after starting a sex column at Bryn Mawr College

http://modernsex.wordpress.com/

http://twitter.com/ModernSex

Reminds me of Rasquach...philosophy BA

http://www.facebook.com/ShelleyGupta

with a TTT resume

http://www.linkedin.com/in/shelleygupta

and a fattie

http://modernsex.wordpress.com/2010/08/09/liking-your-own-body/

Liking Your Own Body

It’s hard to be in the mood when you don’t feel sexy. I’ve been having this problem lately, where I want to desire sex/masturbation, but I didn’t, and a lot of it had to do with body image. You see, my parents are constantly ragging on me about losing weight, but I’ve found that it’s extremely difficult for me to lose weight while on birth control. I was on the Pill for three years. A year ago, I switched to the Mirena IUD. The two weeks that I was hormone free (just before I got the IUD), I lost 4 lbs. It was awesome…if I’d kept up with working out and not gotten the IUD, I would have been back to pre-undergrad weight within weeks. No such luck for me. Since getting the IUD, I’ve gained roughly 8 lbs, but that’s constantly fluctuating. The lowest I’ve come is 3 lbs over what I was when I got the IUD. It totally sucks. I hate the weight gain so much that I consider getting rid of the IUD just to lose weight, but then I think again and remember that since I do enjoy sex it’s silly to be without birth control and the IUD is truly fantastic – I don’t have any PMS now, I don’t get cramps, or get bloated, and best of all, I don’t have a period! There’s no way I could go off the IUD. It’s kind of unfortunate. Depending on where I am in 2014 relationship wise, I might consider a year of being hormone free just to lose weight, of course, this means that I will have periods, bloating, cramps, and PMS. It’s even unpleasant to think about!

Needless to say, having always been on the slimmer side, it’s kind of hard for me to be on the heavier side for my height. It doesn’t really help either when in the last three times that my partner and I have had sex, he hasn’t gone down on me, and he hasn’t told me that he finds me attractive. My friends tell me all the time that I’m pretty and sexy and attractive and all that, but it’s not the same as coming from your partner. It’s also incredible how sexy receiving cunnilingus can make you feel.

All of that being said, it is important to remember that unless you think of yourself as attractive, no one else will. I know. Easier said than done. But it’s true. Do you ever see really ugly people, and I mean ugly by everyone’s standards, but they’re with a good looking person? Either that person has a truly incredible personality, or the person is comfortable with their own appearance and so others find them less ugly. It’s probably a combination of the two. In any case, I think it’s similar to if you think you’re happy, you probably are happy, mind over matter, kind of thing.

So how do you learn to love your own body? I read once that the best way to become comfortable in your own skin is to spend time naked with yourself. If you live with other people – spend some time in your room naked before you go to bed, or even sleep naked. I did try this when I was younger just to see what it was like. I’m pretty sure it worked because until very recently, I’ve always been comfortable with my appearance, even with a gradual weight gain over the last 5 years (if you had to do the math I’ve gained 3-4 lbs a year which actually isn’t that bad, but in the end it is bad). Also, I’m finding that if you exercise regularly (I took a 3 week break), your body regains tone relatively quickly and you start feeling better about your body. For me, my stomach has been feeling particularly pudgy, but I’ve been really good about working out over the last week, with a good mix of cardio and weight training, and I feel as if my stomach pudge is back on the decline, whether it is actually declining is difficult to say. Regular exercise will certainly do a lot to boost how you feel about yourself, and it’s good for you. If you exercise consistently for long enough, you’ll even get addicted to it and feel terrible for not exercising. It doesn’t actually matter how you look, just as long as you perceive yourself in a positive light.

And with that, remember to always Kovet Yourself.

Kama Yama

http://bicollegenews.com/?p=12919

Modern Sex: Periods - Not Just For Punctuation

By Kama Yama

To have sex during your period or not? That is the question, and it always involves wondering what your partner will think. “Will my partner think it’s gross? Will they be totally turned off by the suggestion? Will they think it’s hot?”

The truth of the matter is that you will not know until you ask. However, this is probably not a great conversation to have when you are already on your period and just on the verge of sex. If you know that your partner is cool with "doing stuff" while either of you have your period, fair warning is usually nice.

As it happens, there are some benefits to having sex while on your period. First, you definitely will not need any kind of artificial lubrication. There will be plenty of wetness to have penetrative sex. If you just want to engage in oral sex, it can easily be done with a tampon in.

During menstruation, the entire vulva is engorged with blood and is more sensitive than during other times of your cycle. You will experience heightened sensations and are likely to orgasm more quickly and easily. Orgasms can help relieve cramps and headaches associated with menstruation, and who doesn’t want cramp and headache relief, drug-free?

Finally, when you are aroused, about to have sex, or having sex, menstrual flow often becomes significantly lighter and will remain light for several hours. The body will produce natural lubrication and help thin the menstrual flow.

Of course, there are some relatively obvious negative sides to having sex on your period, but I’ll throw them out there anyway. The sex is likely to be messier, but an easy remedy is to place a towel under you, or even better, take a shower together to avoid any messy clean-up—not that this is always the easiest activity or best choice at Bryn Mawr or Haverford. Also, it’s worth mentioning that If you’re having unprotected heterosexual sex, you can still get pregnant.

Sex during your period is a very personal choice that you and your partner must make—what works for you and one partner may not work for you and the next. Some people do it and others don’t. Whatever your choice is, you’re not alone, even if you’re undecided. If you are ever approached by a partner who wants to try it, avoid offending them by hastily remarking that you think the idea is "disgusting" or "gross."

Think about it, consider trying it, and if you find that it still isn’t for you, that’s okay. On the other hand, if you are the one curious about trying but are afraid to ask, the worst response you could get is a “no.” No problem—you know your body better and will be able to pleasure yourself anyway. That being said, you could also get a “yes.”

So, what’s on your mind, Bi-Co? What are you sexually curious about? Email me at BiCoModernSex@gmail.com to ask anonymous questions, request that I address a specific topic, or to share your experiences. Unless you tell me you intend to harm yourself and/or others without mutual consent, your email is confidential and anonymous.

Signing off for now, remember to always Kovet Yourself.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16204991)

LOL, too late biatch!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16273821)

http://jdjustjurisdoctoris.blogspot.com

s-gupta.2@onu.edu

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16751175)

http://www.theonion.com/articles/college-sophomore-thinks-she-would-make-a-good-sex,1224/

"Lizzie would make an all-right sex columnist, I guess," fellow sophomore Lisa Wong said. "She sure talks about that stuff a lot."

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16751232)

Modern Sex: Charming the Snake

By Kama Yama

Buffing the bead. Beating off. Charming the snake. The two-fingered tango. Milking the mule. Secret vice. Taking care of business. These are all phrases for masturbating.

Masturbation is amazing, writes Shelley Gupta. It is the best thing a person could do for him or herself. Masturbation, or self pleasure or self love, serves a variety of useful and healthy purposes. First, it is a safe way of gaining sexual satisfaction. In addition to sexually satisfying and pleasing yourself, you are safe. Unless you already have an Sexually Transmitted Infection, you’re at no risk for getting one. If you have an STI, you certainly won’t spread it. Masturbation also allows one to get to know one’s self. Finally, if you’re not sexually active, masturbation is a perfectly safe and acceptable way to gain sexual satisfaction without a partner.

Getting to know yourself is important, it is a way to relax and let go. It is only when you know what you like that you can tell your partner, when you have one, what to do to give you maximum pleasure. Let me tell you, your partner will always appreciate directions. Sex is about giving pleasure and hopefully receiving pleasure in return. I know my partner enjoys it when I tell him what to do and when he’s hitting the right spot(s). I would appreciate it if he would do the same for me. But this article isn’t about your partner and you; it’s about you and only you. Some people can only orgasm when they bring themselves to it. I certainly have an easier time on my own than with my partner. To know how to bring yourself to orgasm, you have to try it out for yourself. It’s all well and good if your partner can do it, but if you can’t bring yourself to the big O on your own, what are you going to do if you and your partner split or your partner is away or unavailable and you really want that sweet release?

If you’ve never masturbated before and are thinking you might want to try it, I recommend Googling for masturbation tips. I still Google for tips from time to time, just to see what’s out there and to see if I can find any new tips.

For women: http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/ht/masturbatewomen.htm

For men: http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/ht/masturbatemen.htm

If you’re not comfortable with Googling, try this: set aside some quiet time during which you will be uninterrupted. Mute your computer, put your phone on silent, lock your door, pull down your window shades if people can see into your room, and relax. Get comfortable and then just start touching different parts of your body and see what feels good. You don’t have to go straight for the genitals, unless you’re comfortable with that.

For those of you who are more comfortable with your bodies, try a sex toy. Sex toys mix things up and keep masturbating interesting. I happen to have ten toys, and I use them all (some more frequently than others). There are a variety of toys available depending on what your desires and needs are. You have your traditional vibrators, g-spot vibrators, clitoral vibrators (massagers), the Rabbit vibrator (dual stimulation), triple stimulation vibrators, discrete vibrators, dildos and dongs, glass toys, metal toys, kegel exercisers, anal beads, butt plugs (in a variety of materials), anal vibrators, p-spot massagers, sleeves, pumps, masturbators, and more. Even if you haven’t had sex, a vibrator can be a good thing. I know virgins who bought a vibrator and loved it and they did not go crazy for sex and penetration. I also know virgins who have gone crazy for sex after experiencing a vibrator. Using a vibrator internally will not rob you of your virginity. Having had sex and used a vibrator myself, I would say they are two completely different and individual experiences. Using a vibrator alone is fantastic. It is all about me and what I want when I want it. Sex is fantastic. It is all about giving my partner pleasure and satisfying his needs, and in return, getting my own needs satisfied. I can’t speak to the sleeves and masturbators because I don’t have a penis. Sorry guys, I can’t offer you any tips on the best toys.

That’s it for now, next week: how to pick a sex toy. Email me at bicomodernsex@gmail.com to ask anonymous questions or request that I address a specific topic; all emails will remain anonymous, unless you tell me you intend to harm yourself and/or others without mutual consent.

Signing off for now, remember to always Kovet Yourself.

http://bicollegenews.com/?p=12094

Modern Sex: See P-Spot Run

By Kama Yama

Last week was dedicated to the g-spot. This week is dedicated to the p-spot. I haven’t forgotten the male anatomy!

The p-spot stands for the prostate gland. It can also stand for the perineum. The perineum is the area of skin between the scrotum and the anus. When pressed and massaged it can reveal pleasurable results.

The prostate gland requires one to be a little more adventurous. To stimulate the prostate gland, you need to be relaxed. This needs to be something you’re interested in doing because stimulating the prostate gland requires some anal play. The prostate gland is located about three inches inside the rectum and can be reached with the fingers and a ‘come here’ motion. The p-spot is located on the front wall of the rectum (towards the naval) and feels like a round nub. It is about the size of a walnut.

To start with p-spot exploration, make sure your hands or your partner’s hands are clean and the fingernails trimmed. Use lots of lube since the rectum is not self lubricating. There are lubes made specifically for anal play, but using a good quality regular lube should be fine. Start slow and just try inserting one finger, keeping the sphincter muscle as relaxed as possible.

If you feel yourself tensing up, stop, breathe, and then continue if and whenyou’re comfortable. If it would make you feel better, you can always wear a medical glove for anal play. You should always wash your hands and toys thoroughly with anti-bacterial soap after anal play, but If you’re worried about the cleanliness of p-spot exploration, you’re unlikely to pull your finger or toy out covered in feces.

The best position for p-spot exploration is probably to have the man lying on his back with his legs apart. In this position, the man can explore alone, with a partner or with a toy. There are many toys available specifically for p-spot exploration. LELO just came out with a new toy for men called Bob. There is also the line by Nexus, as well as nJoy. Using a toy will allow for a little more ease in positioning and control. If you’re using a toy, you can try a variety of positions as well. When it comes to p-spot stimulation, I would really recommend that you use medical grade silicone, steel, or glass toys simply because they are non-porous and can be disinfected easily. Other toys on the market, while good, cannot be so easily disinfected.

What I find most interesting about the p-spot is that it allows a man to orgasm without actually ejaculating so you can continue to have sex or have sex immediately afterwards. These orgasms also tend to last longer than the traditional penile orgasm. Like the g-spot, p-spot stimulation can give you the urge to urinate. If you can make it past this sensation, it should become pleasurable and lead to an orgasm.

Engaging in anal exploration/play does not make a man gay. The anus is rich with nerve endings, and by not exploring this natural pleasure zone you are ignoring a world of pleasure and possibilities. I’m not advocating, by any means, that you stick a finger or toy up your bum the next time you’re jacking off, but keep it in mind, and if you’re feeling up to it, touch the anus and rub it a little. See how it feels and if you like it, next time, try doing a little more.

If you have a male partner who is interested in p-spot exploration, please don’t flip out or call him disgusting for wanting to explore and include you in those explorations. If you’re uncomfortable, talk about it and figure out why exactly you feel uncomfortable. It may be unconventional to explore the anus and rectum in our society, but that doesn’t mean that we should ignore rich pleasure zones.

Email me at BiCoModernSex@gmail.com to ask anonymous questions, request that I address a specific topic, or share your experiences. Unless you tell me you intend to harm yourself and/or others without mutual consent, your email is confidential and anonymous.

Signing off for now, remember to always Kovet Yourself.

http://bicollegenews.com/?p=11647

Modern Sex: This Column Is Brought to You By the Letter “G”

By Kama Yama

I’ve mentioned G-spot toys several times in this column, but it occurred to me that some people may not know what the G-spot is, where it is, and the pleasures it affords women. So, today’s article is dedicated to the G-spot.

The mysterious and elusive G-spot is named after Dr. Grafenberg, who discovered the G-spot in/for western culture. The G-spot is located on the front wall of the vagina (towards the bellybutton), about 2 inches in. The G-spot is actually behind the vaginal wall. When you stimulate the G-spot you are actually pressing against the urethral sponge, which is why many women feel the urge to urinate.

Once this feeling passes, the stimulation becomes more pleasurable and often leads to an orgasm, though it is important to remember that G-spot stimulation can be uncomfortable for some women. If this is your case, relax and don’t push yourself. G-spot stimulation is not for everyone.

So how does one stimulate the G-spot? The G-spot is easiest to find when aroused, so get warmed up and then if you put a finger or two inside of yourself, facing up, feel for a rough fleshy area. The G-spot is behind this tissue. If you are exploring alone, I find it easier to stimulate the G-spot with a toy specifically for stimulating the G-spot.

G-spot-specific toys have a curved head to stimulate the spot behind the vaginal wall.The curve presses up into the G-spot providing an adequate and constant pressure. The severity of the curve will determine how much pressure is put on the G-spot. The best positions, I’ve found, include lying on your back with your legs bent and apart, squatting, and even standing. For a more intense orgasm, try using a vibrator on the clitoris to go along with the G-spot stimulation. If you’re comfortable, try pushing with your pelvic floor muscles as you orgasm. You might ejaculate.

Female ejaculation is not urine, it is not the same color (it’s clear), nor does it have an odor. Like men, women are incapable of urinating when orgasming. Female ejaculation is a non-lubricating fluid that is simply wet. If this is your first time ejaculating, you probably won’t have a big squirt or sudden gush, more like a little release of fluid. Probably a teaspoon’s worth of fluid.

If you are exploring with a partner, get warmed up, make sure you’re comfortable, and communicate. Communication is key. For manual exploration, use the middle and ring finger, and position your fingers like you would hold a bowling ball, with the hand facing upward. Press into your partner’s vaginal wall, feeling for the rough fleshy tissue.The stimulated will tell you when you hit the right spot. Vary the pressure and speed with which you stimulate, and be sure to ask how your partner feels and if the motion or speed should be changed at all.

For G-spot stimulation during traditional penetrative sex, female superior positions tend to work well because she can control the depth, speed, and angle. Doggy style also works well, better than female superior in my opinion, because the penis or strap-on is angled into the front vaginal wall.

G-spot orgasms differ from clitoral orgasms in that they are typically deeper and more intense. They tend to leave me exhausted and ready for a nap. After a G-spot orgasm, the entire vulva may be extra-sensitive and further stimulation may become painful, but it varies from person to person. G-spot orgasms can also take longer than clitoral orgasms; G-spot orgasms require a lot of patience and experimenting. It took me several months to learn how to give myself a g-spot orgasm, and my partner almost gave me one for the first time the last time we were together.

Some tips on exploring the G-spot: explore when you have a block of uninterrupted time. Be relaxed and aroused when you explore. Don’t get frustrated if you are having trouble. G-spot orgasms take time and practice; do a Google search for tips on G-spot stimulation. Don’t be afraid to talk about it with your partner if you want to explore together. If you are using a toy, use lube. Happy exploring!

Email me at BiCoModernSex@gmail.com to ask anonymous questions or request that I address a specific topic or to share your experiences, unless you tell me you intend to harm yourself and/or others without mutual consent, your email is confidential and anonymous.

Signing off for now, remember to always Kovet Yourself.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16205004)

Modern Sex: Hair, There, and Everywhere

By Kama Yama

What should you do with your pubic hair? Pubic hair tends to be a bigger question for women than for men, though I know I appreciate it when my male partners at least trim, if not shave.

Hair in the pubic region is meant to protect the genitals and help keep the area clean. The hair helps keep the genitals cool, and it removes some friction during sex. It also makes people feel like adults, and not pre-pubescent children. Some people think that removing hair makes them somehow anti-feminist or less of a feminist. I would disagree, as long as you’re doing it because you want to, and not because your partner demands it.

Masturbating feels nicer when one is hair-free. The sensations of your hands or a toy are more easily felt without the hair. Being hairless is also nicer for oral sex. For women, your partner won’t be trying to manage keeping the hair out of his/her mouth and will be able to focus better on your pleasures. For men, it keeps the hair out of your partner’s mouth. There’s nothing worse than giving oral sex and finding hair in your mouth; it is disgusting. Hair removal on men also makes the penis appear larger.

The most common hair removal method is shaving. Use a new and clean razor, and make sure that the hair isn’t too long (trim the hair before if it’s long). Take a warm shower or bath first to soften the coarse pubic hairs, use a shaving cream to lessen the chances of razor burn, and navigate your way with the razor very carefully. It’s not uncommon for people to leave a strip of hair (or some other design of your choice) to make them feel less child-like.

If this is your first time shaving, know that when the hair starts growing back, you’ll probably feel itchy and uncomfortable for a few days. Use a soothing lotion to quell the itchiness. After the first or second time shaving, it won’t be itchy or uncomfortable as the hair grows back. Also beware of ingrown hairs. Make sure you exfoliate or use a cream to help reduce ingrown hairs. My preference for getting rid of the occasional ingrown hair is to exfoliate for a few days and then take a clean pair of tweezers (disinfected with rubbing alcohol) and pull the hair out. This method offers immediate relief. Hair removal by shaving usually lasts a few days, but you won’t need to touch up for at least a week.

The Brazilian Wax (removal of all hair in the pubic region, except for a strip if you like) is my preferred method for hair removal. The amount of pain you feel depends on your pain tolerance. The person waxing me over break told me that most people flinch as the hair is pulled out, while some others cannot stand the pain. I don’t think it hurts much at all. That said, it hurts less if you’ve had it done before.

If you’re self-conscious having someone “down there,” rest assured that your waxer doesn’t care about what your nether region looks like. The waxer is only concerned with removing all the hair. In case you’re concerned about the wax itself, it won’t burn you; your waxer will make sure it stays the right temperature. It’s just comfortably warm. If you’re not sure about getting all of your hair waxed, you can also get a bikini wax, which only removes the hair along your bikini line, and you can specify how high the line goes. Waxing lasts 3-4 weeks before the hair even starts growing back.

Never use a hair depilatory like Nair or Veet: you will give yourself a chemical burn. I learned this the hard way. The bottle doesn’t say not to use it around the bikini area, it just says not to use on sensitive skin. I don’t have sensitive skin, so I figured I would be okay. I got a mild chemical burn in the most uncomfortable place possible. I got the stuff off as quickly as I could and suffered the rest of the day. I procured some aloe lotion that evening; 24 hours later, I was okay, but peeling (gross in its own right).

If you’re still not sure about removing your pubic hair, try trimming it. It will keep the area neat and hair-in-mouth-free for oral sex and masturbation; you’ll reap the benefits of having hair, and gain some of the perks of not having any, while still feeling like an adult.

E-mail me at BiCoModernSex@gmail.com to ask anonymous questions, request that I address a specific topic, or to share your experiences. Unless you tell me you intend to harm yourself and/or others without mutual consent, your e-mail is confidential and anonymous.

Signing off for now, remember to always Kovet Yourself.

Modern Sex: Priming the Pump For a New Year

By Kama Yama

Hello and welcome to Modern Sex! A column about everything you want to know about anything sex related— sex toy reviews, tips and tricks, sexual health, and sometimes, my own sexual (mis)adventures. I have the advice and knowledge you need for a healthier, happier, and more informed sex life.

We’re all back at school, starting another school year…for some it is a new experience, living away from home, others are about to enter what is commonly called “the sophomore slump” (you will survive), while still others are abroad, waiting to go abroad, or waiting for their friends to get back, while the rest of us are both excited about and dreading senior year. Sadly, the summer is over and so are summer flings, but just because you’re tucked away in the bi-co it doesn’t mean that the fun has to end. While I’ve found that most people are okay with solo fun if you go long enough without any action, if you’re not up for waiting for that moment and want to try for a bi-co hook-up or relationship, remember the following tips:

1. Appearance matters. Ladies— You’ll do better by blending in. Wear jeans and flip-flops; go easy on the make-up, and just a hint of cleavage. A little goes a long way. Guys— Just because the ladies outnumber you it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t take care of your own hygiene. For All— Please shower and brush your teeth. Nobody wants a stinky partner.

2. The right time and place. Look for crowded nighttime events that involve dancing. No one will ask you to dance. Take some initiative if you want to get some action in your life! This works for everyone. While we’re ALL afraid of rejection, we’re ALL flattered to have someone come dance with us. Plus, a crowded dance floor is the perfect opportunity to sneak a kiss that could lead to many different possibilities.

3. Don’t appear intimidating. Take a buddy, but not a group. Groups are intimidating, though you shouldn’t be afraid to go dance with someone dancing in a group (3+ people).

4. Branch out. If the bi-co isn’t doing it for you, you probably aren’t alone. Take a buddy or two to check out the social scene at another Philadelphia area college. With the number of students in the area, if you are willing to put in the effort, you will definitely find your scene! SEPTA even has late-night weekend hours beginning September 7!

If you’re not into the dance/party scene, or want something tamer than that midnight romp with a cutie on campus, get to know your classmates. The best way to get some action, sexual or otherwise, is to make an effort and talk to people. Put yourself out there. Introduce yourself. Critique the professor, discuss the class, or compliment the other person’s shoes or shirt. Quit being shy! Start talking to people and make some friends. Good friends make for good lovers, and if you’re not looking for a lover, then you’ve got a new friend, and that’s always a good thing, whether you’re a fresh(wo)man or a senior.

If you do become involved with another person, sexually or otherwise, please be safe. If you are engaging in sexual activity, use condoms (male or female) and/or a dental dam. Also talk to your health care consultant (the doctor) about other methods of protection and for the early discovery and/or prevention of any sexually transmitted infections. If you are emotionally involved with another person, please do not allow that person to take over your life. Remember that your friends want to see you too, and they want you to be safe and happy. Above all: Take care of yourself - physically, emotionally, and of course, sexually.

That’s it for now. Email me at BiCoModernSex@gmail.com to ask anonymous questions or request that I address a specific topic, all emails will remain anonymous, unless you tell me you intend to harm yourself and/or others without mutual consent.

Signing off for now, remember to always Kovet Yourself.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16205010)

Choosing a Toy for Women

June 12, 2010

When you think you’re ready to buy a toy, it’s often daunting, and people shy away from it, mostly because there are so many options available. I hope this post will help you find your perfect toy.

Clitoral Stimulators

Clitoral stimulaters are typically vibrators, but they can also include pumps (which often also vibrate). There are two varieties of clitoral vibrators, generally: insertable and not insertable. You have more options with how you use an insertable toy, obviously, since it can be used internally as well, but often, the non insertable toys pack a lot of power, and are really great for partner play, solo play, or just a quick warm up. There are some clitoral stimulators that can be worn under your clothing and are controlled with a remote.

Vaginal Stimulators

Vaginal stimulators include dildos, vaginal exercisers, and of course the vibrator. The primary difference between a dildo and a vibrator is that the dildo does not vibrate. Dildos also often have a base that can be used with a harness to make a strap-on toy. I have not yet come across or noticed any vibrating strap on dildos. Both have their advantages and disadvantages. I prefer dildos to vibrators for internal stimulation because internal vibrations annoy me. I do like using a vibrator clitorally while using a dildo internally, but that’s my personal preference. Dildos and vibrators both come in a variety of shapes and sizes, realistic, not realistic, made for gspot stimulation, made for dual stimulation, or just the traditional straight vibrator/dildo. Remember that a vibrator can always be used as a dildo and as a clitoral (or other body parts) stimulator, but a dildo is more limited.

A vaginal exerciser are typically weighted balls that one puts in the vagina. They often have another ball inside of them that cause vibrations when you move. The idea is to use the vaginal muscles to keep the balls in the vagina for extended periods of time, thus strengthening the pelvic floor. I have a pair, they usually make me super wet and horny, so I don’t often wear them.

Anal Stimulators

Anal play is still taboo, and often thought to be painful and scary. If done correctly, it is neither. Anal stimulators are a good way to build up to anal sex. Anal toys generally fall into three categories: beads, plugs, and vibrators. Anal beads are a beads on a string, often graduated, going from smaller to larger. They provide a feeling of fullness and pleasure when pulled out during orgasm. An anal plug is a device that sits just inside the rectum giving a feeling of fullness and pleasure. It will always have a wide base so that it does not slip inside and get lost. These come in a variety of shapes and sizes. An anal vibrator will vibrate, it too, has a wide base so that it will not slip inside and get lost. While anal plugs and vibrators sound similar to dildos and vibrators, they are not. Never use a toy that does not have a wide base in the anus. Never go from anal play to vaginal play without changing condoms or washing with an antibacterial soap. That is a very good way to get a very bad infection, so just don’t do it. Also, always use a lubricant when indulging in anal play.

Other Toys

There are a variety of other toys available on the market, such as ticklers, blindfolds, clamps, paddles, restraints, whips, crops, etc. Most of the other toys are most effective with a partner, so I won’t get into those now, but those are best considered and discussed with your partner.

I hope this post has been helpful in learning about the variety of toys. If you want more details on any of them, let me know and I will be happy to give more details. Coming up: sex toy materials.

http://modernsex.wordpress.com/2010/06/11/we-vibe-part-ii/

We-Vibe Part II

June 11, 2010

It’s been over a year since I’ve written. Initially, I was going to write soon after the previous post about other toys, but then I thought that maybe it would be better if I wrote about the We-Vibe with a partner. So here I am, finally writing again after finally having remembered to use the We-Vibe with a partner. I’ve been with and broken up with partners over the last year (okay, so the person I was with before and someone else), but I kept forgetting the We-Vibe, until last night. And so, dear readers, I am back!

As I mentioned in my previous post, the We-Vibe is a u-shaped vibrator, the slimmer end going into the vagina and the wider end resting against the clit. The original We-Vibe only has two settings (not including off) – low and high. The We-Vibe II has 9 settings – various levels of vibration and pulsations. I don’t have the new version of the We-Vibe, so I’ll just focus on what I have.

Last night, my partner came over. It had been roughly six months for me, and three months for him. Needless to say, both of us were horny and ready for a hot fuck. After two games of pool and dancing around the topic, we went for it. We started on the pool table, moved to a chair, and then ended up in my room, where I asked him if he wanted to try something a little different. He agreed, and so I rolled over to open the drawer where I keep the We-Vibe, pulling out the glasses like case, saying that I hoped that it kept its charge from when I charged it a few weeks ago. I slipped it in and turned it on, then my partner pushed himself into my now vibrating pussy. Admittedly, I was mildly afraid of the vibrator plus his dick being too much for me and being uncomfortable, but once my partner was in, I was perfectly comfortable. My partner smiled as he pushed in deeper, feeling the vibrations. And then we fucked with the We-Vibe.

I have to say, I really hate having a vibrator in my vagina. I think it’s annoying. I prefer using dildos internally and vibrators externally. Unfortunately, the We-Vibe does not have separate controls for what goes inside and what goes on the outside, so I had to put up with the internal vibrations. That being said, the We-Vibe pressed into my g-spot even when the position (missionary) didn’t allow for g-spot stimulation. When my partner stopped thrusting and just pushed his pelvis against mine, he pressed the vibrator into my clit. It. Felt. Amazing. There were times when I felt like the We-Vibe would slide out, but it never did. I can’t wait to use it again and try it in different positions, particularly doggy style.

I asked my partner what he thought afterwards. He said he really liked it. I think he liked that he could feel the vibrations on both sides – both on his cock, but also on his pelvis when he pushed himself into me. He said it was fun. I hope he genuinely enjoyed it.

From here on – I will talk about toys, positions, relationships, etc. Anything sex related. If you want to see something in particular, let me know by commenting on a post!

Remember to always Kovet Yourself.

http://modernsex.wordpress.com/2009/02/06/a-toy-for-two/

A toy for two

February 6, 2009

Some time ago, I received an offer for a free We-Vibe, a small u-shaped vibrator that can be worn DURING intercourse. What makes it different from all the other toys for couples is that the penetrated partner wears it (that is, it does not go on the penis or on the strap on dildo). I thought the concept was awesome. So after an anxious wait, I received my We-Vibe. I hurried back to my room and tried to open the packaging. The hardest part about the We-Vibe was opening the packaging. I had to charge the vibrator before I could try it out.

The charger just plugs into the outlet (it doesn’t come with a converter) and the opening plugs into a small indentation on the external part of the vibrator. After about 45 minutes, the vibrator was fully charged. So, I slid it into place and turned it on. The slightly slimmer side slips into the vagina and the slightly wider side rests against the clit. The side that goes on the outside also has 3 little indentations in it – the two larger ones are for the low – off – high switch, while the small indentation is the charger port. I first turned it onto the low setting. It was a pleasant vibration. And then I put it on high. It was quite the powerful toy for such a small motor. Both sides of the We-Vibe vibrate. Can you imagine how that would feel with a partner?

Unfortunately for me, I have not been able to try the We-Vibe with a partner. I made up for it though. I slipped a condom over one of my other toys and had some solo fun with the We-Vibe in place. Since the We-Vibe is 100% medical grade silicone and so are most of my other toys, I had to use a condom on one because silicone should never touch silicone. If they remain in contact for an extended amount of time, the surfaces will become tacky. I found the the We-Vibe pressed into my g-spot perfectly and the vibrations went through the front wall of my vagina. It was fabulous. I only wish I could try it with a partner to try the partner friendly positions that solo play does not comfortably allow for.

The major downsides of the We-Vibe are that you have to go from low to off before you can put it on high, so you lose vibration momentarily, and I found that a few times, it started to slide out of me. The perks of the We-Vibe include its discrete carrying case that looks like an eye-glass case, it’s rechargeable, it is waterproof, and its small and discrete. If you really wanted, I think you might be able to get away with wearing the We-Vibe out in public if it is somewhat loud. It’s certainly too loud for class, but perfect for a party. The down side of public usage is that 1. chances are that it will run out of battery power, and 2. it would require you to put your hands down your pants to turn it on or off, but it could be fun nonetheless.

We-Vibe care is easy. Just wash it with warm soapy water. And either pat dry with a towel (nothing that would leave fibers) or air dry. Then put it with the charger in the hard case.

Valentine’s day is just a week away. Treat yourself (and your partner if you have one) to a We-Vibe. Tell me how you feel about using it with your partner! I found the cheapest place to buy them was at: The Basic Touch.

Signing off for now, remember to always Kovet Yourself,

KY

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16205029)

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(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16205040)

Today, I’m taking the day off to fix my paper. I have six more articles to read (not very long) and a diversity essay to write. I need to get on this. I want this paper to my professor either tonight or tomorrow night. I have a lot of citations to do. That will take the longest, unfortunately. Why I didn’t do the citations the first time around is entirely beyond me.

That’s all I really have. I’m super unmotivated, my con law prof is awesome, and I’m ready to be done with school.

http://thelifeofalawstudent.wordpress.com/2010/09/28/res-judicata/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16205077)

When will this bullshit end?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16207752)

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Rieddhi Shah

Student

Location

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Industry

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Rieddhi Shah's Overview

Past

* 2010 National Convention Steering Committee Member at Alpha Phi Omega National Service Fraternity

* Inter-Chapter Liaison at Alpha Phi Omega National Service Fraternity, Mu Mu Chapter

* Recording Secretary at Alpha Phi Omega National Service Fraternity, Mu Mu Chapter

Education

* Life University

* Oglethorpe University

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#17353112)

If you have to congratulate yourself for one week of working out, you're fucked

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16228575)

I wasn’t going to post at all tonight, wrote 2L Shelly Gupta, but I just happened to look at my school email and saw a ridiculous additional amount of reading that the professor tacked on for next week. Not only is the professor new [at Ohio Northern University—Claude W. Pettit College of Law] and thus TERRIBLE at teaching, he’s going all over the place in the book, and now he just added an unnecessary amount of reading onto the prior assignment. I’m willing to guess that only a handful of people will remember to do it. Unless it’s on a syllabus, it’s not a real assignment in my world. Seeing that there’s no syllabus, it’s not a legit assignment. I’m sticking to it. I have other things I need to do, like pick a paper topic and write another paper. The next paper will be a third of the length of the one I just finished, but still, I’m not ready to write another paper. I’m out of words.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16260057)

http://thelifeofalawstudent.wordpress.com/2010/10/04/its-done-and-now-im-exhausted/

Well, that splains why she's at a TTT

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16273825)

I have taken a few classes since I have a degree in liberal arts.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16273882)

http://encyclopediadramatica.com/College_Sex_Bloggers

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16302100)

http://thelifeofalawstudent.wordpress.com/2010/10/13/swamped/

I’ve hardly posted lately…I feel like I’ve been swamped in fed tax homework…I feel like that’s pretty much all I do. Of course that isn’t true, I do my homework for other classes too, and sometimes, I hang out with friends. Actually, today, a friend and I went to dinner and a movie – mid week girls night. It was fun. The movie (Easy A) was ironically funny because this friend and I have had some of the conversations that were part of the dialogue in the movie. I happened to take my knitting with me – I’m knitting a cowl for part of my halloween costume. In the 1.5 hours that we were in the theater, I added 4 inches to the cowl. It’s awesome. I will be done in no time. After I finish the cowl, I am planning on making a wristlet. The wristlet promises to be more challenging mostly because I am going to change the pattern a bit, and I am going to be reading a knitting chart for the first time. I consulted with my friend on this particular chart because it didn’t make sense to me. It didn’t make sense to her either, but when I mentioned what the forum said about it, she said that made more sense.

Today, over lunch, I talked to one of my closest friends from undergrad. We talked for 1.5 hours about everything. We had a month’s worth of catching up to do. She’s horrific at returning phone calls, in part because she’ll leave her phone in a place where she can’t readily or easily retrieve it. Usually when she has about 7 messages from me, she’ll email me and tell me she’s sorry for not calling and ask when I’m free. It was really fantastic catching up. Our conversation included the phrases, “I love him, I really do, but I’m not ready to be a wife! I’m not ready for that social connotation or responsibility.” As well as, “Sometimes I’m nice.” I have to say, for the millionth time, I really do have the best friends a person could have, we can talk about everything. I was fortunate to go to a college that really fostered friendship. My two closest friends in law school have trouble understanding how I’m so close to a handful of women from undergrad, but if they could only meet my friends from undergrad, they would understand. I hope some day, they will all meet.

Aside from school work and the occasional bit of fun, my life is unexciting. I’m all obsessed with knitting because I don’t have long to get this stuff done – I only came up with my costume idea a week ago. I need to procure a scythe. Maybe over the weekend when I’m home on Saturday I’ll visit the halloween costume store for this accessory. I’m so excited that I will be warm on Halloween this year. Also, I have a fed tax mid term in a week. It’s not cool, but I just learned today that it only goes through chapter 4. I can totally handle that! There was just one thing I was unsure about in the first four chapters. I’ll figure out what it is tomorrow…maybe. I have civil practice tomorrow night. I’m terrified. I may or may not have gotten the adjunct in a little bit of trouble.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16302162)

Midterm

Posted on October 18, 2010 by thelifeofalawstudent

I have a mid term in my tax class this week. I’m about half way through the outline of the code. I still have to go back through to put in the relevant case law. When I said in the last post that I feel like all I do is tax has never been truer. I wish I could get a break from this. I just have a few more weeks and then I’m done. I can do this…right?

I consulted with my twitter friends about the cowl I’m knitting for my halloween costume. According to them, I’m done. I think I’m going to add 2-4 inches and decrease by 5 stitches in the next round that I do. I will potentially finish this cowl tonight, if I get through the rest of the tax code at a reasonable hour. I’m excited to cast on for this wristlet I’m making, especially since I’ve figured out how to get these tiny beads onto a worsted weight yarn. In retrospect, I probably should have bought the sports weight. Oh well.

I took a two hour nap after con law. It was great. I feel awake and alive. Now I’m working on my tax outline…I’m more than half way through. After I finish going through the code, I’m going to go home and go through all class notes and put in case law that the prof referenced and maybe look at a few problems to make sure I know how to do everything. I feel like I’m preparing less than most of my classmates, but I don’t think it’s worth going crazy over this thing, particularly considering it’s only 20% of the final grade, and I don’t know that any amount of studying can prepare you for it…it’s just a matter of knowing the code, knowing where to find things, and understanding the process. I’m most concerned about the multiple choice. I’m okay at code interpretation, or I’d like to think I am, and the calculation is going to be a hit or miss. It’s a toss up. I just need to be able to recognize the “call of the question” and I’ll be okay.

I should get back to this outline. I’ll post again later in the week, after this midterm, while I’m on fall break.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16340331)

http://jdjustjurisdoctoris.blogspot.com/2010/11/msj.html

I've moved

So I had to move my blog off Wordpress and bring it here...and change the name. While I like the new name better, I did have a consistent readership going at the old place - I also really liked my setup there. Why did I move? Because some uncensored and unmoderated message board twerps picked up on it and were making rude comments about me. I don't gossip on here...I try to keep it to law school and my life as it relates to it. Sometimes I wander away from law school and end up talking about life, but seeing that my life consists of law school, I don't have much else to talk about.

So for the post itself. I've officially knitted two wristlets, one for me and one for a friend. The second one is a bit bead heavy at the bottom because I was bead happy. The only way I can take some of these beads off is if I break them. The top half looks a lot more elegant.

I finished my work for the week yesterday, except a tiny bit of reading for con law that hasn't been emailed out. I meant to wake up at a reasonable hour today and either work on outlining my bus org book or work on citations in my paper. I didn't get out of bed until late, so that didn't happen, which is unfortunate. I'm receiving a take home midterm in my bioethics class today, it's due on Tuesday, I was thinking I should probably work on that today, because after 7 tomorrow, my night is shot. I'm not sure how much I'll get done on Saturday, and Sunday...it depends on how late I'm up/out on Saturday. I will also have to do fed tax homework on Sunday, and also con law reading...though I'm thinking that maybe I'll do my con law reading tomorrow after class. Why would a professor hand out a midterm over halloween? That's just mean. I'm sure he didn't mean to do it on purpose, he probably forgot that it's halloween because he really is one of the nicest profs at the school.

Speaking of bioethics. I know my paper topic. I'm borrowing something I wrote when I was in undergrad...the topic anyway...I'm not sure if I'll be able to keep the paper itself because the paper needs a lot of cleaning. The problem is that this paper should be longer than what it currently is, and we're only supposed to write 10ish pages. How can you write only 10 pages for a bioethics paper? I don't understand.

I think that's all I have fore now. I need to shower and get to school because a prof assigned a group project. It's so lame. It's cutting into my time that I would otherwise be using for citations right now.

http://jdjustjurisdoctoris.blogspot.com/2010/10/halloween.html

Halloween!

Well, it's not ACTUALLY Halloween, but we're celebrating tonight. I'm going with my friend to the party early because we're friends with the host (and she's dating the host), and getting ready there. I'm going as a reaper. Only not full on reaper, modified girly reaper. I knitted my own cowl for it. I picked up a sickle for $5, and made myself a wristlet for the essentials: phone, id, money, keys. I'm excited. It's going to be a fun night.

I have not spent enough time doing work the last couple of days - I went out on Thursday night, and then wound up at a classmate's house. There are a bunch of Icelanders visiting and so I was out with them. It was a lot of fun, though I was up entirely too late. It was so worth it though. I had a really excellent night filled with good company and good conversation - about feminist theory (MacKinnon and pornography primarily), no less. (Academic conversations are absolutely the way to my heart.)

On Friday, I made it to fed tax, but after tax, I came home and passed out. I didn't wake up until con law was almost over. Good thing it was just a guest lecture and no attendance and I didn't really miss anything! When I woke up, I worked on marking citations, and then got ready for the weekly potluck. I made my favorite - massour daal. It was awesome...almost as good as my mom's. I was proud of myself. I made two cups uncooked, so it was a lot cooked. Amazingly, all but one serving spoon was left. It was just that good. I got a lot of compliments on it, and several people, including an Icelander asked for the recipe. My friend asked me to make it for her sometime so that she could have more of it. I mingled and talked to people and then my friend and I left between 10:15 and 10:30. I stayed at her place chatting with her until 11, and then came home. I marked more places where I need to cite in my paper. They're all "supras" after a point, so it's not too bad, I just have to find the actual citation within the now 32 pages of goodness. I wound up over at another friend's place, drinking wine and talking. It was really nice. And now, I'm doing my citations and writing this and an email. I really don't feel like doing work, but I have so much to do.

My bioethics professor assigned our take home midterm on Thursday, and it's due on Monday. It's three essay questions and there are no page limits or anything. It's awful. I meant to start on it yesterday, but finding my citations in my sources took forever. I'm doing my own cite checks. If this paper gets published in a law review, it will be among the easiest articles to do a cite check on because this is the third time I'm going over it. Or maybe it's the second. Whatever. Every time, I find new citations that I mistyped before. It's rather unpleasant. Cite checking my own paper is awful, I can't imagine having to check other people's papers. At least I know what all my sources are and where I found everything. I feel bad for all those law review people. I feel your pain. Advice to anyone writing law school papers, do your citations as you go and do them properly...it will save you and everyone else involved a whole lot of trouble.

Alright, I need to quit procrastinating and get back to work. I only have 5ish hours to get stuff done. Tomorrow and Monday are going to be awful days for me. Fed tax and con law for sure tomorrow, plus working on the midterm. Maybe I'll leave con law until monday between classes. That might be a better idea.

http://jdjustjurisdoctoris.blogspot.com/2010/10/aftermath.html

The Aftermath

Happy Halloween, Readers! This time for real since it's actually halloween today.

My aftermath of the Halloween party isn't nearly as bad as my classmates', I'm sure. I only had three mugs of beer and then I quit for the next 3-4 hours because I had to drive and take my friend's dog out. I don't get hangovers to begin with, but I woke up feeling fine - just late because I went to bed really late. The friend's boy thanked me for taking the dog out. We were there from the very beginning because we got ready there. It was actually really convenient because my friend and I left our coats and stuff in her boy's room and it was good. My friend and another friend had some friends from undergrad up - one was the BP oil spill and the other was the bachelor - he actually had a dozen roses that he was handing out to people. I got one that I lost soon after. I have no idea where it went. Whatevs. He was really into me, he was also really cocky and seemed sure that he would get to come home with me. Not so much. I don't bring people home. My apartment is my space. Not to mention the fact that after being around so many people for that many hours, I have to unwind alone...even if that just means just sitting at my desk staring at the screen not doing anything.

Anyway, the party was fun and it was good, though most of the 2Ls didn't show up because they went to another party hosted by another classmate. My friend and I were not invited to this party, which is fine, we had fun at the party we went to and probably wouldn't have been at the other party very long even if we had been invited. My costume was a semi sexy reaper. I managed to break my sickle by dropping it before the party even started, so it was repaired with scotch tape. It was awesome. My upper half stayed pretty warm, waist down I was cold, and my hands were cold. I left at probably 3:20 AM to take my friend's dog out, and because I was wearing high heeled boots, I decided to take them off and put on my fuzzy shoes. Even my socks were icy cold when I took them off. I got back to my place around 3:40 and stared at a blank screen for a little, then watched an episode of Archer, because my friend, P, told me to. I didn't realize until I was almost all the way through the episode I was watching, that I was watching episode 8 and not the first one. Oops. Next time I have time to watch, I will go back and catch the beginning.

Today, after waking up, I was struggling to get going, so I decided that I would really clean my apartment. I vacuumed hardcore. And by hardcore, I mean I used the hose attachment and went all along the edges of the walls, up and down corners, I moved furniture...I crawled under my desk, I vacuumed the silk plants, and even the window shades. My apartment looks clean. I just need to reorganize my desk and do some dishes. I am not capable of keeping my desk clean. It's just not possible. Well, it might be if I didn't keep works in process spread all over my desk. I have a scarf I'm knitting for my dad on the desk plus my paper and some of the resources that go with it on my desk, and now my camera has joined the mix, plus all of the usual things to be found on a desk, like pens and paper.

Tax homework still hasn't been posted, so I'm going to assume at this point that we're not going to have any. I have got to get started on this midterm...I'm thinking two questions today and one tomorrow. Time to get cracking!

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ndiana Bar

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2012

Northern and Southern US District

Courts for Indiana

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EDUCATION

O

hio

N

orthern

U

niversity

Pettit

College of Law

Ada, OH

J.D.

May

2012

Relevant Course Work:

Advance Legal Research

;

Estate Planning

;

Introduction to Criminal Practice; Advance Criminal Practice; Introduction

to Civil Practice

; Federal Income Tax; Gift, Trust & Estate Tax

; Domestic Relations

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Public Interest

in Law

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Association of Women 2010

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Student Bar Association Curriculum Committee Representative 2010

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2011;

Public Interest Legal Association

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Gupta, Shelley,

A Polygraph Test Wouldn’t Know the Truth if it Hit It wi

th a Brick: Perpetuation of the Normalization of the

Violence Against Women

, 34 Women’s Rts. L. Rep. (Forthcoming Spring 2013).

Gupta, Shelley, Indiana Pro Bono Commission Summer Intern.

“Is Pro Bono Disappearing? A Provoking

Article.”

The Indiana Lawyer

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Res Gestae

.

March 2008.

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ONU Civil Litigation Clinic, Lima, OH

Certified Legal Intern

Aug. 2011

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Jan. 2012

I c

onducted client meetings to discuss client’s concerns and potential solutions to the

ir problems.

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meeting,

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the necessary

documents

on

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client’s behalf

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I then r

epresent

ed

clients in court at initial hearings, pre

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trial

conferences, and final hearings at which I

conduct

ed

witness direct,

c

ross, and redirect examination.

Alternative Dispute Resolution,

Lima, OH

Supervised Mediator

Feb. 2011

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May 2011

I m

ediated criminal disput

es by listening to the parties and

discerning the issues in

the disagreement

between the parties.

Matters included trespass to property, assault, and harassment.

Upon helping the

parties reach an agreement, I drafted an

agreement for each party to sign.

Marion County Prosecutor’s Office

, Indianapolis, IN

Certified Legal Intern

Summer 2011

I w

orked in the Domestic Violence Unit, carrying a

Deputy Prosecuting

Attorney’s caseload

from May through July.

In

court, I c

onducted No Contact Order and Bond Reviews, wrote plea agreements, entered plea agreements on record,

and

conducted

an Invasion of Privacy bench trial.

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r

esearched case law surrounding 404(b) and expert

te

stimony

and I w

rote

various motions, including but not limite

d to a Motion to Quash Subpoena and

Response to Defendant’s

Moti

on for Specific Discovery.

Allen Superior Court, Fort Wayne, IN

Intern

Summer 2010

I drafted opinions on Motions to Dismiss

and Motions for Summary Judgment after checking the citations in the documents

in question.

I

had the chance to

observe

a variety of

proceedings in

all of the Allen County Courts and divisions

, from pre

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trial conferences to court ordered parenting

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time med

iations.

Shambaugh, Kast, Beck & Williams, LLP

, Ft. Wayne, IN

Intern

Summer

s 2006 &

2008

I c

onducted legal research on FMLA, contracts, guardianships

,

legal malp

ractice, probate, and easements. I also had the

opportunity to

assist with trial preparatio

n, including organization of evidence and other documents, review and analysis of

depositions, and

prepare questions for

voir dire.

I was also able to help draft discovery requests and memos to clients

regarding the status of their case

under supervision o

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p

artners

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I

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Indiana Pro

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Bono Commission

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services

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ocales to de

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ermine funding for each county and r

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take form for pro bono requests. In addition, I

w

rote an

article for the Indiana Lawyer.

After my supervisor left, I

h

elped plan and organize “Project Citizen” and “W

e the People”

summer instit

utes

.

UNDERGRADUATE EDUCATION

Bryn Mawr College

Bryn Mawr, PA

A.B.

Philosophy

May 2009

!

Joy Simonson Internship Grant 2007

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Self Governance Association Vice President and Acting President

2008

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Philosophy Major Representative

;

Founder of the Hindu

Student Group

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Student Ambassador

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South Asian Women

King’s College London

Fall 2007 Semester Abroad

London, UK

MEMBERSHIPS

Indiana Bar Association

Indianapolis Bar Association

Allen County Bar Association

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Drafting common estate planning documen

ts.

Drafting common civil and criminal pleadings and motions.

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ertified in

WestLaw Next and Lexis Advance.

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; substitute teaching.

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Hon. Judge David Avery

Allen County Superior Court

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Fort Wayne, IN 46802

Phone: (260) 449

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3491

Email: judgeavery@gmail.com

Melissa Arvin

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,

Dom

estic Violence

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Marion County Prosecutor’s Office

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327

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John Martin

Professor of Law

Ohio Northern University College of Law

525 S. Main Street

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Ohio Northern University

College of Law

525 S. Main Street

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Nancy Armstrong

Director of Law Library & Professor of Law

Ohio Northern University Colle

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525 S. Main Street

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(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16751170)

lol :)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16751187)

"Speaking of bioethics. I know my paper topic. I'm borrowing something I wrote when I was in undergrad...the topic anyway...I'm not sure if I'll be able to keep the paper itself because the paper needs a lot of cleaning. The problem is that this paper should be longer than what it currently is, and we're only supposed to write 10ish pages. How can you write only 10 pages for a bioethics paper? I don't understand."

Admitting, in writing on the internet, that you are self-plagiarizing from a paper written for a previous class for a new paper for a bioethics class = intelligent.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16751188)

she sounds semi-retarded

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16751200)

Monday, November 15, 2010

MSJ

MSJ = Motion for Summary Judgment. I hate writing pleadings and motions. They're obnoxious. Really, what takes the longest is doing the research and reading all the research. Writing it is pretty form-like. It's annoying. I'd much rather be thinking about stuff and then writing about what I think about - my own unique ideas about something more substantive. This pleadings and motions stuff is not for me.

I'm writing about defamation and am literally in the middle of reading a case. I feel like every case I read points me to another case that I need to include. I'm sick of reading these cases...I just want to write. Maybe I'll read this case and the other case I already have and then as I'm writing, if I need more, I'll find and print whatever else I need. That seems like a better way of going about doing this. Also, we're supposed to cite according to the way Ohio cites. I don't like the way Ohio cites. It isn't all that much faster or easier than the Bluebook method. Indiana, however, has a fabulous method - just use the regional reporter. My judge really only cares about the regional reporter and pinpoint citations. It was great.

Anyway, I just wanted to do a quick update to say how much I hate writing motions and pleadings. I miss my paper. I kind of can't wait to get back to it over j-term. Also, I'm changing the title from "Polygraphs can't tell the truth, they can only perpetuate violence against women," to "A Polygraph Test Wouldn't Know the Truth if it Hit it with a Brick." 'Punched it in the face' doesn't quite work since a polygraph test doesn't have a face. There are two reasons for this change: 1. I like the second title better, and it's what I wanted to call it, but I didn't think the prof grading it would be receptive to the title, but now that it's graded and he's no longer involved, I can have a better and more ironic title, and 2. John was giving me a hard time about the title at the bar. Of course, he chose to give me a hard time the day I turned it in, and it was too soon. I told him he was a jerk for that, and later told him I really don't mind it because I liked that he challenged me, but he's hardly talked to me since. Well, it was too soon. That's 6 months of thought and work! And I'm going to be putting in another month or so soon.

It's a quarter to 11. I REALLY need to get back to this MSJ. I want to get it done tonight. I have got to get on the fed tax outline tomorrow.

http://jdjustjurisdoctoris.blogspot.com/2010/11/end-of-semester-1-of-2l-year.html

Saturday, November 20, 2010

End of Semester 1 of 2L Year

I'm convinced that classes absolutely should have ended on Friday. That would have given us a full week to study for finals, instead, the last day of classes is Tuesday. How dumb is that? And how lame is it that I had two profs assigning reading and homework for the last two classes? I understand the second to last class, but not the last class. Seriously? I have better things to be doing...like learning all this material.

I actually finished all of my class work last week. The only thing I did for class this week was fed tax. I refused to touch the business organizations reading. If I do it, it will be while studying for the final. That's a big IF. Why would you assign work for the last couple of classes? Do professors not realize that students don't care any more? All they want to do is study and survive finals. At least, that's how I feel and I know how some of my friends feel. One of my profs cancelled the last class. I'm SUPER happy about that.

During the week, I worked on my tax outline, wrote a motion for summary judgment, put citations into my paper for legal and medical ethics, and went to class. Nothing terribly interesting. I got an "excellent" on my summary judgment. The grading scale is "what the hell were you thinking to excellent." All kinds of bogus if you ask me.

Anyway, I've just finished my fed tax outline. I'm about to go to school to trade the code book for my business organizations book. I don't know that I'll do any more work tonight, seeing it's about 10 PM. I'm thinking just relaxing and a movie.

I don't really have anything to say, but it's been a few days since I last posted, so I thought I would.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16751208)

This is shockingly incisive analysis.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16751216)

http://www.linkedin.com/in/shelleygupta

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16751241)

this chick makes rasqie sound like a fucking rhodes scholar

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16751572)

http://jdjustjurisdoctoris.blogspot.com/2010/12/finals.html

Anyway, then my friend and I are going to Vegas. I've never been. I have mixed feelings about it. Mostly because my friend said I won't get to sleep. She's absolutely going to hate me because I get ridiculously cranky when I don't sleep. Also, I'm dying to go to the gym when I get home. I have glorious plans of double spinning on Wednesdays, spinning on Monday, and hopefully work out twice a day while I'm home. I've been horrible about working out this semester, so I'm going to get in shape and stay in shape, until finals next semester. That's the goal.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16760439)

:(

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#16827485)

it seems appropriate to sing the chorus of "Mine Eyes Have seen the Horror" sung to "battle hymn of the republic" Failure, failure, degradation! failure and humiliation! Failure, failure, academia! The truth shall soon be known!

Posted 5 weeks ago

http://flavors.me/shelleygupta#a4a/facebook

Shelley Gupta

A philosophy major and a law student. Where will life take me?

http://encyclopediadramatica.se/College_Sex_Bloggers

Part-Time Key Holder

Origins

Public Company; 10,001+ employees; Cosmetics industry

June 2011 – August 2011 (3 months) Indianapolis, Indiana Area

Helped customers find what they're looking for; diagnosed skin care concerns; gave mini facials; explained products to customers; worked the cash register; opened and closed the store and all duties surrounding opening and closing procedures.

Domestic Violence Unit, Certified Legal Intern

Marion County Prosecutor's Office

Government Agency; 201-500 employees; Law Practice industry

May 2011 – August 2011 (4 months) Indianapolis, Indiana Area

Carried a Deputy Prosecuting Attorney’s caseload May – July; Worked in Domestic Violence Unit; Prepared files for court, called alleged victims to see if they corroborate the probable cause affidavit or if they are recanting; Conducted No Contact Order and Bond Reviews, wrote plea agreements, entered plea agreements on record, conducted Invasion of Privacy bench trial; Worked with Victim Advocates to get a statement from alleged victims regarding their concerns; Attended taped statements and depositions; Observed a child molestation trial; Researched case law surrounding 404(b) and expert testimony; Wrote Motion to Quash Subpoena; Wrote Response to Defendant’s Motion for Specific Discovery; Wrote Response to Defendant’s Motion to Exclude Witness

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1440915&forum_id=2#17028361)