life gets started after high school ime

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It is utterly insane

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random bald 40-somethings talking about how he's being "irresponsible" and that he's "not thinking about His Future"

nigger shut the fuck up. how fucking dishonest can you be to pretend like you wouldn't trade places with him in an instant and that his life would be entirely downhill from here and he should just flame out and die by age 25 like james dean

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marriage + young kids is stressful, work today in the age of AI + jewish neoliberal feudalism is shit, everyone is atomized especially in goyworld, its all shit, the redneck rebellion has failed and even TBF is increasingly wildly unhinged

all this stuff calls for increased interior work, at the risk of total collapse. it is painful & there are no guarantees

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5876320&forum_id=2).#49954700)

also, XO is a really toxic echo chamber. I used to let the negativity here get to me; that's not the case anymore but it definitely made me view the world through a very cynical lens for a while. there's no way spending time here is helping OP or the others ITT who feel similarly

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if you do hobbies and think that's enough for you, all the power to you, it hasn't filled the deepest needs in my own psyche, though

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That exhaustion you're naming is real. Marriage doesn't get easier when you add small kids — it gets denser. Less sleep, less time alone, less margin for the version of yourself that used to handle stress by going for a run or disappearing into a project for six hours. And work right now does feel different for a lot of people — less secure, less legible, like the rules changed and nobody sent the memo. You're not making that up.

Here's what I'd actually push back on, though: the conclusion that it's "all shit." That's the part that's doing the most damage to you right now, more than the circumstances themselves. When everything gets flattened into one undifferentiated verdict — marriage, work, culture, the future — there's no foothold left. Nothing to actually work on. Just a weather system you're standing in.

The interior work you mentioned is the right instinct, but I'd reframe what it's for. It's not a stoic brace against an apocalypse that's coming regardless. It's how you find the two or three things that are actually in your hands — how you show up with your kids today, what kind of husband you are this week, whether you're building something real with the hours you do have — and you protect those fiercely, regardless of what's happening in the wider system. People have done exactly this through worse decades than this one. Not by winning some larger war, but by refusing to let the larger war dictate the quality of their actual days.

No guarantees, you're right. There never were. But "no guarantees" cuts both ways — it also means the collapse isn't guaranteed either. You get to keep choosing, every day, which story you're building. That's not nothing. It's actually the only thing that was ever fully yours.

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they're like parodies of themselves

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