Date: May 13th, 2004 3:31 PM Author: gaped coldplay fan immigrant Subject: Did I Cheat on My Wife?
I am morally torn. I'm married and I've gone to strip joints about 12 times in my life all while I was married, usually with a group of friends. 3 of those times, I came while getting lap dances. I was shocked the first time it happened...didn't think it could. The stripper let me grab everything and she said it was ok for me to cum. Since that first time, I want to cum every time I get lap dances. I've only been to 1 strip joint in the last two years, but I did cum. I feel rotten about it, but I still want to go back for more. Is it common for people to cum during lab dances and is this equivalent to cheating? I don't think it's cheating if you go to strip joints and just watch. But, when there's grabbing and hard grinding and cumming involved, I think I've crossed the line.
Date: May 13th, 2004 3:33 PM Author: ungodly theater
"I don't think it's cheating if you go to strip joints and just watch. But, when there's grabbing and hard grinding and cumming involved, I think I've crossed the line."
Date: May 13th, 2004 6:02 PM Author: Pale concupiscible trailer park
I depends on the guy. One of my buddies comes in his pants after two minutes of a lap dance. On the other hand, I have trouble even getting up for those whores.
Date: May 13th, 2004 3:40 PM Author: gaped coldplay fan immigrant
What's a merkin? Slacks, I found out are preferred by the strips because it allows them to grind with little pain. Jeans on the other hand hurts them if they grind too hard. Seriously guys, the strip joints in LA are crazy.
Date: May 13th, 2004 3:47 PM Author: gaped coldplay fan immigrant
Yes, that's what a lap dance is, at least in LA anyway. Why is it hard to believe that you can cum when a beautiful naked women is rubbing herself against your dick while you are grabbing her ass and tits? I am a fucken cheater.
Date: May 13th, 2004 3:51 PM Author: gaped coldplay fan immigrant
sugary, it's hard though. I don't want to go, and I haven't in a couple of years, but I always want to. I usually give in when my friends all get together for a birthday or something and we end up at a strip joint.
Date: May 13th, 2004 3:56 PM Author: Talking at-the-ready center coffee pot
dude, it doens't seem that hard, I think you need to grow a pair, in more ways than one.
edit: that sounds meaner than what i mean. You have to stop, so you shoudl, i know it's not easy, but if you want to be a good husband really you have no other choice. (unless you can get her to say it's ok).
Date: May 13th, 2004 4:00 PM Author: sick trip ceo potus
I wouldnt have a problem with my husband *shudder* doing to strip clubs. But if she is rubbing up on him (or doing anything else to him) hard enough to get him off, I would be hurt.
Date: May 13th, 2004 3:57 PM Author: gaped coldplay fan immigrant
I think that's what I will do next time I go. And yes, there will be a next time. I will try to stay away from the lap dances but the women are very good at seducing/guilting you into several lap dances.
Date: May 13th, 2004 4:02 PM Author: gaped coldplay fan immigrant
It's hard to explain, but when you get together with friends, sometimes it just happens. There have been many occasions when I decline their invitations, but sometimes I give in. Like I said, I've only gone once in the last 2 years. And yes, I agree that I should avoid strip clubs.
Date: May 13th, 2004 4:03 PM Author: Hairraiser house
It's obvious you're gonna have trouble staying faithful in the long run. You might as well get a little more satisfaction for your money. I'd recommend looking into an internet escort. Here's a good place to start: www.theeroticreview.com
Date: May 13th, 2004 5:21 PM Author: gaped coldplay fan immigrant
part of the reason I raise this question about cheating is that my friends have arranged to celebrate my acceptance to law school by taking me to a strip club. What I hear you all saying is that it's not cheating to go to a strip club, but it's cheating if I get lap dances that lead to me cumming. I can't change what has happened in the past, but I can make sure I stay away from the lap dances next weekend. Wish me luck!
Date: May 13th, 2004 5:32 PM Author: Walnut field becky
does it really matter whether or not you term it "cheating"? even if you dont consider what you did to be "adultery," the point is that you had a naked woman grinding you while you groped her tits. even if you never came, thats still pretty fucking wrong.
Date: May 13th, 2004 5:51 PM Author: gaped coldplay fan immigrant
Yah, you're right rock-me Elle. I really didn't have a problem with lap dances per se, except that they led to the jizzing part. However, you bring up a good point that I need to think about. Anyway, my goal is to make sure I decline all the lap dance offers.
Date: May 13th, 2004 5:55 PM Author: gaped coldplay fan immigrant
Yah, any of the strip joints in the City of Industry or the Spearmint Rhino in downtown LA off the 10 fwy (I think). That was the last one I went to about 6 months ago. It definitely is one of the more aggressive ones and the women are very up front with what they will do.
Date: August 31st, 2005 2:46 AM Author: Geriatric charismatic institution degenerate
I like how we use cheating as a magical category in which we can jam phone sex, kissing, dirty dancing, "anything you wouldn't want her to know," whatever. Truth is this the OP isn't the most faithful guy around, but he ain't the least, either. This is probably less serious than an office flirtation + kiss.