POLL: which one of the 2 mindsets describes you
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Date: February 28th, 2017 4:23 PM Author: internet-worthy chrome dog poop clown
The 'failure is just a step to success' self-help schtick ignores psychology. Events can't neatly be categorized into 'success' and 'failure,' with the individual merely choosing how to interpret one or the other. The events that these self-help books call 'failures' may include serious psychological traumas, incarcerations, injuries resulting in limb amputation, etc. It's quite clear that these types of events aren't 'all a matter of mindset.' It's entirely possible for an event to be legitimately crippling, at least if your goal was really specific.
Further, even in more moderate cases, it's not always clear that one can re-interpret failure as a positive. It's possible, but it depends on your pre-existing drives, needs, constitution etc. These people who get stubbornly motivated by failure are usually a particularly hungry type, with a really strong lust for whatever they're after, or perhaps just a need for it.
I know the 'headspace' the self-help books are getting at. I've been in situations where I really wanted something hard-to-obtain when alone in a new city, and yeah, I was able to grind through all the funny reactions to eventually find it. But there have been other times when I've wanted something but certain sensitivities prevented me from pursuing it; in these cases the 'failures' or 'rejections' had an overwhelmingly demoralizing effect that ran deeper than mere matters of 'attitude' or 'perspective.'
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3534942&forum_id=2#32720853) |
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