Not the A-hole

I (22F) am working as a Home Health Aid. I started working in December and all my patients and their families have been wonderful people. In February I've been working more at the nursing homes than an actual homes. I've been to three nursing homes and I noticed something about the CNAs. Two of the nursing homes assured me that it is the CNA's job to change the patients' diapers, give them bed baths, change their dressings, change them, etc. The only thing I do is feed and chat with them. I do feel bad that I'm basically getting paid to sit down and do nothing most of the time. But all the CNAs in both nursing homes assured me that it's THEIR jobs to do the heavy work. They and my patients assured me to just relax and chat with the patients. I even had to do an in-service about nursing homes and they told us that it's the CNA that will do most of the work. So that's what I've been doing. Recently I got assigned to another patient in another nursing home. This new patient is a no nonsense lady who wants stuff done exactly as she wants it to. I managed to earn her respect after couple of days of meeting and I eventually love to chat with her. Recently she's been urinating during my shift and she tells me to get the CNA to change her diaper. I did just that and went to the nearest CNA to tell them about the patient. They told me it was my job to change her diaper. Since I'm not a confrontational person to strangers, I just went back to her room and told her what the CNA said. My patient scuff and begin to curse under her breath, mainly calling them "lazy bitches" and "heartless whores who never visit her room" She told me that she knows it's not my job to do that, so she said I don't have to do it and that she'll call them after my shift is over. (My shift with her is from 2-5 and she peed around 4:40, so I guess she wear the wet diaper for 20 minutes) The next day my patient told me she teared them a new one and call them every name in the book while smirking at me. I was somewhat horrified because I felt they didn't deserved to be cursed out like that. But she assured me they had it coming because they never do their jobs and all they do is hang out to the dining room to watch TV. For the rest of my shift, I can feel all the CNAs giving me the stink eye and they still do every time I come back. She also tells me that when she wets herself, she keeps it to herself after I go home. I felt if I had changed her diaper that day, then I wouldn't feel so awkward about it.

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