Date: Fri, 4 Apr 2003 14:24:58 +0530

Name: Ashwani Kumar Age: 36 Gender: M Place: Ludhiana (Pb) INDIA

Question: 19

I am 36 year old male and having two kids. One of my friends wants to homosex with me he is also married, but his penis is longer than me. I am also interested with him. Kindly advise me what can I do. Daily he is coming in my office and approaching me for homosex. I need your help.

Answer

The initial thrill vanishes shortly, later many people suffer from severe depression. Some people develop psychological erectile dysfunction, apart from sexually transmitted diseases AND HIV.

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Date: Tue, 1 Apr 2003 11:28:56 +0530

Name: Reshma Shah Age: 31 Gender: F Place: Mumbai

Question: 1

Dear Sir,

I am happily married female with 2 children. I Regularly enjoy anal sex with my husband. And we both enjoy it. My question is if I everyday enjoy anal sex, is there any chance that I loose control from my anus or sphincter muscles? OR IS THERE ANY HARM TO DOING ANAL SEX REGULARLY? PLS. REPLY FAST. Regards,

Reshma Shah.

Answer

No harm in anal sex. Nothing will happen to sphincter muscles.

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Date: Tue, 1 Apr 2003 11:28:56 +0530

Name: pop Age: 26 Gender: F Place:

Question :2

I have married for the last 6 years. We have a 4 yrs baby. My husband is all times excited about sex. Whenever he found free he do sex with me even without my consent. (1) How can I reduce his sexual activities. Secondly for the past few months he is saying me to do anal sex and one day he tried for it but I felt a great pain and refused to do it he became angry. But after some time he again want to do anal sex. (2) By which position anal sex is possible, is it harmful, is there any bleeding after anal sex, will my anus be loose like my vagina. Also my husband wants to put his penis in my mouth in erect position and eject the semen in my mouth. Is there any harm to do this.

Answer

Nothing is bad between husband and wife. Anal sex to be tried very very gently and use lubricant jelly liberally.

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Date: Tue, 1 Apr 2003 11:28:56 +0530

Name: sobha Age: 25 Gender: F Place: kerala

Question :3

Thanks for your answers to all our worries. I am married for more than a year we haven't had intercourse because it is very painful but we reach orgasm thru other ways. My husbands penis is fully covered his head is not exposed But he says he doesn't feel any pain when we tried intercourse few times but it all failed because I was not getting relaxed. I feel pain. so we avoid. Is it alright if my husbands penis is fully covered. or do you think he needs circumcision. I don't think if he will under go a surgery for that. What should I do. I am very depressed about my sexual life. Please answer me

Answer

Both of you should consult a sexologist. He can correct your problem. If your husband needs circumcision , go for it.

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Date: Tue, 1 Apr 2003 11:28:56 +0530

Name: Zafar Age: 25 Gender: M Place: Aurangabad – India

Question: 4

This is my third email. For the last two emails you have not replied me. Please reply me, as I am very much confused. As I am planning to marry my aunt's daughter very shortly. Her age is 17 years. Please advise me if I marry her, will there be any problems in our future life. As I heard that marrying in close relations lead to some bad effects to our coming children. Please reply me. Thanks.Zafar

Answer

Marriage within the close blood relative to be avoided. Babies born out of this type of marriage will have congenital problems in the heart or brain etc..

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Date: Tue, 1 Apr 2003 11:28:56 +0530

Name: semmalar Age: 42 Gender: M Place:

Question: 5

I am married on Aug 1994. I have one male child at the age of 7. And my wife age is now 28. Recently i.e on 27.11.03 gave birth to female child by caesarian and also got sterilisation operation during caesarian. Whether we can have intercourse now? How many months required for her to equip for normal sexual life. Pl clarify.

Answer

After 8 weeks you can resume to normal sex.

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Date: Tue, 1 Apr 2003 11:28:56 +0530

Name: Kavi Age: 23 Gender: F Place:

Question: 6

Dear Dr,

I am writing this question third time to you. Please answer me and clear my doubts. I have married recently. In my first night there is no bleeding and there is not much pain also during intercourse with my husband. My Bust also not thick and it is falling down and looks like a married woman's. I never had sex with any one and I never allow any one to even touch my parts. I never got bleeding also. Is it possible without knowing me the "Kannithirai" Open. My husband asked me when your Kannithirai open and how. What answer I have to tell him. I am telling you again I never had sex with any one before marriage. Please answer me.

Answer

Some people neither bleed nor have severe pain during the first intercourse. It is normal. You have to explain this to your husband.

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Date: Tue, 1 Apr 2003 11:28:56 +0530

Name: Jagdish Age: 32 Gender: M Place:

Question: 7

I know that if the baby's Rh factor is positive and mother's is negative in that case the possible problem (if any) can be solved by using medical treatment (Rh-immune globulin injection).

Please tell me what are the consequences if the father's Rh factor is negative, mother's is positive and baby's is negative. Is there any problem since mother's Rh positive blood will mix with baby's Rh negative blood during pregnancy and therefore in the baby's body antibody will generate due to this.

Answer

The baby is having Rh negative blood , no problem occurs .

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Date: Tue, 1 Apr 2003 11:28:56 +0530

Name: k.srinivasan Age: 39 Gender: M Place: bangalore

Question: 8

If we do intercourse daily any problem in the health please tell something about this.

Answer

Absolutely no problem.

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Date: Tue, 1 Apr 2003 11:28:56 +0530

Name: siddhartha Age: 26 Gender: M Place: kolkata

Question: 9

Dear Doctor,

I would like to introduce myself as Brahmin male 26 who got married to a girl age 21 of same caste on 9th dec 2001.

Sir, my wife and I had no intercourse till 2 ½ months of our marriage because as she came from an orthodox family and was completely unaware of sexual relationships. Sir, my wife had some wrong beliefs about intercourse that it leads to severe pain etc and she was much afraid of it. Sir, I consulted some of my relatives regarding this and I was advised to do it forcibly and then everything will be alright, but I have always believed as sex to be an art /love and no one can force it so after much discussions with my wife and after much patient talks with her making her understand the importance of each and every aspect of sex through books, films, discussions I finally succeeded and she cooperated with me and allowed me to have my first intercourse of my life after 2 ½ months of our marriage.

Sir, during this phase which I had co -operated with my wife very patiently I had developed some problems which I think you can help me .

Sir, in order to give myself relaxation I got accustomed to alcohol, though I was a very light drinker who used to drink on occasions only , but now after bearing the stress and frustration after my marriage I have probably started drinking cause I feel that it gives me a way of expression of my thoughts to my wife and I think that after drinks I will be able to make her understand the love which I want from her , secondly though I really feel the guilt of it but still it is influencing me a lot , please help me finding a way through which I can make my wife understand my wants and desires.

Sir, Secondly I love and enjoy different positions and different types of sexual acts such as anal, oral etc. But I am not getting full co-operation from my wife and hence the pleasure remains just in thoughts even though we have done intercourse. Please help me though I have visited sexologists/ counselors referred by my family doctor but all in vain.

Thirdly, Sir I want to know that whether the drugs available in the market to boost sexual desire and vigor are safe enough to be tried out and if yes then what are names of the drugs. Please also tell me that whether such drugs can be taken after pregnancy cause my wife is 8 months over and expecting soon.

Sir , I know and very well understand that most of my problems are mental and not physical but still I need a proper guidance from you cause such a lifestyle is affecting both my work and my relationship with my wife , its making me frustrated and depressed and sometimes I often feel an urge to get myself attracted to other girls and women and indulge in some unfair and wrong means of satisfaction [ call girls/prostitutes] which I don't want to cause I have never done it, and sir I love my wife very much and cant be unfair to her.

Hence I request you to please help me out in my problems and give me a better guidance at your earliest. Thank you for your co –operation Yours truly Siddhartha Sharma.

Answer

Some people are totally ignorant about sexual aspect of life on the other side some people become pregnant before marriage. These are all extreme ends in Indian society , You wife is in one extreme, she need good counseling and guidance. Slowly you can change her attitude. It is not impossible. You can seek the help of sexual counselor.

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Date: Tue, 1 Apr 2003 11:28:56 +0530

Name: jvde Age: 42 Gender: M Place: HYDERABAD

Question: 10

I am married 12 yrs still no kids an too much worried consulted few doctors. Once positive result but had to do MTP (5 yrs back ) what can be the reason. plz help me . as u help all others.

thanks

jvde

Answer

To find out the cause of infertility ,we need clinical examination and basic test for both of you. You have not furnished any information.

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Date: Wed, 2 Apr 2003 11:09:07 +0530

Name: Laks Age: 26 Gender: M Place:

Question: 11

Doctor,

Recently, I had a rectal examination performed by my family doctor for Piles. The test was negative. She is a M.S. But during the examination, I became so uncomfortable and ejaculated without getting any erection. The Doctor assured me that it's perfectly normal and I need not worry about that. However, I just wanted to get an expert opinion from you whether I am normal.

Answer

It is absolutely normal. Don't worry.

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Date: Wed, 2 Apr 2003 11:09:07 +0530

Name: female Age: 40 Gender: F Place:

Question: 12

You always say that sex should be only between couples or else fear of aids & other sexually transmitted diseases. Your web site which helps thousands of people to start a relationship is not just for virgins. It could have all kinds of people. So do you think that it is safe to get into a relationship through internet.

Answer

This web service is only a matrimonial service portal not sex related one. Scientifically masturbation alone 100% protective method against HIV infection in sex related activity. The second best is sex only between couples.

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Date: Wed, 2 Apr 2003 11:09:07 +0530

Name: manish Age: 25 Gender: M Place: Pune

Question: 13

Today only I have gone through your web site while surfing the net. It is really helpful for the normal people like us to clear our doubt about sex. Thanks for making such a useful web site.

I would appreciate if you could clear my following doubts:

1. Is that my left testicle hang lower than my right testicle, is it a defect?

2. While I am taking bath I crush the skin (Sack) which hold testicle with soap water to clean it. Please not that I won't crush the testicle, but skin. Is it cause of any dis-function in my sexual performance. I am very much worried about this problems, please give me a reply.

3. Could you please tell us the diet (Food Pattern or some particular fruits) , which increase the sexual power helps to generate more semen.

Thanking you once again,

With best regards, Rafique

Answer

Left testis always at a lower level than the right one, Don't crush anything just washing with soap is adequate. No special diet is needed to increase semen quantity or quality.

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Date: Wed, 2 Apr 2003 11:09:07 +0530

Name: prem Age: 34 Gender: M Place:

Question: 14

You mentioned that sex during periods are safe, then why do we have to wait for 6 weeks after delivery of a child even if the delivery is normal, please explain.

Answer

It takes 6 weeks to the uterus and vagina to reach its original size and shape.

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Date: Fri, 4 Apr 2003 14:24:58 +0530

Name: Sunita Age: 35 Gender: F Place:

Question: 15

I am nearly 12 weeks pregnant. Can I have usual sexual relation with my husband ? We also do oral & anal sex. Is it harmful?

Answer

You can have sex as usual, unless your doctor says otherwise. Oral anal sex are not harmful if you are using adequate preventive measures.

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Date: Fri, 4 Apr 2003 14:24:58 +0530

Name: samy Age: 30 Gender: M Place: cbe

Question: 16

Thanks for your valuable service. I had sent my question few months back but not answered. Really I need your help in this part, my question is, I am 6 feet tall I planned to marry in mid 2003, my parents had selected a girl of 4'6", does the height variation leads any problem in sexual of normal life. I am not happy with these proceedings please help. Thanks in advance.

Answer

No problem in sex due to height difference.

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Date: Fri, 4 Apr 2003 14:24:58 +0530

Name: Dilip Age: 26 Gender: M Place:

Question: 17

The service that you are providing to people is something that needs to be appreciated wholeheartedly! Congratulations..

My question to you Sir..

I'm getting married soon. Can you please suggest some good books on sex. Money is not a constraint to me. It would be great if you can also suggest the best books available on 'Kamasutra'. Thanks a lot in advance Sir.

Answer

Hot sex and Joy of sex. Apart from this several authors written marriage manuals, You can select any one.

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Date: Fri, 4 Apr 2003 14:24:58 +0530

Name: Karthik Age: 31 Gender: M Place:

Question: 18

For females after doing family planning will the sexual desire decrease or not?

Answer

For some people sex desire reduces because they think they have lost some thing. For many people sexual desire increases because no burden of pregnancy.

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Date: Fri, 4 Apr 2003 14:24:58 +0530

Name: Payal Age: 22 Gender: F Place: USA

Question: 20

If the soap foams go inside the secret parts of the body (both for men and women) while taking bath, does it harm?

Answer

Soap is an irritant it causes burning sensation. Normally don't apply soap over the vagina or glance penis. Before oral sex or after unprotected sex , you can apply soap over genitals to prevent smell or HIV infection.

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Date: Fri, 4 Apr 2003 14:24:58 +0530

Name: Sweety Age: 26 Gender: F Place:

Question: 21

I think I have an unusual problem, my private part is dark in color where as the rest of my body is very fair, and my husband thinks I may have some infection or something. I am worried why this has happened I never observed it before because I just trimmed the hair but since my husband wants me to shave the entire area now it is very obvious. What can I do to make it the normal color again and do I have an infection. Also can bleaching help lighten the area. Thank you for your services.

Answer

Genitals always darker in color , it become more darker if you scratch repeatedly due to fungal infection. The color cannot be changed . Don't apply any irritant, it may worsen the condition further.

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Date: Fri, 4 Apr 2003 14:24:58 +0530

Name: ruchi Age: 20 Gender: F Place:

Question: 22

Why do I get a white discharge from vagina?

Answer

Normally there will be small quantity of white discharge, If the discharge is more or associated with itching or smell You have to consult your doctor.

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Date: Fri, 4 Apr 2003 14:24:58 +0530

Name: sgkumary Age: 26 Gender: F Place: xxx

Question: 23

Thanks for your great service to thousands who are in need of help. Please go ahead with this humanitarian one.

Sir, I am married for the last 6 moths. I have some doubts relates to sex behavior & culture. Is it ok for couples indulging in sex in locked room on day time while other members (including parents & elders) are in near by areas? What will they think about us? My husband always complaints me for wearing panties at night and for pubic hair. Right from beginning I didn't remove my pubic hair even once. My Husband have a very good character and he loves me very much all time. But when he get good erection and when his penis was in my hole he uses worst erotic words in my ear. He used to finger in my hole and smell it. Whether all these doings are part of his bad habits? He want sex to be done in light and in full nude. A senior friend of mine suggested me not to indulge in sex neither in light nor in nude. She says on seeing nude daily the sexual urge of husbands with their wives may fall down in future. Is it true?

Medically is it a must to wash the genitals just after intercourse. Since we are not using bath attached room and we cannot go out of room to wash where water is being kept. What we can do in this situation? My mother taught me at school age to sleep separate and not to touch any thing at the time of mc. as per old custom for 5-6 days. Now a days my husband do not allow me to sleep separate and even some times he try to touch my private area during mc.

Kindly advise me as I am from a remote area of T.N. With sincere regards.

Answer

Nothing abnormal in your husbands' behavior towards sex. Sexual interest will increase if you are learning newer thing. During menses your husband can tough sexual organs no harm. No need to wash your sexual organs after sex.

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Contact Dr. T. Kamaraj MD,Ph.D. at:

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N0:-133, Kamakody Street, Lake View Road,

West Mambalam, Chennai - 600 033.

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