Wife's personality underwent a major change post marriage & baby
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Date: May 19th, 2018 10:20 PM Author: plum forum
She became much more demanding and assertive , and every two weeks or so just randomly breaks down and screams at me
It's very unpleasant. We lived together before marriage and dated quite a few years, and her personality was stable during this time and we had almost no issues. Im generally a good judge of character and I was very careful looking out for red flags.
Bums me out but no one every told me women literally have a major personality transplant post marriage and kids
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981678&forum_id=2#36087437) |
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Date: May 19th, 2018 10:30 PM Author: plum forum
I guess it is power dynamics but I never took her for the calculating type. Still don't really. Guess it happens on an unconscious level.
I don't think I would have married her if these issues manifested pre marriage , but I'm very thankful for my kid and it's not so bad that I would want to fuck up my kid by leaving.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981678&forum_id=2#36087512)
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Date: May 19th, 2018 11:49 PM Author: plum forum
I didn't think the sessions were helpful, and I don't know what there is to work through. If she's stressed she needs to tell me how she feels and say how I can help, or extricate herself before it escalates. I'm not a mind reader. And she needs to not order me around like I'm a child. These are things that were never issues pre marriage...
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981678&forum_id=2#36087966)
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Date: May 20th, 2018 7:56 AM Author: Floppy cruel-hearted stain
I assumed this was common board knowledge
Consuela got a chick knocked up then married her. Around the same period he was also running a highly desperate and elaborate yet incompetent sock puppet scheme that still stands as one of the greatest markers of delusion and mental illness on xo.
So these marital issues really came out of left field is what I'm saying.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981678&forum_id=2#36089119) |
Date: May 20th, 2018 7:54 AM Author: Floppy cruel-hearted stain
That's just how women are after a certain period.
Also you guys may be unstable because of the genesis of your marriage (the kid). That changes the dynamic because it wasn't really a choice. One or both of you may feel trapped and resentful.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981678&forum_id=2#36089113) |
Date: May 20th, 2018 7:57 AM Author: razzmatazz disturbing resort turdskin
Women get married and think that their husband will change.
Men get married and think that their wife will stay the same.
Both are usually disappointed.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981678&forum_id=2#36089122) |
Date: May 20th, 2018 10:10 AM Author: magenta institution community account
With girls, Nature has had in view what is called in a dramatic sense a “striking effect,” for she endows them for a few years with a richness of beauty and a, fulness of charm at the expense of the rest of their lives; so that they may during these years ensnare the fantasy of a man to such a degree as to make him rush into taking the honourable care of them, in some kind of form, for a lifetime—a step which would not seem sufficiently justified if he only considered the matter. Accordingly, Nature has furnished woman, as she has the rest of her creatures, with the weapons and implements necessary for the protection of her existence and for just the length of time that they will be of service to her; so that Nature has proceeded here with her usual economy. Just as the female ant after coition loses her wings, which then become superfluous, nay, dangerous for breeding purposes, so for the most part does a woman lose her beauty after giving birth to one or two children; and probably for the same reasons.
Then again we find that young girls in their hearts regard their domestic or other affairs as secondary things, if not as a mere jest. Love, conquests, and all that these include, such as dressing, dancing, and so on, they give their serious attention.
Because women in truth exist entirely for the propagation of the race, and their destiny ends here, they live more for the species than for the individual, and in their hearts take the affairs of the species more seriously than those of the individual. This gives to their whole being and character a certain frivolousness, and altogether a certain tendency which is fundamentally different from that of man; and this it is which develops that discord in married life which is so prevalent and almost the normal state.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981678&forum_id=2#36089381) |
Date: May 20th, 2018 10:20 AM Author: beady-eyed native personal credit line
once women have kids, most don't care about their husbands other than as a resource for them and their children. everything switches to raising their kids. men are just there for money, protection, and manual labor around the house.
it's sort of like the female spider eating the male after copulation. the male is now just an energy source for the female and her offspring.
now, of course, in modern society some of this has changed. you have your shrews who are less maternalistic, and don't know how, or want, to do domestic tasks. and you get some, like casey anthony, who still want to live the partying lifestyle, chase men, and resent their kids. so there are exceptions.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981678&forum_id=2#36089404)
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Date: May 20th, 2018 10:36 AM Author: Razzle heaven
It'll get better in a year. Just tell her that she's a great mom at least once a week.
You're both under the most amount of stress you've ever experienced together.
Do the occasional nice splurge for her like a spa afternoon. Don't be afraid to do the same for yourself and leave for an afternoon to go see a movie or go to a driving range.
Practice self-care on yourself and each other. If she's open to therapy, pay for a few sessions. What you're describing is possibly post-partum and it often presents as a bitchy wife rather than a sad one.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3981678&forum_id=2#36089459) |
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