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Date: July 29th, 2014 3:59 PM Author: Costumed Temple Ape dude. Do girls do this all the time? I don't fucking understand cunts, JFC. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023170) |
Date: July 29th, 2014 3:59 PM Author: sick useless selfie wait, she sent them or you did? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023172) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:00 PM Author: Costumed Temple Ape she did. I looked at her phone messages and found flirty text messages with this dude. She sent a half naked photo of her in this dress to him. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023185) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:01 PM Author: sick useless selfie this is prob flame, but time to end the relationship (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023192) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:02 PM Author: Costumed Temple Ape what is flame? I talked to my bros and they said their gf texts other dudes all the time after they fight. Must be some cunt thing. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023208) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:02 PM Author: sick useless selfie well don't date cunts then (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023216) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:04 PM Author: Costumed Temple Ape give me some tips bro. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023226) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:04 PM Author: sick useless selfie i just don't date anyone and that seems to work. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023229) |
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Date: August 5th, 2014 2:22 PM Author: Doobsian deep property legal warrant (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26067050) |
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Date: August 5th, 2014 11:27 AM Author: Pearly fanboi state A confederacy of cucks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26066235) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:02 PM Author: Angry bronze telephone i've had similar experiences. fight or minor disagreement and gf would text her ex. my advice would be to get out now (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023209) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:03 PM Author: Pale orchestra pit juggernaut Same. And when I would confront her about being shady she would do the "DONT YOU TRUST ME?!?!" And then when he'd somehow come up she always did the "DON'T BE JEALOUS AND CONTROLLING!!"
Found via her Facebook that they had a weekend fuck fest and it was over |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:04 PM Author: Costumed Temple Ape LOL that sucks, bro. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023232) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:06 PM Author: Pale orchestra pit juggernaut TBF I was 20 and she was 18-19. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023250) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:06 PM Author: sick useless selfie her friends will tell her that you being "jealous and controlling" actually justifies the cheating (despite having postdated it and being in literal reaction to it) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023255) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:07 PM Author: Costumed Temple Ape tcr. this is what I've heard her say many times. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023264) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:09 PM Author: Pale orchestra pit juggernaut Right, the famous askav (is it askav?) post.
I grow cynical as I age because I used to project this sort of universal sense of justice and righteousness on the female population. I bought into the idea that women were kind and caring about others. But as I get older it's more clear to me that's a fable. Women do whatever is in their best interest, just through a lens of being "a girl," and the social behavior that goes along with it. |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:01 PM Author: sick useless selfie yes askav, the "your space your truth" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023571) |
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Date: August 5th, 2014 9:33 AM Author: Comical gay rehab affirmative action link (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26065727) |
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Date: August 5th, 2014 2:25 PM Author: Doobsian deep property legal warrant http://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=1552283&forum_id=2#17322468 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26067075) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:09 PM Author: bright becky Women do whatever is in their interest. Lol at them having the will or inclination to determine what is actually in their best interest. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023626) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:29 PM Author: Pale orchestra pit juggernaut so are you agreeing in part or not (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023750) |
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Date: July 30th, 2014 1:29 AM Author: Sable yapping hell (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26026749) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:28 PM Author: Orchid effete pisswyrm heaven (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023745) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:02 PM Author: Pale orchestra pit juggernaut Reality: she was unfaithful regardless of the relationship's status
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:03 PM Author: arrogant trailer park The fuck? D. Don't even A. Do not pass go, do not collect $200. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023219) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:03 PM Author: nubile clown regardless of your beta choice to snoop on her phone, her behavior warrants ATD (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023225) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:05 PM Author: Costumed Temple Ape I don't usually look at her phone, she does. This time, she pissed me off so bad that I took her phone away to prove that she's shady too and that's what I found. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023240) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:07 PM Author: nubile clown "to prove that she's shady too"
so your shadiness was in question |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:08 PM Author: Costumed Temple Ape It's always in question with her even though I don't do shit. I actually don't have energy leftover from work to be shady. Jesus, I'm not even that attractive to be shady. Is this a girl thing? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023269) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:10 PM Author: nubile clown unattractive guys are the shadiest because they are the most insecure and most likely to seek attention from any place they can get it (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023282) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:02 PM Author: sick useless selfie insane female logic at work here (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023573) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:05 PM Author: nubile clown my knowledge of this is purely anecdotal, it's true
and I know it's probably common pov that an unattractive guy would be loyal/grateful/etc.
but insecurity or brokenness, in men and women, is the root of infidelity/shadiness |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:22 PM Author: sick useless selfie no the insane female logic was linking insecurity/brokenness to attractiveness (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023719) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:29 PM Author: nubile clown you're right
being unattractive doesn't necessarily make one insecure
however, I will stick to my point fully that being insecure/broken does increase the odds of one being unfaithful |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:31 PM Author: sick useless selfie yes, it does
the problem wasn't with saying unattractive people were insecure, it was with saying attractive people were secure
also, attractive people cheat all the fucking time, there are fewer consequences to them and they can find someone new far more easily
the idea that it's more likely that an unattractive person cheats is the worst sort of female rationalization (see tinder threads) and i know you can do better |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:34 PM Author: nubile clown yeah, for sure - I suppose when we started this convo the word shady was being used which triggered a different image of the situation at hand
here's my thought on shadiness:
a guy who is perceived as loyal and good and like he's not a threat can be sneak-attack shitty based on some long-term, deep-rooted past of being rejected or unnoticed by women and then boom, maybe one day he gets more attention than he ever did, and he can't resist that wish fulfillment
but overall, yeah, all people are insecure in some ways and those insecurities might breed a cheater |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:37 PM Author: sick useless selfie the other thing you're not getting is that while insecurity can breed cheating in SOME, there's no reason to think it breeds ALL or even MOST cheating and every reason to think it doesn't. which of the following do you think caused tiger woods to cheat pathologically - insecurity based on some weird childhood or adolescent trauma - constant unfettered access to high-quality pussy in a volume so enormous that most men lack the testosterone, dopamine, or even the god damn working memory to process it |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:40 PM Author: nubile clown how about we just say in most cases
also using tiger woods as an example is hilarious
he's a super famous athlete
the average unattractive dude doesn't have that access
and yes, I do believe that insecurity is still applicable lol
we just may not agree on this |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:47 PM Author: sick useless selfie we're talking about attractive people, not unattractive people. those were the ones you said are "safe".
the point isn't to win an argument with you or make fun of you or anything because i don't think we're in a real xo argument and i like you a lot. but it is important to point out the real and vicious ways in which hypergamy manifests itself more or less everywhere in the female psyche. i mean you seem to literally be saying that having *greater* access to other women makes a man *less* likely to cheat. this is EXACTLY the sort of rationalization we see from women in tinder pumo's threads. there is a trait you see yourself as valuing (integrity/honesty/fidelity or whatever) and having that as part of your romantic self-image makes you feel good. it's not superficial to value the steadfast reliable people. and then what do women do when they are always drawn to the most attractive guys and friendzone the reliable wizards? well, just like shrews who write articles lambasting the male privilege of "nice guys" but get wet watching bonobos fuck each other and reading chads' lick messages on tinder, women find a way to link the trait they actually like (in this case, physical attractiveness) to the (unrelated or even inversely correlated) trait they think they're supposed to like, which society says they should like, which they can look in the mirror and tell themselves they like.
and it's not even a problem that you do it but there is an entire culture now devoted to justifying these sorts of reactions, while all the mainstays which in older times might (in lieu of actual cuckolding which was quite common) allowed men with the "i'm a good person because i say i like these" traits access to the gene pool as well as the chads and alphas of the world have dissolved. |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:54 PM Author: nubile clown first note: I never said attractive people are safe
this conversation started within the context of a shady, self-identified unattractive male
secondly, there are one million ways to skin the cat that is infidelity and the roots of it
access to women versus probability of being able to fuck them are different things, by the way
you seem upset, though, and honestly I'm not quite sure I understand your second paragraph, so I won't dispute it (sorry) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:55 PM Author: sick useless selfie not at all upset, but i think you're being dishonest with yourself, and people have told me recently that i should be realer with friends in situations like that. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023918) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:58 PM Author: nubile clown I suppose I'm just confused at this point
you seem mad at female dating and mating habits
I'm not sure I'm being dishonest about the fact that I believe all types of men, particularly insecure, unattractive ones might fall victim to some temptation
and women, obviously |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:00 PM Author: sick useless selfie i actually don't mind female dating and mating habits so much. like i said it's the dishonesty and lack of self-reflection that i mind. in terms of the habits themselves i generally toe the shitlib line and say male habits are worse.
your dishonesty is in valuing attractiveness etc. and trying to cover this up with gestures at reliability, fidelity, integrity etc. it's just like the chicks in tinder pumo threads who say "I NEVER respond to messages like this! But..." |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:59 PM Author: Sable yapping hell excuse fem logic here also, but i agree with cac that insecurity/dissatisfaction is a key factor in infidelity and being a "self identified unattractive" can tell us something about insecurity given dat pretty privilege. i dont see her saying that "actually" being attractive matters. can you explain how this is hypergamous or whatev (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023961) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:04 PM Author: sick useless selfie "unattractive guys are the shadiest", she started with, and then followed that up by making explicit an assumption that unattractive guys tended to be insecure/broken and attractive guys tended not to be, and then followed THAT up by making explicit an assumption that insecure/broken people were more likely to cheat, and then followed THAT with an assumption (which she's disavowed but without which her line of reasoning has no purchase on the issues at hand anyway) that insecurity tends to outweigh other factors, including and most relevantly ease of access and quality of alternate options, in determining cheating behavior among men. so there are the issues. it's hypergamous just for the reasons i've described: it's an out and out lie, a thinly-veiled attempt at equating attractiveness with virtue and unattractiveness with moral weakness, and women do things like this so they can pretend they care about the right things when actually they get wet watching the discovery channel explain bonobo anatomy in hair- and cock-raising detail. all of this should be logically and rhetorically clear as crystal so i'm not sure what the issue is (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023990) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:07 PM Author: bright becky (redpill philosophy masterman)
EDIT: just read this bro's poasts ITT in their entirety and now I sort of feel bad for knocking him. |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:25 PM Author: sick useless selfie np brother, i am a bit unhinged on this issue sometimes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024104) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 7:15 PM Author: bright becky NP, and I think I understand why having this conversation with CAC is causing you to get so worked up. As goes CAC, so goes Western Civilization. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024366) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 7:18 PM Author: sick useless selfie it's like if the mona lisa were smiling cause she had a big strawberry-flavored vibrator on her junk while she was being painted. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024386) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:07 PM Author: nubile clown this wasn't a campaign against unattractive people
or a stroking of the virtues of those who are attractive -- or my assumption that by being attractive one has more virtue
I just discussed one end of the equation (that unattractive dudes - who, by the way, self-identify that way - might be SURPRISINGLY shadier and more likely to have a hole in their soul to fill through opportunities presented to them), but that doesn't mean I believe that attractive dudes are secure, stable, and good-to-go
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:12 PM Author: Mustard Candlestick Maker Potus it really has little to do with objective attractiveness and everything to do with that persons subjective self-worth and percieved desireability. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024032) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:13 PM Author: nubile clown right, but you guys seem to be missing that my entire response here, and the weight of it, was exploring a contradiction to the OP's assumption that unattractive guys can't be shady (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024035) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:18 PM Author: sick useless selfie a "contradiction" which is in fact at odds with reality, which is why this subthread has now become about the ways in which people convince themselves of things that are at odds with reality and their motivations for doing so. again, no offense intended, i think you're terrific and sweet and good and maybe one of the last people in the world i would expect to see as deeply hypergamous, which is both why your reaction troubled me and why it seemed like a productive conversation to have. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024060) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:20 PM Author: nubile clown I'm not sure my response here is about what I am at odds with versus just an exploration of possibilities
I'll admit sometimes my argument structure is flawed in this lawl bort universe so I might not make the most sense at times |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:21 PM Author: sick useless selfie i think you've made perfect sense. don't undercut yourself by figuring that when someone disagrees with you you've expressed yourself poorly. you did fine itt, it's just that, logically, one of us must be wrong. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024079) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:08 PM Author: Sable yapping hell ok yeah i see but yeah she did revise the attractiveness claim and i would guess that "insecurity" broadly put is the driver of most cheating behavior and not "opportunity" broadly put. i've looked this up before i think. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024012) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:14 PM Author: sick useless selfie my belief is that this is very false, and i also believe self-reporting can't be trusted when it comes to this (no, i don't particularly trust men to be self-reflective about these issues either). i think women like to think things like this, that everything is about emotions and feelings and trying to heal past traumas and victimizations and stuff like that, and i think men when given the opportunity will probably latch on to things like this in order to justify their own cheating behaviors. it is worth noting that in order to become romantically involved with someone of the opposite gender, and a fortiori in order to cheat, men must do different things than women must. these things are generally not linked to insecurity in the ways that female promiscuity might be. they are linked to attractiveness, confidence, height, emotional disregard, and other chad mcalpha bonobocock leitmotifs. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024037) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:24 PM Author: orange cruise ship windowlicker men cheat bc they're insecure
and women like confident guys NOT assholes, ok??? haven't you ever heard the way chad fratbro talks to his fratbros in the fratbrohouse? it's 100% respectful anti patriarchal feminism mixed with bouts of profound sadness & regret about their insecurity leading them to betray their cherished partners
unlike sexist rapist BETA VIRGIN ASSHOLES who couldn't make the lacrosse team
jfc wake up and listen you patriarchal thug #yesallwomen |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:25 PM Author: sick useless selfie rofl ty (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024106) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:29 PM Author: Sable yapping hell open ur eyes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024128) |
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Date: August 23rd, 2014 4:59 AM Author: Dull halford 180
"men cheat bc they're insecure "
i particularly hate this one... |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:28 PM Author: Sable yapping hell no i agree with you that the bonoboleitmotifs express differently for the sexes (however many of them there are!! :) but the ones you mention (height/confidence/disregard) do, in fact, connect to insecurity for me. so, if you had a ladyfriend who is in charge of some chad modeling agency and has access to miles of chads daily i would worry more about her if she had some "ugh someone prove to me that i am still desirable and worthy" bone to pick than if she was generally high t and was nicely square jawed (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024121) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:33 PM Author: sick useless selfie it's possible that you're right about women and i'm right about men.
note that men don't "worry" about other men cheating. men don't "fall into" affairs (neither do women, really, but they seem much more likely to pretend they do). this is because men need to make actual decisions, take actual initiative, and put forth actual effort in order to have any sexual conquest at all, and in fact if there are any exceptions to this rule they are very, very attractive and would thus bolster my side even further. |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:43 PM Author: Sable yapping hell is this an irl-based argument? i agree that masculine style justifications of cheating behavior differ from fem style ones. i agree that women annoyingly call on the lulzy "the situation PUSHED me to do a horrible thing babe"! but, the "nature" based boy shit like "evolutionarily we men just cannot 'do' monogamy dear" seems bad, too. so classic justifications of this sort, even if the genre differs by sex, always seem disingenuous? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024200) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:51 PM Author: orange cruise ship windowlicker humans are rationalization machines.
think of it as Searles room but: irl qua data input-->rationalization-->output |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 7:02 PM Author: sick useless selfie of course men can do monogamy and i personally have never even considered cheating on a significant other. like anybody else i also have both male and female friends who cheat. the ones who cheat are more attractive than the ones who don't and the men who cheat are more likely to talk about it openly as though it's a completely natural continuation/extension of normal male courtship attempts than the women who cheat. i would expect neither of those things to surprise anybody but apparently the first surprises cac and the second surprises you.
i'm not sure i've made myself clear on why it matters for cheating that men have to make an effort in a way women don't. for men, most of the time, and especially men who are both unattractive and insecure, soul-edifying women who want to be around them and make them feel worthwhile and cared for don't simply pop up in groceries or in bars. they are created by the men themselves out of perseverance, tactical insight, and dumb luck, like pygmalion's statue made flesh. a man who wants to cheat, like a man who wants to have sex in the first place, must be able to try and fail and try again and so on, without being cut deep by rejections and without doubting his ability to eventually sculpt something lifelike.
and all sorts of men fall by the wayside in this process, and more than anything else what bothers us on xo about feminism is that feminists seem to believe this failure has a moral component, beyond lack of self-belief or an incapacity to as it were put in the time. the ones too sensitive for casual sex are old-fashioned prudes. the ones who don't want to be taken for predators are passive-aggressive or "nice" with the quotes around. and now the insecure ones are unreliable. the world will keep spinning around the sun and genghis khan's myriad whores will keep finding ways to say that their brothers and cousins and neighbors and friends are not just non-warlords, not just insufficiently attractive and confident and self-interested to continue their line, but bad people for being so. so it goes. that is hypergamy. |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 7:28 PM Author: Sable yapping hell and, archeologically speaking, the sisters and mothers and brehlettes of the warlords all found to be basically all whores. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024427) |
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Date: August 27th, 2014 10:00 AM Author: 180 gas station 180 Scholarship (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26216745) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:29 PM Author: bright becky This response walks right up to the truth but doesn't quite go all the way. Given enough opportunities, almost everyone will cheat. The people who successfully avoid cheating are those who are conscientious about shaping their lives in a way to avoid situations where the opportunity to cheat will present itself. Framed this way, the insecurity leads to higher probability of cheating argument crumbles. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024124) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:10 PM Author: Mustard Candlestick Maker Potus underrated (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024019) |
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Date: August 5th, 2014 2:32 PM Author: Doobsian deep property legal warrant 180 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26067134) |
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Date: March 8th, 2018 6:37 AM Author: nudist carnelian goal in life holy fuck twist was a monster (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#35559802) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:28 PM Author: Costumed Temple Ape tcr. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023747) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:11 PM Author: bright becky If this is the real CAC, you'll always be my girl, but god damn is this a retarded poast. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023633) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:13 PM Author: nubile clown explain (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023647) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:19 PM Author: bright becky In an ideal world, no one would ever have a need for snooping around their SO's phone or accounts, but OP's relationship is obviously not ideal and he apparently had a basis for suspecting something was up. His GF's transgression was way, way, way worse than picking up her phone and looking at text messages.
If he had discovered that his GF was sending emails to other guys with racy pictures after a months long snooping campaign that involved key-loggers, surreptitious use of cams, and other shady shit, then you would have a point in bringing up the behavior of the BF, but not here. The BF's behavior is worth merely a footnote at most. |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:26 PM Author: nubile clown it's important to slap the wrist of any bad behavior
what she did is far worse obviously
and dump-worthy
that you read my post in this thread as some kind of advocacy for infidelity is bizarre
I understand that in a moment of extreme confusion or suspicion that looking at someone's phone might be the only way to discover some truth, but surely the symptoms that led up to this were enough to dump her without the final stab of such an act
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:32 PM Author: bright becky I didn't read your post as advocating infidelity, nor did I imply that was your intention.
You did, however, use misdirection to draw attention away from the GF's objectively SPS behavior. I suspect this could have been reflexive on your part. |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:34 PM Author: nubile clown yeah sometimes we're bad writers
pwned by reflexive yet again |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:39 PM Author: bright becky It's all good. Almost everyone's first tendency is to look for ways to justify the conclusion that the moral calculus is more favorable to "our side" than it really is. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023812) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:41 PM Author: nubile clown my side is what's right
not my gender
hth |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:47 PM Author: bright becky wait, what? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023865) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:16 PM Author: hilarious native I'm with you, nothing wrong with pointing out that phone creeping is inherently creepy, even when justified. It doesn't seem like she even locked it though so bets are off and it's on her to use basic security. Etiquette only gets you so far in keeping people from snooping in your phone when they suspect they're being cucked. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024054) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:23 PM Author: bright becky Is snooping around someone else's phone a neutral activity? Of course not, but in a situation like this (committed relationship with objectively reasonable to suspect something is up) it is practically a non-event. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024090) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:26 PM Author: hilarious native Pretty much, especially if she's so lacking in securing her own privacy as to not even lock it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024112) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:33 PM Author: bright becky The only reason to mention the BF's snooping it in the same breath as what the chick did is to capitalize on our SPS ability to weigh relative values and our resulting tendency to default to categorical conclusions. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024146) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:43 PM Author: hilarious native It hasn't come up in a while, but xo has a history of being very pro-snooping on gf's, even when nothing is suspicious. In that context, I understood exactly what she meant.
I agree sometimes you can be forgiven for being a little creepy and snooping in these situations. |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:46 PM Author: Sable yapping hell which keylogger is more prestigious!! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024216) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:48 PM Author: bright becky I guess my point is that whether or not the BF can be forgiven is immaterial since the GF's behavior is orders of magnitude worse. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024228) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:49 PM Author: Costumed Temple Ape This kind of thing has happened many times bro. And she's not even paying rent. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024232) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:04 PM Author: aquamarine stimulating gay wizard laser beams She's letting you know how little value you bring to the relationship. She can be back on the cock horse within 24 hours if she wanted to.
It's just a power play, so ignore her feeble attempts. |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:06 PM Author: Costumed Temple Ape How hard is it to find a cunt that doesn't do this shit and is WIFE material? I think it's because I'm in fucking SF, all these liberal women turn me off so bad. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023254) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:58 PM Author: Stubborn jade nibblets This...
My gf tries to pull this shit from time to time when we're fighting. she'll subtly make hints at how dudes hit on her at the bar.
My response... if you think you can find someone better or you aren't happy with me, by all means go for it.
She shuts up right away and says some shit about how she doesn't want to be with anyone else but I should do x and y differently. |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:14 PM Author: bright becky Depending on how serious you get, I would also use this at a later date as a basis for why her hanging out with whatever sluts she currently goes out with causes you to question her dedication to the relationship. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023654) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:06 PM Author: Shivering Self-absorbed Institution you should celebrate her courageousness in sharing her body with other men! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023248) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 4:08 PM Author: chest-beating swashbuckling lodge milk Will need to see the pix to make accurate judgement (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023272) |
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Date: July 30th, 2014 1:29 AM Author: sexy talking stage digit ratio (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26026746) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:20 PM Author: hilarious native Your relationship is DONE HERE. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023706) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:23 PM Author: Orchid effete pisswyrm heaven who started the fight? women will sometimes manufacture an argument when they want to cheat so that they feel less guilty about it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023721) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:26 PM Author: sick useless selfie or when they don't want to cheat but just want "excitement" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023736) |
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Date: July 30th, 2014 3:00 AM Author: erotic sound barrier sadly this is true (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26027170) |
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Date: July 30th, 2014 3:02 AM Author: sick useless selfie you may be an outlier, cutie (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26027174) |
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Date: July 30th, 2014 3:05 AM Author: erotic sound barrier i was like that when i was young, dumb, and full of cum (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26027179) |
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Date: July 30th, 2014 3:07 AM Author: sick useless selfie yea getting old sucks esp. how nothing else seems to change (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26027184) |
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Date: July 30th, 2014 3:09 AM Author: erotic sound barrier my life improves with age (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26027187) |
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Date: August 5th, 2014 4:07 PM Author: Chestnut coiffed giraffe i remember, sort of, your letter to all the guys you've fucked. it was a surprisingly short list. my question is, have you ever cheated? |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:44 PM Author: Hyperventilating sneaky criminal i can guarantee u she's already had at least a half a mile of dick since ur last convo with her (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023842) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:47 PM Author: hairraiser twinkling uncleanness ladyboy Here are some statistics on cheating http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2013/10/18/why-people-cheat-_n_4118291.html?page_version=legacy&view=print&comm_ref=false (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023867) |
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Date: September 20th, 2014 9:28 PM Author: copper hairy legs interesting - taking it at face value, it def supports and refutes some of the claims of almost everyone itt. twist can u do a breakdown? im on fone so cant easily switch back and forth/c&p (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26364750) |
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Date: September 23rd, 2014 4:05 AM Author: copper hairy legs (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26379919) |
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Date: September 23rd, 2014 4:09 AM Author: sick useless selfie i don't trust most of those numbers (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26379926) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 5:51 PM Author: flatulent office Dump her. Women are a PARASITE (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023891) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:00 PM Author: Sable yapping hell flame i hope =/ (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26023968) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:10 PM Author: azure domesticated mad-dog skullcap site the fact that you're even checking her phone means the relationship is over. you'll never trust each other. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024018) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:14 PM Author: beta brass nursing home Gonna need to see the pictures before I can give you a full assessment. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024041) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:15 PM Author: Yellow Keepsake Machete http://autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2560918&mc=38&forum_id=2 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024045) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:28 PM Author: irradiated black woman "racy pictures of her in a dress"
does not compute |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:37 PM Author: Costumed Temple Ape update from OP in case anyone is interested. Came home early and she started saying sorry to me. I said "go away". She said "But I didn't cheat." LOL, why did I date this cunt in the first place. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024167) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:38 PM Author: irradiated black woman WAS SHE WEARING A DRESS??????!!!!!!111111 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024173) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:39 PM Author: Costumed Temple Ape No was in her shrew clothes. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024178) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:40 PM Author: sick useless selfie just update when you dump her. that should be tonight. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024185) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 6:41 PM Author: Costumed Temple Ape actually did it just now. Told her to pack her stuff and get the fuck out of my apartment. JFC, I feel so free.
I didn't break up with her because of this event only. This kind of behavior has happened many times in the past and if I am taking care of some woman (let alone I'm paying for 80% of the expenses) I don't want to deal with this shit and her disrespectful behavior. |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 7:54 PM Author: flatulent office 180 brother. Describe her tears (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024543) |
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Date: July 30th, 2014 3:02 AM Author: erotic sound barrier you made the right choice. she sounded really immature. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26027172) |
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Date: August 5th, 2014 11:29 AM Author: charismatic walnut church mexican What kind of breakup happens between 6:37 and 6:41 with him poasting within minutes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26066245) |
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Date: August 5th, 2014 2:51 PM Author: galvanic volcanic crater flame travels fast across the vast dry scrublands of xo (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26067313) |
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Date: August 5th, 2014 11:41 AM Author: Pearly fanboi state (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26066307) |
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Date: August 5th, 2014 2:47 PM Author: Doobsian deep property legal warrant 180 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26067278) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 7:30 PM Author: Painfully Honest Prole Principal's Office lol more like sha(d)y the poaster amirite? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26024432) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 9:44 PM Author: sick useless selfie (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26025206) |
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Date: July 30th, 2014 1:27 AM Author: sick useless selfie need to be beat to death with a copy of Gender Trouble on live tv and have my posts itt excoriated on twitter for years (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26026735) |
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Date: July 30th, 2014 4:43 PM Author: sick useless selfie oh beat me beat me (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26030030) |
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Date: July 29th, 2014 10:16 PM Author: aqua den athletic conference OOO THAT DRESS SO SCANDALOUS
YOU KNOW ANOTHER NIGGA COULDNT HANDLE IT |
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Date: July 30th, 2014 1:29 AM Author: sexy talking stage digit ratio (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26026750) |
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Date: August 1st, 2014 1:24 AM Author: sick useless selfie (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26039668) |
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Date: August 5th, 2014 11:37 AM Author: exhilarant range jap (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26066289) |
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Date: July 30th, 2014 11:35 AM Author: Splenetic scourge upon the earth worst part is that as soon you break up with her, she has someone lined up to fuck her senseless aka photo receiver dude
you need to line someone up to fuck FIRST and then dump her so she isnt the only one falling straight into rebound sex or you'll feel like shit and regret dumping her
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Date: August 23rd, 2014 4:57 AM Author: sick useless selfie (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2631120&forum_id=2#26189023) |