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Today is the day I was going to propose to my future wife

I had been dating the same girl for 7.5 years. We had a trip...
magenta aromatic theater
  08/04/10
you can't see it, but i'm pointing and laughing.
Exciting macaca mad-dog skullcap
  08/04/10
Fuck you bro
magenta aromatic theater
  08/04/10
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rX7wtNOkuHo
Odious bisexual box office rigpig
  08/04/10
y didnt you just tell her you were planning on proposing in ...
Alcoholic Talented Hominid
  08/04/10
would have been a waste of a potential poast
razzle-dazzle free-loading death wish
  08/04/10
LOL WHAT?
Odious bisexual box office rigpig
  08/04/10
Her reasons for breaking up basically revolved around three ...
magenta aromatic theater
  08/04/10
1 is bullshit. 3 sounds right.
misanthropic charismatic jew party of the first part
  08/04/10
3 is the real reason. She just wanted to fuck around and did...
rambunctious prole juggernaut
  08/04/10
This. If 2 was the real reason, OP could have told her to...
provocative henna philosopher-king foreskin
  08/04/10
She comes from a very traditional family and her mother woul...
magenta aromatic theater
  08/04/10
You fully deserved this then.
Hyperventilating people who are hurt pozpig
  08/04/10
Why do you say that? I just didn't want to be pressured by t...
magenta aromatic theater
  08/04/10
I've been in the girl's position before and eventually dumpe...
provocative henna philosopher-king foreskin
  08/04/10
Really? I posted some more information below. I'm not sure a...
magenta aromatic theater
  08/04/10
omfg i hope this is flame
Indigo preventive strike den
  08/04/10
me too
Sapphire contagious pisswyrm
  08/04/10
Me, too, because it's not particularly poignant or tragic.
Bespoke lemon bawdyhouse
  08/04/10
I haven't told her because I thought it would be pathetic an...
magenta aromatic theater
  08/04/10
she became a woman scorned probably around year 4
sienna halford
  08/04/10
i hope my bf proposes to me this way.
navy resort
  08/04/10
I hope you grow old alone and spiders start living in your v...
Bespoke lemon bawdyhouse
  08/04/10
lol
Odious bisexual box office rigpig
  08/04/10
misery loves company. enjoy being ugly and lonely for the re...
navy resort
  08/04/10
lol
Indigo preventive strike den
  08/04/10
pwned
Marvelous Mental Disorder Stage
  08/04/10
pretty good if this is not cut/paste.
lascivious ticket booth electric furnace
  08/04/10
What is it like dating someone longer than most people are m...
self-centered sticky hell degenerate
  08/04/10
I thought it was great...
magenta aromatic theater
  08/04/10
future wife? you mean ex-gf
Heady cruise ship
  08/04/10
Background: We met freshman year of college. We lived on ...
magenta aromatic theater
  08/04/10
aw hell no. ain't no way this is getting read
wonderful lodge
  08/04/10
i read it. i have trouble believing that a 7.5 year relation...
navy resort
  08/04/10
I believe a lot of long-term relationships end over somethin...
self-centered sticky hell degenerate
  08/04/10
Tl;dr: we tried going to separate graduate schools and doing...
magenta aromatic theater
  08/04/10
lololol
Idiotic Lime Internal Respiration
  08/04/10
bad flame
Sapphire contagious pisswyrm
  08/04/10
What? Why is it so hard to believe people could wait 7.5+ ye...
magenta aromatic theater
  08/04/10
The details sound made up.
Sapphire contagious pisswyrm
  08/04/10
they aren't
Spectacular stain sneaky criminal
  08/04/10
WARNING: THIS IS A FRESH PRINCE OF BEL AIR POST!!
Bespoke lemon bawdyhouse
  08/04/10
If only...
magenta aromatic theater
  08/04/10
ok, my heart's not in it, i just don't have the capacity to ...
Spectacular stain sneaky criminal
  08/04/10
yeah i was pretty sure this was from the interwebs. still fu...
navy resort
  08/04/10
tbf, it's from today, and as far as i can tell, it's real. a...
Spectacular stain sneaky criminal
  08/04/10
No one on XO would call their girlfriend "drop dead gor...
magical mood weed whacker
  08/04/10





Date: August 4th, 2010 10:55 PM
Author: magenta aromatic theater

I had been dating the same girl for 7.5 years. We had a trip planned to go to Europe for three weeks. Today would have been our last day in Paris. I was going to take her to the steps of the Sacre-Cauer and ask a random tourist to take a picture of the two of us with Paris in the background. But, I was going to tell the tourist what was going to happen and to keep taking pictures. Then, while the tourist was taking pictures, I was going to ask my girlfriend to marry me. Unfortunately, she broke up with me a month ago because she couldn't wait any longer. Since then she has started seeing other people.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705315)





Date: August 4th, 2010 10:57 PM
Author: Exciting macaca mad-dog skullcap

you can't see it, but i'm pointing and laughing.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705326)





Date: August 4th, 2010 10:57 PM
Author: magenta aromatic theater

Fuck you bro

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705335)





Date: August 4th, 2010 10:58 PM
Author: Odious bisexual box office rigpig

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rX7wtNOkuHo

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705342)





Date: August 4th, 2010 10:57 PM
Author: Alcoholic Talented Hominid

y didnt you just tell her you were planning on proposing in a month if thats really why she dumped u

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705333)





Date: August 4th, 2010 10:57 PM
Author: razzle-dazzle free-loading death wish

would have been a waste of a potential poast

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705338)





Date: August 4th, 2010 10:58 PM
Author: Odious bisexual box office rigpig

LOL WHAT?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705349)





Date: August 4th, 2010 10:59 PM
Author: magenta aromatic theater

Her reasons for breaking up basically revolved around three things: 1) I never got to know her friends, and that annoyed her, 2) she didn’t think I would ever marry her and that was a problem for her, and 3) she wanted to "have fun."

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705355)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:01 PM
Author: misanthropic charismatic jew party of the first part

1 is bullshit. 3 sounds right.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705395)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:01 PM
Author: rambunctious prole juggernaut

3 is the real reason. She just wanted to fuck around and didnt want to be saddled to ur dick anymore, bro

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705399)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:03 PM
Author: provocative henna philosopher-king foreskin

This.

If 2 was the real reason, OP could have told her to "expect a ring soon" or something like that.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705429)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:04 PM
Author: magenta aromatic theater

She comes from a very traditional family and her mother would pressure her almost every day into breaking up with me because I hadn’t married her yet. It was a more subtle pressure at first, making little comments here and there, but over time it grew into a concerted effort. Its not that her mom didn’t like me, I got along with her parents very well, its just that women want their daughters married and I guess she sensed I wouldn’t do it. Anyway, this got to my ex and she would talk to me about marriage. I kept firm in my position that our futures were too uncertain. To me, and I mean no offense to anyone else, marriage has always been permanent institution (everyone I know comes from families that have been together for 25 years or more). I felt that if we were to get married, the financial pressures caused by our uncertain futures and gigantic debt loads would crumble us. I just kept telling her how much I loved her and how much she meant to me and how I am fully committed to her, but couldn’t risk the chance of being a 20-something divorcee.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705444)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:07 PM
Author: Hyperventilating people who are hurt pozpig

You fully deserved this then.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705478)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:08 PM
Author: magenta aromatic theater

Why do you say that? I just didn't want to be pressured by the debt we both had and have that be the reason our marriage failed.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705504)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:14 PM
Author: provocative henna philosopher-king foreskin

I've been in the girl's position before and eventually dumped the BF for a combination of 2 and 3, although 3 was more like "meet a guy who's just like my BF but is less shy of marriage" than "dating around".

At this point, are you interested in winning her back? There's a decent chance that she still has feelings for you but dumped you because she thought she was wasting her time on someone that would never get her a ring. If you can prove her wrong on that point and do so sooner rather than later (so she doesn't have time to fall for someone else), there's still a good chance you could save this.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705580)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:17 PM
Author: magenta aromatic theater

Really? I posted some more information below. I'm not sure at this point.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705603)





Date: August 4th, 2010 10:58 PM
Author: Indigo preventive strike den

omfg i hope this is flame

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705343)





Date: August 4th, 2010 10:59 PM
Author: Sapphire contagious pisswyrm

me too

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705369)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:01 PM
Author: Bespoke lemon bawdyhouse

Me, too, because it's not particularly poignant or tragic.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705392)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:02 PM
Author: magenta aromatic theater

I haven't told her because I thought it would be pathetic and/or pointless. The fact that she just cut me out of her life so completely and with such deliberate speed really showed that she probably wasn't the girl I should marry anyway.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705410)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:04 PM
Author: sienna halford

she became a woman scorned probably around year 4

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705445)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:03 PM
Author: navy resort

i hope my bf proposes to me this way.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705419)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:04 PM
Author: Bespoke lemon bawdyhouse

I hope you grow old alone and spiders start living in your vagina and crawling out when you sleep.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705436)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:05 PM
Author: Odious bisexual box office rigpig

lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705448)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:06 PM
Author: navy resort

misery loves company. enjoy being ugly and lonely for the rest of your life, you old hag.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705467)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:09 PM
Author: Indigo preventive strike den

lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705519)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:11 PM
Author: Marvelous Mental Disorder Stage

pwned

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705544)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:04 PM
Author: lascivious ticket booth electric furnace

pretty good if this is not cut/paste.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705441)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:05 PM
Author: self-centered sticky hell degenerate

What is it like dating someone longer than most people are married?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705450)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:07 PM
Author: magenta aromatic theater

I thought it was great...

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705485)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:08 PM
Author: Heady cruise ship

future wife? you mean ex-gf

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705502)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:13 PM
Author: magenta aromatic theater

Background:

We met freshman year of college. We lived on the same hall. I fell in love with her the first day I met her. It took her considerably longer. We dated on and off (more on than off) throughout college. During that time, I never really hung out with her friends because she always told them the bad stuff about our relationship, and they hated me. Plus, none of my friends were friends with them, so we never had an opportunity to get along.

After college, she moved to my city, in part, to be with me. Things were great for about a year. Then, she told me she felt that I wasn’t there for her emotionally, and broke up with me. She started dating a minor league baseball player the following weekend. A month later, she realized he was a tool and came back to me. Of course, I was a dick about it and held it against her for a while, but eventually I got over it. Things were pretty amazing for the next 1.5 years. We went through a lot but got along extraordinarily well.

Then, we both went back to graduate school (but at different schools). The first year was hard. I’m not as book smart as she is, so it took me longer to get through my work and I spent pretty much every weekend in the books. During this time, we were both exceptionally busy and she surrounded herself with new friends from her school that I did not know, and never got to know really well because the insane amount of work I had. Despite the level of work, we managed to have dinner together most nights and spend at least one night a weekend together. Sometime in the fall of that year, I sort of became her de facto live in boyfriend. Unfortunately, I didn’t have any money. In fact, I had -$49k to my name. Because she was going to live in that apartment regardless of my presence, I somehow convinced her to let me get by without paying rent. After a short while she got pissed at me about this, but I managed to placate her by buying my own groceries etc. (not to mention always doing chores and whatnot).

The second year of school was even harder for me than the first. I had to focus on getting published in addition to my normal level of school work, so I somehow had even less time than I did before. She, too, had a lot of work, but she also had much more free time than I did. She spent this time with her friends who I still didn’t really know all that well. Although this was a strain, we were still happy, never fought, always had fun together and never really complained about anything.

Then, this summer, we both got jobs at different places. Her job required her to go out every night with 40 people the same age as her and from some of the best schools around the country. My job required me to work 90 hours a week and never have a waking second to myself. Two weeks into this experience, we basically never saw each other anymore. I would come home at 12:15am most nights from work, miserable, hungry and exhausted. She would come home at 12:30am from bars talking about how much fun she was having. I am a little unclear about what her social life entailed because we never talked about it since we never saw each other, but I assume that since our chosen profession skews heavily toward males, it involved many young guys from rich families and ivy league schools hitting on her and impressing her all over the place (by the way, she is drop dead gorgeous). Well, anyway, even though we barely saw each other, we agreed to go to Europe (a long-held dream of ours), and purchased very expensive plane tickets. Afterward, she refused to lift a finger to help plan the trip, so I had that additional burden on top of everything else. A couple weeks later, she wanted me to go to her hometown over Fourth of July, but I couldn’t go because I had to work all weekend. She told me that was the last straw and told me to move out. I protested, claiming the decision was rash, and she said I had to leave so she could have space. Interpreting this (stupidly or not) as her wanting to spend time with other guys without the threat of being caught, I told her that if she went forward with her decision, it was over. Needless to say, she helped me pack my bags.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705562)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:16 PM
Author: wonderful lodge

aw hell no. ain't no way this is getting read

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705596)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:18 PM
Author: navy resort

i read it. i have trouble believing that a 7.5 year relationship would end that way so i'm calling flame.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705620)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:23 PM
Author: self-centered sticky hell degenerate

I believe a lot of long-term relationships end over something small. Why? Because people who drag things out like this don't even like each other anymore and are waiting for that final "YEAH, WELL FUCK YOU!" moment.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705690)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:18 PM
Author: magenta aromatic theater

Tl;dr: we tried going to separate graduate schools and doing the long distance thing, she met some other guys. Guess it didn't work out.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705625)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:20 PM
Author: Idiotic Lime Internal Respiration

lololol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705652)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:17 PM
Author: Sapphire contagious pisswyrm

bad flame

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705608)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:20 PM
Author: magenta aromatic theater

What? Why is it so hard to believe people could wait 7.5+ years to get married? Like I said, we weren't financially ready.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705647)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:23 PM
Author: Sapphire contagious pisswyrm

The details sound made up.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705701)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:27 PM
Author: Spectacular stain sneaky criminal

they aren't

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705740)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:18 PM
Author: Bespoke lemon bawdyhouse

WARNING: THIS IS A FRESH PRINCE OF BEL AIR POST!!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705618)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:21 PM
Author: magenta aromatic theater

If only...

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705664)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:24 PM
Author: Spectacular stain sneaky criminal

ok, my heart's not in it, i just don't have the capacity to flame. it was a true story though:

http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/cxgsb/today_is_the_day_that_i_was_going_to_propose_to/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705706)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:27 PM
Author: navy resort

yeah i was pretty sure this was from the interwebs. still fun to read though.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705747)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:30 PM
Author: Spectacular stain sneaky criminal

tbf, it's from today, and as far as i can tell, it's real. at least it's not old flame.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705776)





Date: August 4th, 2010 11:43 PM
Author: magical mood weed whacker

No one on XO would call their girlfriend "drop dead gorgeous" even if it was true. We're too cynical.

Some random internet beta calling his gf that makes her a 6.5 at best.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1387241&forum_id=2#15705979)