My [32F] close friend [29F, call her Lana] who I rarely get to see (she lives in CA now) came to visit from out of town. She's a very kind, sweet friend. She's also a very pretty asian girl who gets quite a bit of attention from men.

The only day/time she was able to fly in, I would be wrapping up an important on-site work event. But my husband [35M] was on PTO that day, so I asked Lana if she'd be ok with him picking her up at the airport and bringing her back to our house. She'd just have to wait for ~1.5 hours with my husband and dog while I finished up work.

Husband agreed, and Lana was grateful.

When I finally got home, Lana and I were going to get some drinks and catch up at this cute little speakeasy near my house. She told me she had the best review of my husband to give me.

I asked, what did he do?

She said he was such a gentleman. When he picked her up at the airport, he immediately got out of the car, took her luggage from her, opened her passenger door, told her to get in, made sure she was comfortable, closed her door for her, then he took her luggage back to the trunk and loaded it.

She said, by comparison, when her boyfriend picks her up at the airport, he just pops the trunk when he sees her walking up.

When she got in the car, she realized he had gotten her Starbucks. She told him that's so sweet, he didn't have to do that. He told her it was no problem, he figured she might want some coffee after such a long flight.

But the drink he had gotten her was a flat white, which is her favorite drink (she's been obsessed with them since college). She asked him, "How did you know I like this?? Did your wife tell you?"

He said he remembered she had mentioned liking them once at a dinner we were all at 3 years ago.

When they got home, he asked her if she was hungry. She said she was very hungry, but would grab something to-go later when I got back.

He said nonsense and offered to make her something. She said, "please no, I don't want to trouble you, I can eat later!" He asked her what she would pick up later? She said pasta. He said, I can make pasta right now and went into the kitchen.

He made her homemade red sauce pasta and served it to her. (She said it was delicious.) He asked if she wanted a glass of sangria and poured it for her. He then also gave her a cherry dr pepper zero without asking. We have basically every flavor of zero soda in our fridge, but that is her favorite. She didn't ask how he knew that (or if it was a coincidence), and I'm not sure either.

She said I did well, and he's one of the good ones! A+

He does cook for me sometimes when planned and does nice things, and he is a nice guy overall. This just seems, kind of, IDK romantic.

How can I handle this? How do I talk to my husband about it? Any advice here would be appreciated.

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this is extremely high level work

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