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Would you date someone from a working class family?
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Date: November 28th, 2012 11:04 PM Author: provocative overrated space Let's say the person is smart, hard-working, successful. But their parents are working class - not bright, not successful, embarrassing. He/she distances herself from them.
Would you date? Or the person is too prole? |
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Date: November 29th, 2012 12:03 AM Author: wild turquoise spot Too prole. Too different. And prole is a huge turnoff. Just being honest here. It would be very difficult. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2125077&forum_id=2#22131789) |
Date: November 28th, 2012 11:04 PM Author: brindle hateful range Of course. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2125077&forum_id=2#22131042) |
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Date: November 28th, 2012 11:05 PM Author: spectacular vermilion state friendly grandma Sure. The more interesting question is would you do it if the person is not particularly smart, hard-working or successful. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2125077&forum_id=2#22131049) |
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Date: November 28th, 2012 11:07 PM Author: rebellious purple church I would be appalled by her condescension toward her family. If someone I date is on poor terms with her family, it had better be because of mistreatment on the part of the family, not because she looks down on them for being "not bright" and "embarrassing".
This thread lends credence to the idea that you don't get dates because you have an awful personality. |
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Date: November 28th, 2012 11:14 PM Author: rebellious purple church (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2125077&forum_id=2#22131148) |
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Date: November 28th, 2012 11:26 PM Author: glassy legend theater Where do you live? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2125077&forum_id=2#22131328) |
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Date: November 28th, 2012 11:27 PM Author: passionate fortuitous meteor ewww (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2125077&forum_id=2#22131342) |
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Date: November 28th, 2012 11:40 PM Author: 180 Geriatric Crotch In the example you gave there are two things wrong with this girl. One is a moral flaw, the other is my aesthetic preference. The first flaw is that she disdains her family for not being of a higher socioeconomic status. There are many reasons for one not to relate to one's family, but if they are nothing but lovely to you and the only thing that they did "wrong" is not being preftigious enough, that's kind of assholish on the part of the child. It's OK to be embarrassed of your family for a variety of reasons, but to view them with complete disdain because they're not good enough for you is bad character.
The second part is the working-class part. I've tried this relationship. It doesn't work. I'm from an upper-middle/lower-upper family and the differences between myself and people of working class origins are too stark to sustain a relationship even beyond a few dates' time. This happens even when I genuinely like the girl and want to spend more time with her, and her proleness doesn't bug me as much as I thought it would.
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Date: November 29th, 2012 12:04 AM Author: disrespectful plaza fanboi Honestly, I would probably have trouble doing so (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2125077&forum_id=2#22131806) |
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Date: November 29th, 2012 12:07 AM Author: wild turquoise spot I think it would unfortunately be very difficult for everyone who wasn't prole themselves. Even for a child of educated middle class parents. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2125077&forum_id=2#22131837) |
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Date: November 29th, 2012 12:08 AM Author: provocative overrated space why? i don't get it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2125077&forum_id=2#22131847) |
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Date: November 29th, 2012 12:14 AM Author: wild turquoise spot It's a fundamental difference in attitude, outlook and expectations. The "socio" component of "socioeconomic" is much more important than the "economic" component, although the latter can be a factor if a lack of funds prevents one from sharing in certain experiences and having a certain frame of reference.
Once you get to the middle-middle class, you begin to see that attending a 4-year university is expected of you, and you will be a disappointment to your family if you do not at least get into the local state U. You're expected to get a job which requires some degree of professional skills. You're high up enough Maslow's hierarchy of needs such that your high school and college concerns involve hoping your team qualifies for State, cramming for your trigonometry exam, who to take with you to prom and getting a good SAT tutor.
Blue collar kids have to struggle with teenage pregnancies, working jobs out of necessity, not having enough to even afford college, let alone SAT tutors, and sometimes staying out of trouble with the law.
It's lowered expectations. |
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Date: November 29th, 2012 1:08 AM Author: Fragrant Wine Base (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2125077&forum_id=2#22132278) |
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Date: November 29th, 2012 1:10 AM Author: wild turquoise spot I think doods have more pressure put on them to marry someone acceptable, because that girl will be brought into the family.
Girls are more concerned with money - if a guy from a working class background has a lot of money now, a lot of girls won't care about his working class background.
I know that a lot more doods than girls care about background as opposed to where someone is currently in life. |
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Date: November 29th, 2012 1:10 AM Author: Medicated Chad Yarmulke you sound like a wonderful person (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2125077&forum_id=2#22132291) |
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Date: November 29th, 2012 1:13 AM Author: big cheese-eating keepsake machete Yes. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2125077&forum_id=2#22132305) |
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Date: November 29th, 2012 1:14 AM Author: Red painfully honest skinny woman regret shove a shotgun in your mouth and pull the trigger with your big toe gracekelly/ontherun (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2125077&forum_id=2#22132308) |