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Dumping monogamy doesn't mean dismissing love or commitment. It's about breaking free from the chains of a construct that's far past its expiration date.

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It’s Time to Break Up with Monogamy

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Hey you lovely rebels, gather ‘round for a tale as old as time — or at least as old as patriarchal norms. Today, let’s unpack the grand masterpiece that is monogamy, shall we? Spoiler alert: it’s not as romantic as they want you to believe.

‘Mine’ and ‘Ours’ — A Patriarchal Symphony

So, picture this: a society that glorifies the idea of possession and exclusivity. Monogamy, my dear friends, is the star of this patriarchal symphony. It’s the concept that tells you, “This person is MINE.” Ah, nothing screams romance like treating someone like a prized possession, am I right?

Let’s unmask the not-so-romantic side of this possession tango, where individuals are marked as ‘taken.’ Monogamy, with all its glittery promises, often conceals the shackles beneath the rose-tinted surface. The ‘ownership’ label may look like a shiny bow, but trust me, it’s just a prettified chain, limiting the essence of true partnership. How did we let ‘mine’ become synonymous with love?

Monogamy, with its charming roots in history, has often reduced women to the status of a coveted object. “Claimed” by a man, as if we’re living in some medieval marketplace. Newsflash: We’re not assets; we’re human beings.

‘Happily Ever After’ — or Are We Just Trapped?

The fairy tales sell us on the idea that monogamy equals ‘happily ever after.’ But let’s be real. Isn’t it a tad bit suspicious that the ‘ever after’ part usually involves a woman finding her prince charming and settling down? As if a woman’s life revolves around ‘catching’ a man. Please, give us a break.

It’s as if the story concludes when she finds her prince. But, wait, is that really the end? Not in the real world, my friends.

Cinderella found her prince, but what about her dreams, her ambitions, her self-discovery? Monogamy, as depicted in these tales, tends to confine a woman’s narrative within the walls of domestic bliss. Let’s hit pause on this script and acknowledge that women are the authors of their own stories, not mere characters waiting for ‘happily ever after.’

Women aren’t damsels waiting to be rescued; they are architects of their destinies. Monogamy, when embraced without the constraints of societal expectations, can be a canvas for individual growth, shared aspirations, and a partnership that nurtures both partners’ dreams. It’s time to rewrite the narrative to include women stepping into their own power, creating ‘ever after’ stories that transcend the limitations of outdated fairy tales.

Imagine a world where ‘happily ever after’ isn’t a full stop but a continuation of self-discovery, shared adventures, and mutual support. It’s a place where women aren’t defined by their relationship status but celebrated for the multifaceted, dynamic individuals they are.

‘Ever after’ doesn’t have to be a fixed destination. It can be an ongoing journey where both partners grow, evolve, and carve out spaces for their unique narratives. Let’s shatter the glass slipper and step into a world where women aren’t confined by outdated fairy-tale endings but are the authors of their own extraordinary stories

Monogamy’s Sidekick — Double Standards

Ah, the delightful world of double standards. Monogamy often comes with a side of hypocrisy, dished out in unequal portions. A man can sow his wild oats, and society applauds him. A woman? Well, let’s just say she’s walking on eggshells. Why? Because societal norms are the ultimate wingman to monogamy’s discriminatory game.

Society’s expectations often showcase a glaring imbalance, where a man’s romantic adventures are celebrated as conquests, while a woman engaging in the same is met with raised eyebrows and judgmental whispers. It’s like navigating a dance floor where the steps aren’t just uneven; they’re downright discriminatory.

Why is it that men are praised for their romantic conquests, labeled as ‘players,’ and encouraged to explore their desires freely, while women are burdened with societal expectations of purity and restraint? Monogamy, in its traditional form, often reinforces these disparities, creating a relationship landscape where men are applauded for playing the field while women are expected to tiptoe through a minefield of judgment.

Breaking Free — Monogamy, We Need to Talk

In a world where we champion individuality, empowerment, and the freedom to choose, why are we still clinging to the antiquated norms of monogamy? Let’s redefine relationships beyond possessiveness and exclusivity. After all, love shouldn’t be about claiming, it should be about uplifting.

If being with multiple partners is one of your desires, it’s part of who you are as a unique individual. That shouldn’t be surrendered in order to conform to someone else’s ideals. And, frankly, when men say they want to be exclusive, what they really mean is that they want you to be exclusive, not them. Trust me, they still want to sleep with other people.

It’s time to advocate for a relationship model that fosters equality. Love should be a liberating force, not a set of restrictive rules dependent on gender. It’s time to rewrite the script, creating a space where both partners, regardless of gender, can navigate the complexities of desire with honesty, openness, and the assurance that societal norms won’t serve as judge and jury.

Unleash the Relationship Revolution

As we close the book on this sad saga, remember this — dumping monogamy doesn’t mean dismissing love or commitment. It’s about breaking free from the chains of a construct that’s far past its expiration date. Let’s usher in a relationship revolution where love is a celebration, not a possession. Cheers to rewriting the rules and embracing a world where ‘mine’ and ‘ours’ don’t dictate our worth.

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I Love My Husband. I’m Still Withholding Sex Until the Patriarchy Falls.

How a sex and reproductive strike might be the key to smashing the patriarchy for good.

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APR 20, 2025

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I’m done.

I’m done pretending everything is fine while my rights are rolled back like we’re living in some handmaid’s tale prequel. I’m done smiling politely when politicians who couldn’t find a clitoris with a map decide they’re qualified to legislate my body. I’m done negotiating with a system that was never built for me in the first place.

Let me break it down for the men clutching their pearls right now: this isn’t about you. Unless, of course, you’re one of the ones voting to control my reproductive organs while struggling to find the G-spot. In which case, yes. It’s definitely about you. Cry harder.

And so, starting now, I’m on strike. A full reproductive strike. No sex. No babies. No more participation in a society that sees my uterus as state property.

And I’m asking—no, urging—every woman who feels the same to do the same.

I know it sounds extreme to some of you. But what’s more extreme: choosing not to have sex, or being forced to give birth against your will? Choosing not to get pregnant, or watching your reproductive rights disappear one by one like they were never yours to begin with? If you're uncomfortable with my method, ask yourself why you're not more uncomfortable with the oppression that led me here.

The time for protests and rallies has ended. Now is the time for radical measures.

We’ve tried being polite. We’ve tried voting. Marching. Writing letters. Giving interviews. Making TikToks. Screaming into the void of late-stage capitalism. But the truth is, they don’t listen to our voices—they listen to power. And there is nothing more powerful than women collectively choosing to shut down the one thing the system cannot function without: our reproductive labor.

Let’s be clear: this isn’t about punishing our partners. This isn’t about withholding love or intimacy out of spite. This is about power. About reclaiming the only power they haven’t fully stripped from us yet. Our bodies. Our choices. Our ability to say no. Not just to sex, but to complicity.

And for the record, my husband gets it. Completely. He watched what happened with the Dobbs decision. He watched me cry when our state passed its six-week abortion ban. He watched the protests, the backlash, the gaslighting. He asked me what he could do. I told him: stand with me, not inside me. He got a vasectomy. Voluntarily. No kids, no risk, no hesitation. Then he asked me—asked me—if he could go a step further and wear a chastity cage until I said otherwise. Not because I demanded it. Because he wanted to show solidarity with the boundaries I was setting. That’s what real partnership looks like.

We’re locked in so to speak.

Because every time we bring another child into this world, we’re doing it with the knowledge that our daughters might have fewer rights than we did. That our sons might grow up in a culture that teaches them entitlement to women’s bodies, not respect for their autonomy. That we will be expected to sacrifice our careers, our health, our identities, and in some states, our lives—for the sake of pregnancies we might not even choose.

We’re birthing children into a world where a rapist can sue for custody, but a woman can’t sue the state for forcing her to carry a dead fetus. And you want me to “calm down”? I’ll calm down when we stop pretending this isn’t biological warfare disguised as policy.

If that doesn’t terrify you, then maybe you haven’t been paying attention.

They want us barefoot and pregnant, docile and distracted. And the most radical thing we can do right now is say: not anymore.

Let them jerk off to the idea of a future they’ll never see, because we’re not here to populate a dystopia for their benefit. We’re not your incubators, your maids, your therapists, or your punching bags. We’re done doing unpaid emotional labor for a world that doesn’t even give us basic human rights.

What would happen if women everywhere stopped having sex? What would happen if we refused to give this system any more daughters to exploit or sons to indoctrinate? What would happen if we, together, shut it all down until our rights were not just returned, but expanded?

This isn’t just about Roe. This is about everything. About autonomy. About consent. About economic freedom, medical privacy, safety, dignity, and the fundamental right to exist without being controlled.

And until that’s possible for all women—trans women, Black women, poor women, immigrant women, every woman—I’m not participating in this broken game. Let the patriarchy collapse from blue balls and empty cribs. Let them see what a society without women’s labor, pleasure, or progeny really looks like.

You want my body? Give me back my rights.

Until then?

No sex.

No babies.

No compromise.

And if you’re a man reading this and feeling “attacked,” good. Sit in that discomfort. That’s the faint echo of what women have been living with for centuries—just a taste. And if you do want to help? Then sit the hell down, shut up, and support women without needing applause for it.

— Signed, a very tired, very angry woman who’s had enough.

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Getting Banned from Medium for No Reason Was a Blessing in Disguise

Thank you for introducing me to Substack, Tony!

CINDY STEINBERG

JUL 04, 2024

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Hey everyone,

I’ve got a story for you today that’s a bit of a rollercoaster, but trust me, it has a happy ending. So, let’s dive in!

Last week, I woke up to a nightmare—my Medium.com account had been banned. No warning, no explanation, just a cold, hard “your account has been suspended” red banner when I logged in to check my stats. As you can imagine, I was devastated. I’ve poured my heart and soul into my writing, and Medium was where I connected with all of you. The fact that I had almost $900 in reading revenue for June waiting to be paid out stung a bit too. So, what happened?

Well, it turns out some right-wing trolls decided to have a bit of fun at my expense. They created a bunch of fake profiles impersonating me and then mass-reported my content. A few of them even went so far as to create fake social media profiles and stalk me on Twitter. It was frustrating and unfair, to say the least. I spent hours trying to get in touch with Medium’s support team, but it felt like shouting into the void. It was a classic case of internet bullying, and I was caught in the middle of it.

When I finally received a response from Medium, they sent screenshots of the fake profiles and asked me to explain what was going on. As if I was impersonating myself to troll and report myself. I told them I had no idea, but that I’d had problems with right-wing extremists trying to cyber-bully me before, and I asked what rules I had allegedly broken.

They wouldn’t tell me, and sent an email the next morning while I was at work telling me I needed to provide an explanation for the fake accounts that were leaving vicious comments on my stories, as well as other writers’ content, apparently. It was a very hectic day at the office, so I didn’t get a chance to reply while I was at work, so I logged into my Gmail as soon as I got home.

They had sent another email only a few hours after the previous one: “Since you have not replied, the decision at this time is final.” That was that. No chance to defend myself, no appeal, no explanation. It almost seems like they just want to find reasons to ban writers that make “too much” money on their platform, so that they don’t have to pay us. I say this because the last time I was banned, due to the spam filter being triggered accidentally, was right at the beginning of the month as well, just before Medium pays out writers’ earnings.

At first, I was crushed. Writing is my passion, and Medium had been my home for so long. I felt like I was being silenced. But then, something amazing happened. I stumbled upon Substack. And let me tell you, it’s been a game-changer.

Substack is such a great platform! It’s straightforward, user-friendly, and best of all, it values the writer-reader relationship. I’ve found it to be a breath of fresh air compared to Medium’s sometimes convoluted interface and opaque policies.

One of the first things I noticed about Substack was the sense of community. It feels more intimate, more personal. My subscribers can reply directly to my newsletters, and we can have genuine conversations. It’s like having coffee with friends rather than speaking to a faceless crowd. I’m able to connect with you all on a deeper level, and that’s something I cherish.

Another fantastic aspect of Substack is the creative freedom. There are no algorithms dictating what content gets seen. I can write about what I’m passionate about, knowing it will reach the people who care. There’s no pressure to conform to trending topics or to water down my message to appeal to a broader audience. It’s liberating.

And then there’s the financial aspect. Substack allows me to monetize my writing in a way that feels fair and transparent. I can offer free content, paid subscriptions, or a mix of both. It’s empowering to know that my income isn’t tied to ad revenue or arbitrary metrics but to the value my readers find in my work.

Getting banned from Medium felt like the end of the world at first. But it’s turned out to be a blessing in disguise. It pushed me to find a platform that aligns more closely with my values and where I can truly thrive as a writer.

So, to all the fascist trolls out there: thank you. Your attempt to silence me only made my voice stronger. And to all my readers, thank you for sticking with me through this transition. Your support means everything to me. If you haven’t already, I’d love for you to join me on Substack. Let’s continue this journey together, in a place where our voices can be heard, and, more importantly, valued.

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Racism Claims Another Victim: Karmelo Anthony

Sitting while black is deadly in MAGA country.

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In a world where justice is supposed to be blind, Black men like Karmelo Anthony are reminded time and time again that the scales are not balanced. The mainstream media wants you to believe that Karmelo was some kind of violent aggressor, a dangerous thug with a knife. But let’s be clear: Karmelo Anthony is not the villain in this story. He is the victim.

Austin Metcalf and his brother — two privileged, well-connected white men — targeted Karmelo. They saw him as an easy target, an outsider who didn’t belong in their world. And when they saw him sitting alone at the track meet, they saw an opportunity. Not just to intimidate him, but to humiliate him.

Witnesses say the Metcalf brothers approached Karmelo with hostility. What started as taunts quickly escalated. The brothers circled him, towering over him, cutting off his escape. Let’s be real: two large men confronting a lone Black man in a crowd of other whites….that’s not a “confrontation.” That’s an ambush.

Karmelo had a choice — let them humiliate and possibly harm him, or defend himself. And because he chose survival, because he refused to be another statistic, they painted him as the villain.

Self-Defense, But Not for Black Men

If the roles had been reversed — if a white man had used a weapon to defend himself against two aggressors — he’d be hailed as a hero. We’ve seen it before. The narrative would be about “standing your ground,” about “a man’s right to protect himself.” But Karmelo? The moment he fought back, he became “dangerous,” “unhinged,” “a threat.”

What’s worse? The media and the so-called justice system swallowed the Metcalfs’ story whole. They turned two bullies into “victims” and ignored the fact that Karmelo was fighting for his life.

This is made all too evident by the cringy contrast of Karmelo in a mugshot displayed next to a picture of his attacker memorialized as some kind of middle-class white hero for playing sports and getting handed good grades thanks to his privileged status.

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The Crime? Existing While Black

Let’s not kid ourselves. Karmelo’s real crime wasn’t defending himself, it was daring to exist in a space the Metcalfs felt entitled to. Sitting while Black. Breathing while Black. Defending himself while Black.

And now, because a system built on racial bias refuses to see the truth, an innocent man is facing years behind bars for the “crime” of not letting two racist bullies make him their victim.

Justice for Karmelo Anthony isn’t just about one man, it’s about dismantling a system that allows these injustices to happen over and over again.

Demand the Truth. Demand Justice.

Karmelo Anthony deserves better. We all do. It’s time to stop letting privileged bullies rewrite history.

A young Black man with a bright future ahead of him that was stolen from him by an entitled white bully who couldn’t just leave him alone. For all the white bigots in the comments, you’re the reason he had to carry a knife.

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The concept of the “straight man” is nothing more than a myth perpetuated by outdated social norms and repressive gender roles.

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Raelle Blonda caught her boyfriend Brian Altman having sex with another man. It could have been sexy instead of being tragic.

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Cuckoldry Could’ve Prevented This Disaster

Raelle Blonda caught her boyfriend Brian Altman having sex with another man. It could have been sexy instead of being tragic.

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Infidelity is a word that carries weight. It conjures images of heartbreak, betrayal, and irreversible damage. But what if we’ve been conditioned to see it that way? What if, instead of clinging to outdated, possessive ideals about relationships, we allowed ourselves to step outside the box and see things differently?

Take, for instance, the story of a young woman, Raelle Blonda, newly pregnant, who discovered that her boyfriend, Brian Altman, has been sleeping with another man. Her gut reaction, shaped by generations of rigid monogamy and gender expectations, was to see this as a personal attack, a humiliation, a reason to burn it all down. And that’s exactly what she did.

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Instead of taking a moment to understand, she lashed out. She stormed in, unleashed fury, confronted them both with the kind of self-righteous anger that homophobic bigots promote as acceptable. But what did it accomplish? Nothing but destruction. The other man, caught in the crossfire, reacted with violence. The boyfriend, already grappling with his own shame and confusion, found himself not only humiliated but publicly exposed, turned into an object of ridicule. And the woman? She got her revenge. She shamed him online, made sure everyone knew what he had done. But at what cost?

Now the father of her children has been traumatized, forced out of the closet in the most undignified and inhumane manner possible, resulting in him receiving thousands of death threats from alt-right trolls until he had to delete all of his social media accounts. All because she couldn’t accept him for who he is: a gaymer.

I don’t blame her though, this is the byproduct of a patriarchal society emboldened by the election of two fascists to the White House. Whether the results of that election were (almost certainly) fraudulent or not (doubtful) is for another article…

Here’s where the story could have gone differently. What if, instead of letting jealousy and societal conditioning dictate her response, she had taken a breath and recognized something deeper at play? What if she had embraced the possibility that his desires didn’t negate his love for her, that sexuality is fluid, and that the strict boundaries we impose on relationships are more about control than about connection?

Imagine, instead, a world where she saw opportunity instead of tragedy. Where, instead of confronting him with rage, she confronted him with curiosity. What if she had acknowledged that attraction to another person — man or woman — doesn’t mean the end of love, but rather an expansion of it?

Alternative relationship structures exist. Ethical non-monogamy, cuckold dynamics, polyamory — these aren’t just fringe ideas, but ways in which people are already breaking free from the limitations imposed by a patriarchal society that demands exclusivity as a marker of worth. Had she embraced that possibility, she could have had agency in the situation instead of being reduced to a scorned woman. Instead of victimhood, she could have had power.

But society doesn’t teach us that. It tells us that possession equals love, that betrayal is the ultimate sin, that masculinity must be rigid and heterosexual, and that women must either accept submission or rage against it. But what if we let go of that tired old script? What if, instead of destruction, there was understanding? Instead of loss, there was evolution?

Maybe then, the story wouldn’t have ended in humiliation and violence. Maybe it would have become something else entirely — something raw, something real, something liberating and fun. Besides, with all the evidence we see to the contrary, how can we keep pretending there’s such a thing as a “straight man”? The reality is that all men secretly harbor homosexual fantasies, they’ve just been conditioned to repress them out of fear and insecurity.

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