Husband finds video, witnesses future wife get totally and absolutely dominated, moaning in ways he never dreamed she could.

Marriage in shambles.

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3et231/my27f_husband27m_and_i_wanted_to_make_a_sex_tape/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28425243)

I am so confused. Why is everyone harping on the OP? Nearly every woman does uncharacteristic things out of insecurity in relationships when they are young. Woman are often pressured by men because our society thinks women have to act like unrealistic porn stars to show that they enjoy sex. Do you know how hard it is to compete against that image? OP's relationship with "Mark" sounds like a textbook case of a man pressuring a woman to be something she is not. And when OP is honest with her husband about an experience she had with said ex, not to illicit a jealous response or create insecurity, her husband is entitled to freak out? Oh no, don't harm that poor male ego!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28425316)

while I have no problem with ethical sluts, there is a wide range of appropriately contemptible behaviors you can judge someone for

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#33551039)

"it was because Mark was more endowed, and I know thats a part bugging him too hence why I wish this video was destroyed."

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28425339)

I also enjoyed this line:

>no that isn't the case at all. The things I did with Mark that I don't do with my husband are things I legitimately did not enjoy, but only did for Mark's pleasure so he wouldn't leave me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28425387)

OP: You haven't done anything wrong, and you have nothing to apologize for. Your husband (like many posters in this thread) is insecure. If you want to save your marriage (though your husband doesn't sound like a prize, from your post), you need to pander to his fragile male ego and make him feel secure again -which will require counseling.

Good luck!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28425384)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28425389)

these people have NO PROBLEM watching another relationship fall apart. fuck these people.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#33719697)

ok who here posted this

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28425425)

that's what so beautiful about it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28425438)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28425428)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28425446)

So it would look like this,, in an otherwise coherent flame.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28427540)

[–]streetcornercain 38 points 6 hours ago

I know for an indisputable fact that my current SO had good sex before me. With girls who were bigger-breasted, had better asses, were blonder, in better shape, were whiter, blacker, more Asian, more Latina, had thinner wrists and ankles, more delicate feet and hands, were smarter, more fun, made more money, had better singing voices, bluer eyes, dressed better, had less body hair. Fuck, I'm sure most of them were better in bed.

I mean, how long of a list do you want? It goes so much deeper than dick or tit size. I don't go looking for a sex tape. He fucks me now.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28425552)

FUCK REDDIT

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28426022)

Just like the OP's wife's pussy (to the OP)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28427961)

"I don't like that, it doesn't excite me, it didn't get me off"

...

"...except during the one piece of evidence you have, the sex tape, that shows me squealing with delight like I don't do with you while I'm doing the things with him that I won't do with you..."

It is that part that her husband is going to have a hard time getting past. She might be able to argue that she was faking it for Mark's sake in the tape, but in another thread she has said that the reason she was more vocal is because Mark was more well-endowed, and that implies she actually WAS enjoying it more than with her husband and not faking it.

Woman: "Honey, why won't you marry me? -- I really want a nice big wedding and a ring on my finger."

Man: "I don't believe in all that institutional crap -- I'm burned out on stuff like that and our love is strong and pure -- we don't need to put a label on it!"

Woman: "Well, ok, I love you, and even though I'd rather have a nice ring and get married, I understand if you aren't into those things, and I just want to be together with you, so I'll give up on those things that I'd like."

Man: "Great!"

...later....

Woman: "Wait a second -- you were married before?"

Man: "Yeah..."

Woman: "...and there's a video of you at your wedding, showing how happy you are...with a big ring on your ex's finger...and you look so happy at the wedding and reception...it doesn't look forced at all!"

Man: "ummm....errr.....well it was different with her! She was prettier!"

This is pretty much a similar situation, except wedding/ring instead of sex acts, and pretty ex vs. well-endowed ex. Can you imagine what this sub would have to say about any man in the above scenario?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28427506)

there was a lot of crap in that reddit thread about if a woman is allowed to get upset if she finds a sex video of her man enjoying himself way more with an ex - and how redditors will OF COURSE not allow her to be upset, they'll call her a crazy harpy etc. obviously the pride issues involved aren't the same. but if a woman is upset by such a discovery then OF COURSE she has the right to be MAF, threaten divorce, etc. more likely, she'll be upset by instagram pics of husband taking ex gf on a more expensive trip to italy or some shit - in which case the same sort of shitfit is wholly justifiable: HOW DARE YOU not love me as much as your ex

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28428313)

Reality: poor Husband puts a ring on it only to be bossed around by a shrew and never have sex (or put up with unenthusiastic, obligation sex). To add insult to injury, he finds tape of her pleasing a man in ways that she would never bother to do to him - mostly because she has zero respect for husband - and is told that it's NBD and to get over it. She has no respect for him, and she's curious if she can push him so far in terms of his lack of self respect that she actually tries to get him to just get over it.

How this story ends: Husband, like the pussy he is, forgives her. She respects him even less and fucks him, if ever, with even less enthusiasm.

EDIT: if this isn't a perfect little slice of feminism, I don't know what is.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28428118)

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3et231/my27f_husband27m_and_i_wanted_to_make_a_sex_tape/cti6h0t

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3et231/my27f_husband27m_and_i_wanted_to_make_a_sex_tape/cti89qe

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#28428958)

https://www.reddit.com/user/youngmarriagehelp/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#47045564)

he had clamed down said that he realized his insecurity was controlling him and that he doesn’t want Mark to ruin it. I told him that I would answer anything I can to make things better.

But this is where things I guess got bad. He would ask me really personal things about the sex I had with Mark. Did I enjoy his penis more, asked me for example, if he stretched me out. If I said that I don’t remember or that I didn’t enjoy it, he wouldn’t take it as an answer. The video of me was really damning, and I don’t know what to do, I think the video itself is basically burned into his head. He would ask questions that would basically hurt himself, and then grow more distant.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2947514&forum_id=2Elisa#47045632)