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This partner at a law firm I once worked at's daughter died,...
Rough-skinned philosopher-king
  01/21/18
Female law partner? LJL
sooty turdskin
  01/21/18
...
well-lubricated razzle-dazzle range legend
  01/21/18
was she hot?
odious lavender library ceo
  01/21/18
I thought so, she always looked like this one particular mov...
Rough-skinned philosopher-king
  01/21/18
clearly the daughter.
odious lavender library ceo
  01/21/18
haha. Well when I knew the mother she was pretty but I guess...
Rough-skinned philosopher-king
  01/21/18
of course.
odious lavender library ceo
  01/21/18
...
sooty turdskin
  01/21/18
...
Hilarious main people den
  01/21/18
Lol
Electric tattoo
  01/21/18
PROTIP: you will always be in the right for extending condol...
Sable base rigpig
  01/21/18
cool. Should I just omit anything about how I found out?
Rough-skinned philosopher-king
  01/21/18
the more stalking detail the better usually around funerals ...
odious lavender library ceo
  01/21/18
yes, yes, this is very helpful..
Rough-skinned philosopher-king
  01/21/18
just don't send a "sorry ur daughter died. Thank."...
twinkling sinister double fault
  01/21/18
lol, it won't look like that, although I don't know exactly ...
Rough-skinned philosopher-king
  01/21/18
can you find her home address to mail a card? or stop by the...
twinkling sinister double fault
  01/21/18
she died a couple of years ago. We aren't in touch, I was sn...
Rough-skinned philosopher-king
  01/21/18
lol a couple of years ago? Just let it go, you aren't in tou...
twinkling sinister double fault
  01/21/18
a year & couple of months.
Rough-skinned philosopher-king
  01/21/18
i think it would be weird. I wouldn't want to get a card or ...
twinkling sinister double fault
  01/21/18
Yeah, I should let it go. We didn't part on the best terms a...
Rough-skinned philosopher-king
  01/21/18
CR
sooty turdskin
  01/21/18
lololol
Saffron Party Of The First Part Affirmative Action
  01/21/18
...
Buff scourge upon the earth
  01/21/18
your message is confusing. you should buy him a drink someti...
outnumbered claret pistol
  01/21/18
Not confusing: you must have been wasted when you read this,...
Rough-skinned philosopher-king
  01/21/18
lol
odious lavender library ceo
  01/21/18
i guess someone that has to mince around asking questions li...
outnumbered claret pistol
  01/21/18
Nothing wrong with a warm message if you mean it and genuine...
Exciting Scarlet House Death Wish
  01/21/18
I'm weirded out about the suddenness of her death and don't ...
Rough-skinned philosopher-king
  01/21/18
how did she die/
odious lavender library ceo
  01/21/18
Something weird where an important function just stopped wor...
Rough-skinned philosopher-king
  01/21/18


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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:07 AM
Author: Rough-skinned philosopher-king

This partner at a law firm I once worked at's daughter died, should I send her condolences even though it would be obvious I was googling her to find her and happened to see the obit? I never knew the daughter, actually I worked for this lawyer so long ago she had the kid after we parted ways.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200860)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:37 AM
Author: sooty turdskin

Female law partner? LJL

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201035)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: well-lubricated razzle-dazzle range legend



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204585)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:07 AM
Author: odious lavender library ceo

was she hot?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200866)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:09 AM
Author: Rough-skinned philosopher-king

I thought so, she always looked like this one particular movie star I thought. But do you mean the daughter? Yes, pictures of her show that she was pretty good looking.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200872)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:09 AM
Author: odious lavender library ceo

clearly the daughter.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200874)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: Rough-skinned philosopher-king

haha. Well when I knew the mother she was pretty but I guess it depends what age you're looking for. The mother would be older now of course.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200879)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: odious lavender library ceo

of course.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200881)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:37 AM
Author: sooty turdskin



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201037)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:33 PM
Author: Hilarious main people den



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204404)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: Electric tattoo

Lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204566)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: Sable base rigpig

PROTIP: you will always be in the right for extending condolences in these situations

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200882)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:12 AM
Author: Rough-skinned philosopher-king

cool. Should I just omit anything about how I found out?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200891)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:14 AM
Author: odious lavender library ceo

the more stalking detail the better usually around funerals and deathbeds.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200901)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:16 AM
Author: Rough-skinned philosopher-king

yes, yes, this is very helpful..

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200910)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:14 AM
Author: twinkling sinister double fault

just don't send a "sorry ur daughter died. Thank." work email

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200900)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:15 AM
Author: Rough-skinned philosopher-king

lol, it won't look like that, although I don't know exactly what its going to say or how I'm going to send it. She's retired I think - and I only have what I think is her facebook address.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200907)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:23 AM
Author: twinkling sinister double fault

can you find her home address to mail a card? or stop by the visitation to express condolences in person?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200961)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:28 AM
Author: Rough-skinned philosopher-king

she died a couple of years ago. We aren't in touch, I was snooping.

I found her email address. Is that too impersonal?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200990)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:29 AM
Author: twinkling sinister double fault

lol a couple of years ago? Just let it go, you aren't in touch, no need to bring up a death from years ago.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200994)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:30 AM
Author: Rough-skinned philosopher-king

a year & couple of months.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201003)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:34 AM
Author: twinkling sinister double fault

i think it would be weird. I wouldn't want to get a card or email from an ex-coworker I haven't spoken to in years expressing condolences for a loved on who died over a year ago.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201019)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:38 AM
Author: Rough-skinned philosopher-king

Yeah, I should let it go. We didn't part on the best terms anyway.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201040)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:38 AM
Author: sooty turdskin

CR

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201042)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 1:52 AM
Author: Saffron Party Of The First Part Affirmative Action

lololol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201239)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: Buff scourge upon the earth



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204548)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 1:46 AM
Author: outnumbered claret pistol

your message is confusing. you should buy him a drink sometime.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201209)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:31 PM
Author: Rough-skinned philosopher-king

Not confusing: you must have been wasted when you read this, if you didn't realize I was talking about a her, not a him.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204395)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:37 PM
Author: odious lavender library ceo

lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204434)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: outnumbered claret pistol

i guess someone that has to mince around asking questions like this probably did take orders from a woman partner



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204536)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:36 PM
Author: Exciting Scarlet House Death Wish

Nothing wrong with a warm message if you mean it and genuinely cared for her in some way. She might be surprisingly touched. Just be a normal human being about it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204423)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:41 PM
Author: Rough-skinned philosopher-king

I'm weirded out about the suddenness of her death and don't think anyone deserves that. But I'm not sure how weird it would be to send the note because we didn't part on the best of terms. I probably won't do it if I'm not even sure about my own motivations..

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204460)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 6:01 PM
Author: odious lavender library ceo

how did she die/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204598)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 7:44 PM
Author: Rough-skinned philosopher-king

Something weird where an important function just stopped working. I don't know if it was brought on by self-abuse (it can be). But it's so true that you can have all the money & prestige in the world but you can't always buy a restart to your body. Makes me squeamish.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35205513)