Sometimes he'd say, "I really think things would be better for us if we could just be intimate again." Or he'd put the baby to bed early and come into the living room with two glasses of wine and a book of poetry-our classic recipe for seduction-but just the thought of him touching me made me recoil. "Maybe I'm just not a sexual person anymore," I told him, and I honestly meant it.The truth is, I wasn't attracted to him anymore. It wasn't that he'd changed-he still had the same floppy brown hair, bright green eyes, and long freckled limbs that had literally made me quiver when I first met him. But in my head, I'd neutralized him as a sexual being. I wanted to be overwhelmed by the sheer power of his masculinity in the bedroom, but I wasn't. Because I felt like the man in our relationship.

...

So nobody was more surprised than I was when I went ahead and fell for another stay-at-home dad.

Here's the difference, though: Jason knows what he wants-and it's not a corner office. He wants to have his afternoons free to hit the park with my daughter or paint or translate the writings of Pablo Neruda. There's nothing thwarted or self-pitying about him. When we're cooking dinner together on Friday nights in a kitchen fragrant with curry, or trying to drink coffee in bed on Sunday mornings while my daughter dances around us, I'm so attracted to him that it's all I can do not to rip his clothes off then and there.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3846205&forum_id=2#35056011)

I felt like myself again-pitching ideas, doing the witty-banter thing in the halls with my colleagues. I felt like myself again-pitching ideas, doing the witty-banter thing in the halls with my colleagues. I felt like myself again-pitching ideas, doing the witty-banter thing in the halls with my colleagues. I felt like myself again-pitching ideas, doing the witty-banter thing in the halls with my colleagues. I felt like myself again-pitching ideas, doing the witty-banter thing in the halls with my colleagues. I felt like myself again-pitching ideas, doing the witty-banter thing in the halls with my colleagues. I felt like myself again-pitching ideas, doing the witty-banter thing in the halls with my colleagues. I felt like myself again-pitching ideas, doing the witty-banter thing in the halls with my colleagues. I felt like myself again-pitching ideas, doing the witty-banter thing in the halls with my colleagues. I felt like myself again-pitching ideas, doing the witty-banter thing in the halls with my colleagues. I felt like myself again-pitching ideas, doing the witty-banter thing in the halls with my colleagues.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3846205&forum_id=2#35056103)

Is that new guy and her’s daughter or old guy’s daughter ?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3846205&forum_id=2#35056113)

holy shit, fatality

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3846205&forum_id=2#35062769)

...

So nobody was more surprised than I was when I went ahead and fell for another working mom.

Here's the difference, though: Janet knows what she wants-and it's not a corner office. She wants to have her afternoons free to hit the park with my daughter or cook or translate the writings of Pablo Neruda. There's nothing thwarted or self-pitying about her. When she’s cooking dinner on Friday nights in a kitchen fragrant with basil and tomatoes, or bringing us coffee to drink in bed on Sunday mornings while my daughter dances around us, I'm so attracted to her that it's all I can do not to rip her clothes off then and there.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3846205&forum_id=2#35057843)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3846205&forum_id=2#35057913)

sahds are pussies. straight women aren't attracted to pussies. for long, anyway.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3846205&forum_id=2#35063024)

A few years ago, my husband, Mark, and I were at one of those hip downtown restaurants sipping mojitos and nibbling on lime-spiked seviche when one of my bosses appeared from a cloud of Cuban-cigar smoke and patted my shoulder. When I introduced him to Mark, he naturally asked what he did for a living. We both froze.

"I do some freelancing," Mark said.

"He studied film at NYU," I said at the same time.

Mark looked at me and shrugged. "I stay home with our daughter," he said, as my colleague quietly balked.

"He makes it possible for me to do my job," I said, laughing. But inside, I was mortified. Technically, I had it all back then, including a gorgeous toddler and a cool job.

What I didn't have was a husband I felt proud of.

God knows I wanted to be proud of him. Mark is smart and funny and the only person I know who gets off on explaining why the Sherlock Holmes tales are more colonialist than patriarchal. And if you asked me about somebody else's stay-at-home husband, I'd be all over the subject, spouting statistics about how important the father-daughter bond is to girls' self-esteem and how limiting it is to expect women to mind the home front. But living it was completely different.

Maybe it's because the plan wasn't for Mark to be a stay-at-home dad. I went to work when he started graduate school, thinking that I'd head back for my own Ph.D. once he was done. I envisioned us as hard-core academics, reading passages from Joyce to each other while I put together a fancy dinner of organic rutabaga soup with apple crème fraîche swirls on top. Instead, I fell in love with my first job at a small food magazine, and eventually, after a few promotions, I found myself working as a staff writer for a national women's magazine.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3846205&forum_id=2#35058014)

when non-chads are not allowed to be masculine or alpha, this is the consequence.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3846205&forum_id=2#35062916)

same goes for when women aren't allowed to be feminine.

i've always felt the true benefit to feminism was that it allowed certain exceptional women to do their own thing, and it recognized that there were a few square-peg women who couldn't really fit well into a round hole.

but, as with anything progressive, it was taken way, way too far, and now it's basically ruining our country and its social fabric.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3846205&forum_id=2#35062983)