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Told my gf i don't find her attractive + i'm using her for money

we live together.
Exciting Therapy
  03/07/10
lol pwned
Beady-eyed gunner
  03/07/10
this is bad. very, very bad. if a guy i lived with and love...
adventurous pozpig brethren
  03/07/10
same nothing is as hurtful as a looks-related insult
buck-toothed boyish internal respiration station
  03/07/10
i haven't looked at any of the posts below. you seem like yo...
Soggy lay
  03/07/10
Email makeup: "I'm really sorry honey. How about we...
Razzle-dazzle voyeur digit ratio
  03/07/10
the relationship is most likely over
House-broken Set Famous Landscape Painting
  03/07/10
Yep Edit: Wait, is this some sort of system of negging?
Provocative Domesticated Stead Water Buffalo
  03/07/10
This is dump material. You really fucked up (assuming you do...
Frum brunch mother
  03/07/10
once it crosses over into looks territory it will fester for...
House-broken Set Famous Landscape Painting
  03/07/10
I agree
Frum brunch mother
  03/07/10
I know youre probably right but she shouldn't have challenge...
Aphrodisiac double fault sanctuary
  03/07/10
girls say stupid shit, it's part of the game. if I called m...
House-broken Set Famous Landscape Painting
  03/07/10
it's different because girls are more emotional. you should ...
Frum brunch mother
  03/07/10
they should stop being oversensitive TTTs and grow up
onyx dashing bawdyhouse immigrant
  03/07/10
THERE IS A WAY OUT OF THIS
Provocative Domesticated Stead Water Buffalo
  03/07/10
your fucked radek
Filthy amber striped hyena home
  03/07/10
In your defense, there is nothing more annoying than the &qu...
scarlet locus clown
  03/07/10
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RjF93E4LjlA
House-broken Set Famous Landscape Painting
  03/07/10
you should have just slapped her. if she complained you coul...
salmon headpube
  03/07/10
If you said this to me I'd dump you on the spot, finances be...
cheese-eating stubborn abode
  03/07/10
What if he just shook you? You know, to shake some sense in...
Abnormal temple
  03/07/10
lol
adventurous pozpig brethren
  03/07/10
Tough call. That's still motivated in violence and I still ...
cheese-eating stubborn abode
  03/07/10
" That's still motivated in violence and I still believ...
onyx dashing bawdyhouse immigrant
  03/07/10
I've seen violent relationships where the man was physically...
cheese-eating stubborn abode
  03/07/10
i scale my hits appropriately
onyx dashing bawdyhouse immigrant
  03/07/10
Violence is also "white trash". After I dumped yo...
cheese-eating stubborn abode
  03/07/10
titcp
adventurous pozpig brethren
  03/07/10
i agree with this, but the same should apply to women. if a ...
onyx dashing bawdyhouse immigrant
  03/07/10
I agree that women who hit their men are exhibiting white tr...
cheese-eating stubborn abode
  03/07/10
deterrence
onyx dashing bawdyhouse immigrant
  03/07/10
I would only hit back if she hit me hard enough to hurt me f...
khaki erotic queen of the night becky
  03/07/10
lol
Garnet Diverse Hall
  03/07/10
Women are like children. When they're acting silly and irra...
Abnormal temple
  03/07/10
Did you really say this without meaning a single thing you s...
spruce messiness
  03/07/10
me, too
adventurous pozpig brethren
  03/07/10
He has to believe some of it, at least subconsciously.
spruce messiness
  03/07/10
OP, if you don't actually want to break up, you should be pr...
adventurous pozpig brethren
  03/07/10
Yeah, but if this girl has any shred of self-respect she'd d...
cheese-eating stubborn abode
  03/07/10
This may be true. It's really mean. However, if they are s...
adventurous pozpig brethren
  03/07/10
"However, if they are supposedly in love and have been ...
cheese-eating stubborn abode
  03/07/10
yeah
adventurous pozpig brethren
  03/07/10
i don't usually like to throw stones in glass houses, but ma...
shaky whorehouse corn cake
  03/07/10
Love your moniker.
spruce messiness
  03/07/10
you basically just told her she should diet a little. seems...
Exhilarant depressive stage
  03/07/10
lol
appetizing gaped base trump supporter
  03/07/10
You need to proactively apologize WITH some excuse that expl...
Fluffy crimson tank
  03/07/10
the problem is that she looks fat right now. she can fix th...
Exhilarant depressive stage
  03/07/10
why? this girl was in control from the beginning. OP just h...
Razzle-dazzle voyeur digit ratio
  03/07/10
why are you dating a fat woman?
Maize racy windowlicker
  03/07/10
finances Maybe if you could read you wouldn't have gotten...
Very Tactful Community Account
  03/07/10
To be fair, just click EDIT and change what you said.
Trip lake cuckold institution
  03/07/10
Why are you even with her to begin with? Hit it and quit it...
Vivacious Blue Psychic
  03/07/10
When she asks what you have to say for yourself, you have tw...
wine violent circlehead really tough guy
  03/07/10
She's using you for sex and you're using her for money. How...
internet-worthy church mediation
  03/07/10


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Date: March 7th, 2010 10:11 AM
Author: Exciting Therapy
Subject: we live together.

She's been a general bitch all weekend. this morning she makes some bitch remark about me not "knowing how to be a man" because I told her to turn down the noise in the living room while I was trying to sleep last night (I have work I have to do today).

I waited for a while and then made a comment like "I've already decided I want out at year's end." and she was like "why are you still with me then?" and I said "finances." then I said "i haven't been attracted to you for a while, you've really let yourself go and are eating whatever you want."

She hasn't said a word to me in response for over an hour.

HOW FUCKED? I was just pissed and trying to get revenge. I know I went way overboard. FUCK.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320304)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 10:44 AM
Author: Beady-eyed gunner

lol pwned

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320408)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:15 PM
Author: adventurous pozpig brethren

this is bad. very, very bad. if a guy i lived with and loved said this to me, i would forever in the future be convinced that this is how he really felt. i would never trust in his affection for me again. why the fuck would you purposely say something so hurtful if you did not mean it?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320764)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 3:15 PM
Author: buck-toothed boyish internal respiration station

same

nothing is as hurtful as a looks-related insult

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14322514)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 2:35 PM
Author: Soggy lay

i haven't looked at any of the posts below. you seem like you really have some deep anger and resentment towards her.

if you really loved her you wouldn't make a snide remark about "eating whatever you want," you would instead ask her to go to an exercise class with you.

you're an asshole.

edit: you should have told her, "i don't date sociology majors"

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14322177)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 2:41 PM
Author: Razzle-dazzle voyeur digit ratio

Email makeup:

"I'm really sorry honey. How about we go to Friendly's you get two or three desserts and we forget this ever happened? Can you sport a little dough? my stash is getting a little low. Love you!"



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14322228)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 10:18 AM
Author: House-broken Set Famous Landscape Painting

the relationship is most likely over

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320323)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 10:19 AM
Author: Provocative Domesticated Stead Water Buffalo

Yep

Edit: Wait, is this some sort of system of negging?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320329)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 10:20 AM
Author: Frum brunch mother

This is dump material. You really fucked up (assuming you do not want to break up with her).

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320332)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 10:21 AM
Author: House-broken Set Famous Landscape Painting

once it crosses over into looks territory it will fester forever, even if they get past it initially. girls don't forget this shit and prolonging the relationship will make it even worse in the end

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320337)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 10:22 AM
Author: Frum brunch mother

I agree

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320340)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 10:23 AM
Author: Aphrodisiac double fault sanctuary

I know youre probably right but she shouldn't have challenged manhood. Girl kinda had it coming.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320344)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 10:27 AM
Author: House-broken Set Famous Landscape Painting

girls say stupid shit, it's part of the game. if I called my ex-gfs fat every time they said something stupid and irrational we would have broken up hundreds of times

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320354)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 10:36 AM
Author: Frum brunch mother

it's different because girls are more emotional. you should put up with some of this and try to be a man about it. if it makes you feel better you get to deride women as weak and irrational to other men when you do this.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320379)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:28 PM
Author: onyx dashing bawdyhouse immigrant

they should stop being oversensitive TTTs and grow up

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320830)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 10:25 AM
Author: Provocative Domesticated Stead Water Buffalo

THERE IS A WAY OUT OF THIS

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320348)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 10:37 AM
Author: Filthy amber striped hyena home

your fucked radek

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320384)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 10:39 AM
Author: scarlet locus clown

In your defense, there is nothing more annoying than the "be a man" argument in totally inapplicable situations.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320389)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 10:43 AM
Author: House-broken Set Famous Landscape Painting

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RjF93E4LjlA

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320404)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:25 PM
Author: salmon headpube

you should have just slapped her. if she complained you could have responded that you were being a man for her.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320818)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:35 PM
Author: cheese-eating stubborn abode

If you said this to me I'd dump you on the spot, finances be damned. Same goes if you slapped me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320860)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:37 PM
Author: Abnormal temple

What if he just shook you? You know, to shake some sense into you?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320869)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:38 PM
Author: adventurous pozpig brethren

lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320874)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:39 PM
Author: cheese-eating stubborn abode

Tough call. That's still motivated in violence and I still believe in the double standard of violence (i.e. women can slap/shake their men but not the other way around) because men are so much stronger than women and can inflict much more physical damage without knowing.

It depends on the context of the shake and how violent or scary he was being otherwise.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320884)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:42 PM
Author: onyx dashing bawdyhouse immigrant

" That's still motivated in violence and I still believe in the double standard of violence (i.e. women can slap/shake their men but not the other way around) because men are so much stronger than women and can inflict much more physical damage without knowing. "

if my gf said this to me i'd punch her in the fucking face

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320918)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:45 PM
Author: cheese-eating stubborn abode

I've seen violent relationships where the man was physically violent to the woman. If a girl punched you she probably wouldn't be able to do much damage. If a guy punched me it could kill me. I don't know many men who would be physically frightened by a girl who threatened to slap them but I am darn afraid of male violence.

A man can do much more damage to a woman than a woman can to a man. That's not to say that slapping a boyfriend isn't wrong on other levels or that female-on-male physical abuse isn't a serious issue.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320942)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:46 PM
Author: onyx dashing bawdyhouse immigrant

i scale my hits appropriately

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320956)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:50 PM
Author: cheese-eating stubborn abode

Violence is also "white trash". After I dumped you for punching me I'd tell all of my friends what happened and they'd think you were a pile of classless trash and we'd laugh about you behind your back.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320989)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:52 PM
Author: adventurous pozpig brethren

titcp

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14321006)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 1:06 PM
Author: onyx dashing bawdyhouse immigrant

i agree with this, but the same should apply to women. if a woman attacks me i'm going to hit back

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14321148)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 1:12 PM
Author: cheese-eating stubborn abode

I agree that women who hit their men are exhibiting white trash tendencies, but why hit back?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14321221)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 1:13 PM
Author: onyx dashing bawdyhouse immigrant

deterrence

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14321235)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 2:53 PM
Author: khaki erotic queen of the night becky

I would only hit back if she hit me hard enough to hurt me for real...like injure me or leave a permanent mark or something. Violence is not ok from women either though and I'd probably leave on the spot.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14322307)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:52 PM
Author: Garnet Diverse Hall

lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14321007)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:42 PM
Author: Abnormal temple

Women are like children. When they're acting silly and irrational, it's necessary to bring them to their senses either physically (via shaking or slapping) or yelling at them. I'm not a yeller so pinning her down then grabbing her shoulders and shaking works best for me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320921)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:39 PM
Author: spruce messiness

Did you really say this without meaning a single thing you said? I find it hard to believe.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320883)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:40 PM
Author: adventurous pozpig brethren

me, too

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320890)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:42 PM
Author: spruce messiness

He has to believe some of it, at least subconsciously.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320913)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:40 PM
Author: adventurous pozpig brethren

OP, if you don't actually want to break up, you should be proactive and apologize, and tell her that you DID NOT REALLY MEAN THESE THINGS. make this very clear. even if you don't apologize for getting mad at her for being a bitch, tell her that you did not mean what you said BEFORE she asks you about it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320888)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:41 PM
Author: cheese-eating stubborn abode

Yeah, but if this girl has any shred of self-respect she'd dump him. Once a guy calls into question his attraction to me I have no security in the relationship and I'd assume he's already begun to look for strange on the side.

I can understand going overboard during an argument but there's some reason why the OP went overboard in this fashion (i.e. "I'm not attracted to you") and not in some other.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320906)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:43 PM
Author: adventurous pozpig brethren

This may be true. It's really mean. However, if they are supposedly in love and have been together for a long time without this kind of nastiness, it could potentially be forgivable. Sounds like a shitty relationship, though. I never would have said this to one of my exes other than the shitty one I started to hate before we broke up, and would have been heartbroken if one said such a thing to me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320926)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:49 PM
Author: cheese-eating stubborn abode

"However, if they are supposedly in love and have been together for a long time without this kind of nastiness, it could potentially be forgivable."

I could see this, but the OP has to do some epic apologizin'.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320978)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:50 PM
Author: adventurous pozpig brethren

yeah

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320984)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:45 PM
Author: shaky whorehouse corn cake

i don't usually like to throw stones in glass houses, but man, you sound like a real cocksucker

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320944)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 12:46 PM
Author: spruce messiness

Love your moniker.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14320951)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 1:00 PM
Author: Exhilarant depressive stage

you basically just told her she should diet a little. seems like nbd

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14321070)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 2:55 PM
Author: appetizing gaped base trump supporter

lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14322322)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 1:11 PM
Author: Fluffy crimson tank

You need to proactively apologize WITH some excuse that explains how you could say such a thing without meaning it. Like "I was really angry, and a girl once told me that was the meanest thing you could say to your girlfriend, and I just blurted it out without thinking." Or, like, "my dad used to say that to my mom when he got angry."

And then you have to cry and tell her you want to work on controlling your temper.

The relationship has 0% chance of surviving unless you can basically convince her your reason for saying what you did had nothing to do with the way she looks.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14321206)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 1:14 PM
Author: Exhilarant depressive stage

the problem is that she looks fat right now. she can fix that by watching what she eats

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14321250)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 2:26 PM
Author: Razzle-dazzle voyeur digit ratio

why? this girl was in control from the beginning. OP just hastened the inevitable.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14322075)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 1:15 PM
Author: Maize racy windowlicker

why are you dating a fat woman?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14321257)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 2:30 PM
Author: Very Tactful Community Account

finances

Maybe if you could read you wouldn't have gotten lathamed.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14322121)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 2:33 PM
Author: Trip lake cuckold institution

To be fair, just click EDIT and change what you said.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14322144)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 2:48 PM
Author: Vivacious Blue Psychic

Why are you even with her to begin with? Hit it and quit it. The fact that you are worried about the fact she may leave you shows you are weak. Man up dood.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14322277)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 2:51 PM
Author: wine violent circlehead really tough guy

When she asks what you have to say for yourself, you have two options:

1. I did it for teh lulz

2. DAT GREY POUUUPPONNNN1!!!111

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14322296)



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Date: March 7th, 2010 2:53 PM
Author: internet-worthy church mediation

She's using you for sex and you're using her for money. How does it feel to be a bitch?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1243541&forum_id=2#14322309)