My husband (28M) and I (24F) have been together for 6 years and married for almost 2 years. He used to go crazy for me when we were dating, he couldn't stop doing and talking sexual things with me and I enjoyed it we didn't go all the way before marriage and kept it for marriage. So I thought we were going to have amazing sex together when married but I was so wrong... The first months of our marriage was the worst. We had sex like once or twice a month as a newly wed young couple. I thought it's okay maybe we both need some time to get used to it. But it never improved.

Usually, we have sex like once a week and it is not enough for me and I don't enjoy it, for some reason I also know it is not enough for him too. I feel like he's holding himself back and doesn't let himself go. When I dress up y'know with sexy lingeries he barely makes any reaction and one time he even laughed and asked "why are you wearing this? "when I surprised him with lingerie at the door. Oh I felt so stupid and humiliated.

One time I gathered all my courage and asked him the reason why, he said "I don't know, you're too pure in my eyes, you're too innocent like an angel, like a baby. I love you as if you're my baby girl. I cherish you so much and I'm afraid of hurting you. When we're doing it, I feel like I'm doing something bad to you." Exactly his words.

Some time later, we had a fight he said that he doesn't see me as a woman and rather like his daughter. To him, it's because I'm too naive and fragile. He even said that I have no confidence and I look like a loser sometimes from the outside.

What he said was true to some extent, I've always been a "good girl" and calm, and easy-going with everyone. I'm an introvert and I don't enjoy talking to everyone as if we are besties, but he is an extrovert and easily talks to everyone at first sight and everyone loves him but me, I'm the quiet, weird girl beside him. And since, I'm lacking social skills, I've always thought I'm not confident. Anyways, then I decided to change, I got into therapy and trying to be more confident and talkative and not trying to be "a good girl" anymore. And yes I've changed, even people around us noticed my energy was different.

So, I've changed but our intimacy still hasn't changed and I feel like accepting the fact that our sexual life will not be fun and satisfying ever and stop trying hard for him.

I also noticed he tends to only feel lust to me is when he imagines me with other men. I don't mind this kind of kinks but it' feels weird when it's the only time he feels lust and perform better while doing it. Is this normal among men? What do you think about my situation and what would you suggest?

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Talk about burying the lead

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