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wife is estranged from father, how best to handle?

she doesn't talk to him nor want anything to do with him. do...
Green Laser Beams Parlour
  02/04/13
how old is this mental child you're married to?
concupiscible drab sanctuary volcanic crater
  02/04/13
33
Green Laser Beams Parlour
  02/04/13
meh... if she get's to 40 and still can't do it herself, the...
concupiscible drab sanctuary volcanic crater
  02/04/13
only an issue now that we're going to have a kid. seems kind...
Green Laser Beams Parlour
  02/04/13
Maybe she was raped and doesn't want to address it or make i...
plum corn cake
  02/04/13
this
Orange fortuitous meteor point
  02/04/13
see below. issue was her parents divorce and her dad bei...
Green Laser Beams Parlour
  02/04/13
What were the circumstances that led to the estrangement? I...
Orange fortuitous meteor point
  02/04/13
father cheated on her mom back in the day (when wife was 18 ...
Green Laser Beams Parlour
  02/04/13
He's shitty and you shouldn't tell her otherwise, but don't ...
Sticky elite pistol useless brakes
  02/04/13
Asking for money but telling the dood he can't bring his wif...
fuchsia stirring roast beef idiot
  02/04/13
that's what i told her in the first place. i mean, i don't b...
Green Laser Beams Parlour
  02/04/13
but she still wanted the money.that ain't respectable bro.
Twinkling Casino Multi-billionaire
  02/04/13
Titcr. That other stuff happened 10 years ago. Time to move ...
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  02/04/13
yeah, it's really the latter issue that is bringing the issu...
Green Laser Beams Parlour
  02/04/13
If you talk to her in the context of your kid but not about ...
Sticky elite pistol useless brakes
  02/04/13
So what exactly did he do wrong again? Your wife is an immat...
concupiscible drab sanctuary volcanic crater
  02/04/13
A lifetime grudge over 18 year olds playing house is ridicul...
Amethyst frisky elastic band private investor
  02/04/13
no, my wife was 18 at the time; her mom would have been in h...
Green Laser Beams Parlour
  02/04/13
im inclined to think OP is a nigger
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  08/19/18
Leave it the fuck alone.
Milky Party Of The First Part
  02/04/13
ty for your wise words xospouse
Green Laser Beams Parlour
  02/04/13
I'm serious. Nobody gets estranged from a parent without go...
Milky Party Of The First Part
  02/04/13
lol bullshit. white women get estranged for any reason an...
Marvelous learning disabled black woman
  02/04/13
...
razzmatazz naked ceo mediation
  08/19/18
probably should let it be. if you hate your kid not knowing ...
Angry soul-stirring principal's office
  02/04/13
i won't push it. just wondering how to handle it at the poin...
Green Laser Beams Parlour
  02/04/13
Oh congratulations on impending fatherhood. Your life will ...
Milky Party Of The First Part
  02/04/13
ty. six months and counting...
Green Laser Beams Parlour
  02/04/13
oooh when are you going to namethread!
Wine fluffy sneaky criminal
  02/04/13
my wife wants something traditional (e.g. Henry) which i am ...
Green Laser Beams Parlour
  02/04/13
My two rules: - don't pick some deliberately mis-spelled ...
Milky Party Of The First Part
  02/04/13
totally agree with first and, in principle, the second i'...
Green Laser Beams Parlour
  02/04/13
I like traditional names e.g Peter, Paul, Mark, Michael, Joh...
Milky Party Of The First Part
  02/04/13
i hate biblical names
Green Laser Beams Parlour
  02/04/13
i'd just be positive about the fact that he is showing inter...
Angry soul-stirring principal's office
  02/04/13
best to not
Wine fluffy sneaky criminal
  02/04/13
is he rich? will she inherit from him now? if yes and no, th...
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  02/04/13
Daddy dial is TCR.
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  02/04/13
If she strikes you as a reasonable, mature person in most ar...
Free-loading bistre temple therapy
  11/05/13
your life is less stressful if they don't make a show of hav...
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  11/05/13
Eh, I'd leave it be for now, maybe push after the kid is bor...
aromatic windowlicker step-uncle's house
  11/05/13
Update on this, 5 years later?
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  08/19/18
Start with a finger in the pooper, move on from there
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  08/19/18


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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:35 AM
Author: Green Laser Beams Parlour

she doesn't talk to him nor want anything to do with him. do i push her to reconcile or just leave it be?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565355)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:36 AM
Author: concupiscible drab sanctuary volcanic crater

how old is this mental child you're married to?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565359)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:37 AM
Author: Green Laser Beams Parlour

33

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565361)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:38 AM
Author: concupiscible drab sanctuary volcanic crater

meh... if she get's to 40 and still can't do it herself, then yeah, maybe you need to push her along. but give her some time man.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565363)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:39 AM
Author: Green Laser Beams Parlour

only an issue now that we're going to have a kid. seems kind of mean for him not to have any contact with his grandchild.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565367)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:45 AM
Author: plum corn cake

Maybe she was raped and doesn't want to address it or make it a bigger deal. Let it go, brother, let it go.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565382)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:45 AM
Author: Orange fortuitous meteor point

this

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565385)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:47 AM
Author: Green Laser Beams Parlour

see below.

issue was her parents divorce and her dad being an asshole. i think she should move on as it was 10+ years ago but she can't seem to get over it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565395)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:42 AM
Author: Orange fortuitous meteor point

What were the circumstances that led to the estrangement? I'm inclined to think that if a 33 year old woman is estranged from her father, the father was likely a gaping asshole.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565375)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:46 AM
Author: Green Laser Beams Parlour

father cheated on her mom back in the day (when wife was 18 or so), her parents got divorced, he married woman he was having affair with and moved to bali, wife thinks her mom was short-changed financially in divorce.

also, wife didn't want him to bring his new wife to our wedding; she ultimately got her way but he renegged on paying for 1/4 of wedding cost. that was pretty much the straw that broke the camels back in that she subsequently cut off all contact post-wedding (which was 2+ years ago).

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565390)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:49 AM
Author: Sticky elite pistol useless brakes

He's shitty and you shouldn't tell her otherwise, but don't deny your child a grandfather.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565406)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:50 AM
Author: fuchsia stirring roast beef idiot

Asking for money but telling the dood he can't bring his wife is pretty shitty man

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565411)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:53 AM
Author: Green Laser Beams Parlour

that's what i told her in the first place. i mean, i don't blame the guy for being annoyed that he can't bring his own wife to the wedding of his daughter.

her mom was fine with the new wife coming, it was just her who had an issue with it, so, yeah, she held out knowing the financial consequences so i guess i respect her for that.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565422)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:56 AM
Author: Twinkling Casino Multi-billionaire

but she still wanted the money.that ain't respectable bro.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565435)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:56 AM
Author: Hot jade sex offender community account

Titcr. That other stuff happened 10 years ago. Time to move on and reconcile.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565432)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:51 AM
Author: Green Laser Beams Parlour

yeah, it's really the latter issue that is bringing the issue to the fore.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565413)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:52 AM
Author: Sticky elite pistol useless brakes

If you talk to her in the context of your kid but not about the dad being a good dude, it'll work out fine, it seems.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565421)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 1:55 AM
Author: concupiscible drab sanctuary volcanic crater

So what exactly did he do wrong again? Your wife is an immature brat.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565430)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:29 AM
Author: Amethyst frisky elastic band private investor

A lifetime grudge over 18 year olds playing house is ridiculous. How much shit could he have possibly had for a divorce at that age anyway?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565564)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:41 AM
Author: Green Laser Beams Parlour

no, my wife was 18 at the time; her mom would have been in her 40s. they were reasonably well-off and her dad was an accountant who predominantly worked in asia (but was based in australia) so it's entirely possible he had money that he didn't share.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565600)



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Date: August 19th, 2018 8:29 PM
Author: razzmatazz naked ceo mediation

im inclined to think OP is a nigger

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#36645543)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:26 AM
Author: Milky Party Of The First Part

Leave it the fuck alone.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565553)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:28 AM
Author: Green Laser Beams Parlour

ty for your wise words xospouse

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565560)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:29 AM
Author: Milky Party Of The First Part

I'm serious. Nobody gets estranged from a parent without good reason.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565566)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 10:55 PM
Author: Marvelous learning disabled black woman

lol bullshit.

white women get estranged for any reason and no reason at all.

just lol at white people.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22570379)



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Date: August 19th, 2018 8:29 PM
Author: razzmatazz naked ceo mediation



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#36645544)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:28 AM
Author: Angry soul-stirring principal's office

probably should let it be. if you hate your kid not knowing its grandfather, maybe you could raise this once or twice in a nonthreatening/nonpushy way

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565558)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:29 AM
Author: Green Laser Beams Parlour

i won't push it. just wondering how to handle it at the point it inevitably comes up when or soon after it's born.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565565)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:30 AM
Author: Milky Party Of The First Part

Oh congratulations on impending fatherhood. Your life will never be the same.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565568)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:31 AM
Author: Green Laser Beams Parlour

ty. six months and counting...

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565574)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:39 AM
Author: Wine fluffy sneaky criminal

oooh when are you going to namethread!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565596)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:41 AM
Author: Green Laser Beams Parlour

my wife wants something traditional (e.g. Henry) which i am violently opposed to.

looking forward to having that conversation as we get closer...

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565604)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:44 AM
Author: Milky Party Of The First Part

My two rules:

- don't pick some deliberately mis-spelled name, that is so prole (or bogan, in your case)

- don't pick a name that will get him beaten up in school every day for having a faggy or girly name

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565611)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:47 AM
Author: Green Laser Beams Parlour

totally agree with first and, in principle, the second

i'm holding out for wilburforce for a boy but am willing to compromise

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565615)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:49 AM
Author: Milky Party Of The First Part

I like traditional names e.g Peter, Paul, Mark, Michael, John, David etc.

Boy names should be solid. You can get a little more experimental with girl names.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565619)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:52 AM
Author: Green Laser Beams Parlour

i hate biblical names

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565628)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:33 AM
Author: Angry soul-stirring principal's office

i'd just be positive about the fact that he is showing interest/the love that this baby could receive/etc. try not to dwell on the negatives and if she wants to do so, try to stay positive about the positive things that there are (while acknowledging that the grandfather has been shitty in other contexts - bad husband =/= bad grandpa)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565578)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 2:38 AM
Author: Wine fluffy sneaky criminal

best to not

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22565592)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 10:41 PM
Author: crusty anal corner karate

is he rich? will she inherit from him now? if yes and no, then tell her to get back in bed with him.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22570271)



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Date: February 4th, 2013 10:53 PM
Author: Olive Adulterous Water Buffalo Church

Daddy dial is TCR.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#22570362)



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Date: November 5th, 2013 1:41 PM
Author: Free-loading bistre temple therapy

If she strikes you as a reasonable, mature person in most areas in life, leave it alone. There could be a good reason. These things just don't randomly happen

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#24375513)



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Date: November 5th, 2013 1:51 PM
Author: overrated azure public bath

your life is less stressful if they don't make a show of having to spend time together,

your wife is an adult, if she doesn't want to spend time with him, you should respect that

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#24375581)



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Date: November 5th, 2013 2:05 PM
Author: aromatic windowlicker step-uncle's house

Eh, I'd leave it be for now, maybe push after the kid is born, might change her perspective. Also, don't ever get caught cheating, it sounds like she'd make your life hell.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#24375669)



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Date: August 19th, 2018 7:37 PM
Author: hairless odious range tattoo

Update on this, 5 years later?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#36645276)



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Date: August 19th, 2018 8:26 PM
Author: Soggy Hairy Legs Queen Of The Night

Start with a finger in the pooper, move on from there

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2175400&forum_id=2#36645527)