" than to actually do it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665280) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:41 PM Author: Purple Mind-boggling Box Office Organic Girlfriend It's NOWAG flame. You should be aware of your ego, recognize it, and then act accordingly. Ego death is impossible as long as you are conscious (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665298) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:44 PM Author: Free-loading Marketing Idea Nah there's definitely been times in my life when I have been more involved in my daily life and not just mentally masturbating endlessly about some concept of myself that is all flame anyway (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665331) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:47 PM Author: lime startled menage that's flow, bro (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665350) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:46 PM Author: Glittery French Chef yeah but the exercise of diminishing it helps u go w the flow in cases where ur usually hardheaded even socrates said philosophy is the art of death - u have to kill ur beliefs to develop |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:50 PM Author: lime startled menage philosophy can be a tool for walling yourself off as well. everything is about the spirit in which you do it (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665374) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:43 PM Author: Fragrant Associate Yeah I know it's extremely difficult. I try a lot and give up immediately. I've considered taking mushrooms and other hallucinogens because my friends tell me that it leads to experiences like ego death and whatnot. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665316) |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 2:52 AM Author: dun mood whorehouse I'm planning to do this I'm a lot like you brother, I see myself in you ITT |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 8:08 PM Author: Fragrant Associate <3 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28670284) |
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Date: August 31st, 2015 11:44 PM Author: Confused charismatic indian lodge friendly grandma Watch Trump on YouTube. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665328) |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 1:22 AM Author: lime startled menage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28665896) |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 8:13 AM Author: Carmine titillating potus Alcohol Percocet Exercise / sports / yoga (if you are seriously into this you should try jivamukti yoga - they are more hardcore, crazy vegans, but if you want to get introspective you will be better off there than with the rando aerobics instructor-retooled as yoga master-at your neighborhood gym) Hobbies Reading Journaling or therapy
Cultivate your interests and your health. Be open minded. Give everyone a chance or even a second chance. |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 8:33 AM Author: bateful base fat ankles It sounds like hippie flame, but I have wildly improved my attitude and thus my happiness/dgaf-ness by thinking positive thoughts (and thinking it's nbd/seeing it from their perspective) about people who cause me the slightest inconvenience rather than wishing they get raped with rusty barb wire. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28666617) |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 8:40 AM Author: Carmine titillating potus Yes. I really enjoyed reading Mindset (not Malcolm gladwell junk - http://www.amazon.com/Mindset-The-New-Psychology-Success/dp/0345472322 ), which I think gets into this a bit. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28666623) |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 8:09 PM Author: Fragrant Associate I read this book and thought it was shit, pure shit. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28670292) |
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Date: September 3rd, 2015 12:51 PM Author: Carmine titillating potus Why? What are your recommended books? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28681117) |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 10:00 PM Author: Glittery French Chef totally something i do is to not to even criticize or insult people internally in my mind, which i used to do a lot. it has improved my relationships a lot. |
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Date: September 1st, 2015 8:10 PM Author: cyan hairy legs Get into HBS (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28670295) |
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Date: September 2nd, 2015 12:56 AM Author: Fragrant Associate I think I have to do this before I can get into a place like HBS. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28672218) |
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Date: September 2nd, 2015 12:59 AM Author: ocher hyperactive background story Just do shrooms, not flame. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28672245) |
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Date: September 3rd, 2015 12:26 PM Author: Fragrant Associate Yeah I've been talking to people that can sell them to me. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28680974) |
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Date: September 3rd, 2015 12:57 PM Author: honey-headed trust fund black woman Have kids, become a sole breadwinner. Buck stops here perspective changes your life. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#28681162) |
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Date: November 24th, 2015 3:23 AM Author: lime startled menage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2977961&forum_id=2#29242541) |