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This partner at a law firm I once worked at's daughter died,...
yellow fiercely-loyal clown area
  01/21/18
Female law partner? LJL
Brilliant angry stage
  01/21/18
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Chartreuse Fragrant Hell Halford
  01/21/18
was she hot?
Mewling electric furnace
  01/21/18
I thought so, she always looked like this one particular mov...
yellow fiercely-loyal clown area
  01/21/18
clearly the daughter.
Mewling electric furnace
  01/21/18
haha. Well when I knew the mother she was pretty but I guess...
yellow fiercely-loyal clown area
  01/21/18
of course.
Mewling electric furnace
  01/21/18
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Brilliant angry stage
  01/21/18
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misanthropic bipolar indian lodge
  01/21/18
Lol
dark boyish rehab sex offender
  01/21/18
PROTIP: you will always be in the right for extending condol...
at-the-ready mildly autistic jewess famous landscape painting
  01/21/18
cool. Should I just omit anything about how I found out?
yellow fiercely-loyal clown area
  01/21/18
the more stalking detail the better usually around funerals ...
Mewling electric furnace
  01/21/18
yes, yes, this is very helpful..
yellow fiercely-loyal clown area
  01/21/18
just don't send a "sorry ur daughter died. Thank."...
smoky trailer park
  01/21/18
lol, it won't look like that, although I don't know exactly ...
yellow fiercely-loyal clown area
  01/21/18
can you find her home address to mail a card? or stop by the...
smoky trailer park
  01/21/18
she died a couple of years ago. We aren't in touch, I was sn...
yellow fiercely-loyal clown area
  01/21/18
lol a couple of years ago? Just let it go, you aren't in tou...
smoky trailer park
  01/21/18
a year & couple of months.
yellow fiercely-loyal clown area
  01/21/18
i think it would be weird. I wouldn't want to get a card or ...
smoky trailer park
  01/21/18
Yeah, I should let it go. We didn't part on the best terms a...
yellow fiercely-loyal clown area
  01/21/18
CR
Brilliant angry stage
  01/21/18
lololol
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histrionic theatre
  01/21/18
your message is confusing. you should buy him a drink someti...
Sadistic really tough guy
  01/21/18
Not confusing: you must have been wasted when you read this,...
yellow fiercely-loyal clown area
  01/21/18
lol
Mewling electric furnace
  01/21/18
i guess someone that has to mince around asking questions li...
Sadistic really tough guy
  01/21/18
Nothing wrong with a warm message if you mean it and genuine...
Spruce set
  01/21/18
I'm weirded out about the suddenness of her death and don't ...
yellow fiercely-loyal clown area
  01/21/18
how did she die/
Mewling electric furnace
  01/21/18
Something weird where an important function just stopped wor...
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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:07 AM
Author: yellow fiercely-loyal clown area

This partner at a law firm I once worked at's daughter died, should I send her condolences even though it would be obvious I was googling her to find her and happened to see the obit? I never knew the daughter, actually I worked for this lawyer so long ago she had the kid after we parted ways.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200860)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:37 AM
Author: Brilliant angry stage

Female law partner? LJL

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201035)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: Chartreuse Fragrant Hell Halford



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204585)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:07 AM
Author: Mewling electric furnace

was she hot?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200866)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:09 AM
Author: yellow fiercely-loyal clown area

I thought so, she always looked like this one particular movie star I thought. But do you mean the daughter? Yes, pictures of her show that she was pretty good looking.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200872)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:09 AM
Author: Mewling electric furnace

clearly the daughter.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200874)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: yellow fiercely-loyal clown area

haha. Well when I knew the mother she was pretty but I guess it depends what age you're looking for. The mother would be older now of course.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200879)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: Mewling electric furnace

of course.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200881)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:37 AM
Author: Brilliant angry stage



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201037)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:33 PM
Author: misanthropic bipolar indian lodge



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204404)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: dark boyish rehab sex offender

Lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204566)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: at-the-ready mildly autistic jewess famous landscape painting

PROTIP: you will always be in the right for extending condolences in these situations

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200882)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:12 AM
Author: yellow fiercely-loyal clown area

cool. Should I just omit anything about how I found out?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200891)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:14 AM
Author: Mewling electric furnace

the more stalking detail the better usually around funerals and deathbeds.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200901)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:16 AM
Author: yellow fiercely-loyal clown area

yes, yes, this is very helpful..

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200910)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:14 AM
Author: smoky trailer park

just don't send a "sorry ur daughter died. Thank." work email

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200900)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:15 AM
Author: yellow fiercely-loyal clown area

lol, it won't look like that, although I don't know exactly what its going to say or how I'm going to send it. She's retired I think - and I only have what I think is her facebook address.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200907)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:23 AM
Author: smoky trailer park

can you find her home address to mail a card? or stop by the visitation to express condolences in person?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200961)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:28 AM
Author: yellow fiercely-loyal clown area

she died a couple of years ago. We aren't in touch, I was snooping.

I found her email address. Is that too impersonal?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200990)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:29 AM
Author: smoky trailer park

lol a couple of years ago? Just let it go, you aren't in touch, no need to bring up a death from years ago.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200994)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:30 AM
Author: yellow fiercely-loyal clown area

a year & couple of months.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201003)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:34 AM
Author: smoky trailer park

i think it would be weird. I wouldn't want to get a card or email from an ex-coworker I haven't spoken to in years expressing condolences for a loved on who died over a year ago.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201019)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:38 AM
Author: yellow fiercely-loyal clown area

Yeah, I should let it go. We didn't part on the best terms anyway.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201040)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:38 AM
Author: Brilliant angry stage

CR

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201042)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 1:52 AM
Author: ruby personal credit line

lololol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201239)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: histrionic theatre



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204548)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 1:46 AM
Author: Sadistic really tough guy

your message is confusing. you should buy him a drink sometime.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201209)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:31 PM
Author: yellow fiercely-loyal clown area

Not confusing: you must have been wasted when you read this, if you didn't realize I was talking about a her, not a him.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204395)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:37 PM
Author: Mewling electric furnace

lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204434)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: Sadistic really tough guy

i guess someone that has to mince around asking questions like this probably did take orders from a woman partner



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204536)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:36 PM
Author: Spruce set

Nothing wrong with a warm message if you mean it and genuinely cared for her in some way. She might be surprisingly touched. Just be a normal human being about it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204423)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:41 PM
Author: yellow fiercely-loyal clown area

I'm weirded out about the suddenness of her death and don't think anyone deserves that. But I'm not sure how weird it would be to send the note because we didn't part on the best of terms. I probably won't do it if I'm not even sure about my own motivations..

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204460)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 6:01 PM
Author: Mewling electric furnace

how did she die/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204598)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 7:44 PM
Author: yellow fiercely-loyal clown area

Something weird where an important function just stopped working. I don't know if it was brought on by self-abuse (it can be). But it's so true that you can have all the money & prestige in the world but you can't always buy a restart to your body. Makes me squeamish.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35205513)