I’m a 21 year old woman and I’ve chosen to stop “dating” for a while. I’ve done one night stands, fwb, casual sex, post provocative pictures on social media, etc. I’m an attention seeker. I like the attention of guys. And then I end up “hurt”. I’m an example of “used and abused”. I’ve also played with someone’s feelings thinking it was normal. I’ve met my fair share of guys/men from really sweet and caring to desperately sexual and narcissistic. I don’t know what’s up with humans liking things/people that seem impossible to get. Anyway, I’m done with dating. It’s not even dating anymore. I used to try to get to know people and be vulnerable only to get rejected or ghosted after asking “hey, let’s hangout?” or having deep conversations. After many rejections, I figured out the only way I’d get acceptance from someone was if I was down to fuck. All my toxic behaviors have brought nothing productive into my life and have led to who I am today. Yeah, anyone can call me “beautiful”, “pretty”, “hot”, or anything they’d like but my self esteem is critically low. I chose to not value my self worth for the longest time. Today, I made the biggest improvement on myself. I’ve been talking to random guys from tinder or networking (from other friends or guys) all summer long. First dates, how’d they go? Sex, sex, sex. But today was different. These strangers don’t fulfill me. I’m looking ahead at my future, for a better me. I have to learn to be alone and not be codependent. I have to learn how to love myself so my light can benefit others. I have to learn to slow things down and be patient. Today, I removed the contacts I didn’t want anymore. I don’t recommend ghosting but in this case, it sounds reasonable. These guys are selfish, which makes them human. It’s understandable. Their lives will be better off without me and viceversa. To all the young people dating because you don’t like being alone or love the attention, stop and reflect. You’re worth more than a simple fuck and deserve cheerleaders who will support and enhance your life. How will your low self esteem transform into confidence if you allow yourself to be manipulated, gaslighted, used??? You’re your own best friend in this lifetime, why hurt your bestie? Deep down, I know anyone who suffers from low self esteem is always looking for the ideal man/woman. You create your reality, so say goodbye to toxic dating behaviors you keep repeating over and over again. Go explore the world, educate yourself, become independent so you won’t depend on anyone! Learn to be confident to attract potentials and once you’re ok on your own, a simple rejection won’t bother you.

Goodbye to dating for a while until I get my shit straightened out.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4347433&forum_id=2#38861171)

I didn't even like being touched by them half the time. I was recovering from being raped in high school and I had this strange reaction to it where all I wanted to do was be around men. But I would tense up and not even like it while sex was happening. And I kept doing it, like an insane weirdo.

Like if any women legitimately enjoy being promiscuous more power to them. No hate. I'm not saying all women need to be modest or anything. But on my end, it sucked. Male attention didn't make me happy. It was just that I thought it would. It was just that at the time, I thought being alone and sad sucked more.

I didn't date for about two years and it was the best thing I ever did. I was a completely different person once I got rid of the need for male validation (mostly-I'm sure it's still in there somewhere, but it doesn't control my life anymore).

You are making the right choice and you are going to thank yourself for this one day <3 It might be tough to go cold-turkey. What helped me was joining a church. That might not be your thing, but it was something else to throw myself into completely. You probably have to find something to substitute boy-chasing, because when you stop cold-turkey there are a lot of hours in the day to fill.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4347433&forum_id=2#38861293)

charles and other christmos: she's waiting to meet you

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4347433&forum_id=2#38861295)

after 3 years of abstinence, she comes to u

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4347433&forum_id=2#38861326)

lmao im picturing this tubby birdbrain in a sweatshirt in her church basement at some AA type meeting where she talks about how she couldnt put down the COCK

fucking cartoon world lol

these are all really sad though whoredom emotionally and mentally damages women and they never really think a whole lot before they jump into it

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4347433&forum_id=2#38861321)

she's just the right age for an unsuspecting xo pos

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4347433&forum_id=2#38861342)

also this is only happening because these chicks are getting pounded out by desperate/insecure/low confidence dudes who are better looking than anyone who would hit on her in person

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4347433&forum_id=2#38861352)

this is perfect

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4347433&forum_id=2#38861387)

most people are objects that slide along whatever path of least resistance is presented before them. today, there's never been such a perfect confluence of forces guiding them towards being cumdump fuckmeat for methheads in cemetaries.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4347433&forum_id=2#38861424)

just like the entire industrial/scientific complex could be construed as getting fried chicken into the mouths of obese nigs, the cultural framework of modern day america could be seen as stuffing strange cocks into broken shrew vaginas

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4347433&forum_id=2#38861502)

>> I used to try to get to know people and be vulnerable only to get rejected or ghosted after asking “hey, let’s hangout?” or having deep conversations. After many rejections, I figured out the only way I’d get acceptance from someone was if I was down to fuck. <<

>> Yeah, anyone can call me “beautiful”, “pretty”, “hot”, or anything they’d like but my self esteem is critically low. I chose to not value my self worth for the longest time. <<

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She's wrong about all of this, except the first sentence.

Her problem is that she's OVERVALUING herself. She's admitting that she's going after guys who have a market value that is too high for her, and thus the only way she can get their attention is to throw sex at them. And we all know guys will have sex with low value girls.

But sex doesn't keep most guys into low value girls. So her low self-esteem is really a function of her not knowing where she stands in the market, using sex to get guys who are higher value, and then feeling like shit when those guys reject her because they got what they wanted. It must be like how AA admits feel when they delude themselves into thinking they belong at a top college, only to feel like shit when they get a 2.8 first semester at Yale.

So now she has to recalibrate her expectations, but that is a midfuck and sucks, and it's also bad for the guy she ends up getting into a relationship with, because down the road she's always going to *feel like* she can still get higher value guys, but her pea brain again won't realize it's only for sex and fleeting.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4347433&forum_id=2#38861417)

plenty of buckwild women have been liberated under the new paradigm. and it has certainly benefited mediocre women who are now able to "date up" without first having gotten blown out

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4347433&forum_id=2#38861813)

if modern dating has demoralized and neutered the vast majority of men, this makes it much easier for a chick to date up and marry up. and indeed you see many such instances.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4347433&forum_id=2#38862767)

Even chicks who are like 5'4 225 lbs can easily get laid whenever they want because so many men are so pussy hungry that they'll fuck nearly anyone with a vagina. It's pretty pathetic.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4347433&forum_id=2#38861845)