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Should I feel bad about taking my full 3-month paternity leave?

company has a 3-month policy that matches maternity and pate...
provocative location
  02/20/18
fuck yeah
chocolate stimulating library ratface
  02/20/18
fuck yeah i should feel bad?
provocative location
  02/20/18
no fuck yeah you should take the full amount
chocolate stimulating library ratface
  02/20/18
...
provocative location
  02/20/18
do u actually have a kid?
Fuchsia histrionic trailer park party of the first part
  02/20/18
lol yeah
provocative location
  02/20/18
doesn't have to actually be his
Medicated locus mad-dog skullcap
  02/20/18
how long before shrews demand "peternity" leave
sapphire deranged scourge upon the earth
  02/20/18
Moar like “eternity leave”
Fiercely-loyal claret goal in life
  02/20/18
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sexy narrow-minded cuckold field
  02/21/18
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Nighttime Filthpig Sex Offender
  02/21/18
do you have to be married or can you match some other chick'...
rusted church building
  02/20/18
i'm not sure tbh.
provocative location
  02/20/18
firm-wide email.
rusted church building
  02/20/18
you should only feel bad if you fail to take advantage of th...
Exhilarant Wine Senate
  02/20/18
ty bro. i just get anxious about being fired.
provocative location
  02/20/18
i'm not sure i can help with that, just with whatever moral ...
Exhilarant Wine Senate
  02/20/18
You mean you get anxious about the future FMLA lawsuit payda...
indigo telephone newt
  02/20/18
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marvelous plaza
  02/20/18
what's the grace period after i come back
provocative location
  02/20/18
However long you can credibly claim they retaliated against ...
indigo telephone newt
  02/21/18
good to know friend, ty
provocative location
  02/21/18
Fuck. This has happened to me twice now. I would pay to see ...
Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine
  02/21/18
Relevant to my interests.
Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine
  02/20/18
State your IQ if you have to ask this question?
Curious mediation
  02/20/18
prob 110-120 tbh, not that high.
provocative location
  02/20/18
of course not. America 2018 is a complete $mash&grab
Bright institution
  02/20/18
cr. use this time off to find an even better job for more...
vengeful boiling water theater stage
  02/20/18
spin, ratfucks
walnut death wish half-breed
  02/20/18
...
violent plum candlestick maker sweet tailpipe
  02/20/18
You’re fucking insane if u don’t do this. Holy shit.
Peach dilemma
  02/20/18
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provocative location
  02/20/18
I took two months and got immediately fucked when I got back
Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine
  02/20/18
fucked how?
provocative location
  02/20/18
Director decided I was under utilized. My boss is retiring a...
Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine
  02/20/18
What kind of shit job do you have where you get "writt...
obsidian idiot
  02/20/18
Standard govt. That's not the terminology they use but same ...
Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine
  02/20/18
honestly if you don't think you'll be there much longer, you...
Electric Main People Becky
  02/20/18
hehe
Racy hideous patrolman degenerate
  02/20/18
lol @ this good little goy wagecuck feeling guilty he's taki...
Razzmatazz center mother
  02/20/18
...
vengeful boiling water theater stage
  02/20/18
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swollen ticket booth
  02/22/18
UPDATE: got a job offer today, pay is $7k higher than curren...
provocative location
  02/21/18
I wouldn’t. Sounds objectively worse. The 7k sounds ins...
Fiercely-loyal claret goal in life
  02/21/18
current base is 110, this is 117. assume 15% bonus for both....
provocative location
  02/21/18
I would gladly give up 7k for an additional 2 weeks vacation...
Fiercely-loyal claret goal in life
  02/21/18
Toss up on vacation. Direct reports for sure are not worth 7...
Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine
  02/21/18
Yes
Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine
  02/21/18
expound pls
provocative location
  02/21/18
Better setup. Direct reports opens entirely new field of po...
Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine
  02/21/18
we will have 1-3 more kids. i've had direct reports in the p...
provocative location
  02/21/18
no, that sounds worse in all respects. can you negotiate wo...
Mauve lascivious den internal respiration
  02/21/18
absolutely not. but i've reached the end of the rope at curr...
provocative location
  02/21/18
need more opinions please.
provocative location
  02/21/18
20 minutes one way? Take it, but don't give your boss 2 w...
vengeful boiling water theater stage
  02/21/18
terrible idea.
provocative location
  02/21/18
?
vengeful boiling water theater stage
  02/22/18
they are insistent on the start date? that's lame. id try to...
ruddy background story property
  02/22/18
starting a new job when u have a 2 month old at home isn't i...
laughsome gay wizard
  02/22/18
hell no you shouldn't feel bad. i'm taking like 2, maybe 3 w...
Clear state
  02/21/18
You owe a corporation nothing. HTH!
lavender flirting hominid corn cake
  02/21/18
...
vengeful boiling water theater stage
  02/21/18
What would GC do?
Mentally impaired marketing idea school cafeteria
  02/22/18
It will definitely be held against you. If you plan on leav...
ruddy background story property
  02/22/18
do you feel bad about cashing your full paycheck?
Vivacious locale associate
  02/22/18
cr analogy
fragrant flickering nursing home sneaky criminal
  02/22/18
I just saw what guys ahead of me were doing and followed sui...
nofapping slate step-uncle's house
  02/22/18


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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM
Author: provocative location

company has a 3-month policy that matches maternity and paternity. i took 6 weeks to start. i'm 4.5 weeks in, but chatting with my boss tomorrow. thinking about taking the full time.

i don't see much of a future at this job, should i just yolo?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447233)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM
Author: chocolate stimulating library ratface

fuck yeah

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447235)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: provocative location

fuck yeah i should feel bad?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447242)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: chocolate stimulating library ratface

no fuck yeah you should take the full amount

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447264)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: provocative location



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447266)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: Fuchsia histrionic trailer park party of the first part

do u actually have a kid?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447238)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: provocative location

lol yeah

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447239)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:08 PM
Author: Medicated locus mad-dog skullcap

doesn't have to actually be his

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447360)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:12 PM
Author: sapphire deranged scourge upon the earth

how long before shrews demand "peternity" leave

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447390)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM
Author: Fiercely-loyal claret goal in life

Moar like “eternity leave”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447724)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 6:17 PM
Author: sexy narrow-minded cuckold field



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455357)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:38 PM
Author: Nighttime Filthpig Sex Offender



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455850)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: rusted church building

do you have to be married or can you match some other chick's maternity if you make a "good faith argument why you feel that you're the father."

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447245)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: provocative location

i'm not sure tbh.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447246)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: rusted church building

firm-wide email.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447255)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: Exhilarant Wine Senate

you should only feel bad if you fail to take advantage of the full 3 months plus whatever other extra time you can convince your employer is necessary

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447248)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: provocative location

ty bro. i just get anxious about being fired.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447257)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: Exhilarant Wine Senate

i'm not sure i can help with that, just with whatever moral qualms you might have about lying to your employer even knowing your employer will gladly fuck you over for profit with no qualms

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447278)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: indigo telephone newt

You mean you get anxious about the future FMLA lawsuit payday you might get?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447281)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM
Author: marvelous plaza



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447293)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: provocative location

what's the grace period after i come back

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447303)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:01 PM
Author: indigo telephone newt

However long you can credibly claim they retaliated against you for taking your leave. Obviously settlement value goes down with each passing day and there is probably a point at which it is just too attenuated, especially if you fuck up post-leave. But LJL at them if they think your shitlawyer isn't going to get all your bosses and coworkers emails about you and comb through all of them for evidence that people were upset about your leave.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454770)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: provocative location

good to know friend, ty

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454776)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:06 PM
Author: Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine

Fuck. This has happened to me twice now. I would pay to see the emails my worthless shrew boss has sent. HR guy randomly told me L&I claims have a 3 year window.

That said, seems bitchmade.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454805)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:09 PM
Author: Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine

Relevant to my interests.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447365)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: Curious mediation

State your IQ if you have to ask this question?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447251)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: provocative location

prob 110-120 tbh, not that high.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447259)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:58 PM
Author: Bright institution

of course not. America 2018 is a complete $mash&grab

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447282)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:01 PM
Author: vengeful boiling water theater stage

cr.

use this time off to find an even better job for more money and fuck your boss and coworkers in the ass

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447307)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM
Author: walnut death wish half-breed

spin, ratfucks

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447339)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM
Author: violent plum candlestick maker sweet tailpipe



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447729)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM
Author: Peach dilemma

You’re fucking insane if u don’t do this. Holy shit.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447290)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:03 PM
Author: provocative location



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447326)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine

I took two months and got immediately fucked when I got back

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447296)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: provocative location

fucked how?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447301)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM
Author: Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine

Director decided I was under utilized. My boss is retiring and they gave me all of his job responsibilities (no raise or anything). Announced this to me the week I returned.

Not flame I filed a complaint. They pulled similar shit last time, writing me up my 4th day back. I work with all shrews.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447342)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:10 PM
Author: obsidian idiot

What kind of shit job do you have where you get "written up"

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447372)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:11 PM
Author: Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine

Standard govt. That's not the terminology they use but same dif.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447381)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM
Author: Electric Main People Becky

honestly if you don't think you'll be there much longer, you should take the full amount, and also use all of your benefit time every year including sick time. this might affect your chances for promotion, but a big company like this isn't going to fire you for using all of your 'benefit time.'

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447609)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM
Author: Racy hideous patrolman degenerate

hehe

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447612)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:05 PM
Author: Razzmatazz center mother

lol @ this good little goy wagecuck feeling guilty he's taking the full amount of what he was offered by his (((GC))) (((masters))) who would can his ass at a moment's notice if it suited them

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447738)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:49 PM
Author: vengeful boiling water theater stage



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35448021)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:26 AM
Author: swollen ticket booth



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458681)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:53 PM
Author: provocative location

UPDATE: got a job offer today, pay is $7k higher than current job, benefits are worse (2 week vacation instead of 4, no match for 1 year instead of 4% at current), but position has better exit options, commute is shorter by about 20 minutes, and unlike current (no direct reports), i will have two. however, if i accept, i need to cut short my paternity at 6 weeks, give my two week notice, and start. take it?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454689)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM
Author: Fiercely-loyal claret goal in life

I wouldn’t. Sounds objectively worse.

The 7k sounds insignificant, unless you make like 50k

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454712)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM
Author: provocative location

current base is 110, this is 117. assume 15% bonus for both.

yeah it's very hard to give a shit about new job great first impressions, i will have to likely work my ass off for the next 3-6 months and all i'll have to show for it is a couple hundred dollars per paycheck (if that?), worse benefits, less vacation, etc.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454743)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: Fiercely-loyal claret goal in life

I would gladly give up 7k for an additional 2 weeks vacation and no directs. Would weigh on the exit options.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454782)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:08 PM
Author: Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine

Toss up on vacation. Direct reports for sure are not worth 7k but it's a great resume item. I'd give up a couple weeks to save 20 mins a day though.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454823)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM
Author: Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine

Yes

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454717)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM
Author: provocative location

expound pls

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454766)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:04 PM
Author: Glassy beady-eyed place of business shrine

Better setup. Direct reports opens entirely new field of positions. 20 Mins per day easily makes up for a couple weeks vacation. More money.

Transitions suck. Having direct reports will suck. What's the new environment? That's probably the biggest factor.

Don't even consider the paternity leave (unless you plan on having lots more kids)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454792)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:17 PM
Author: provocative location

we will have 1-3 more kids. i've had direct reports in the past. doesn't that dilute the value this time?

the environment is more stuffy and corporate (but overall collegial) i'd say. current company is 3-6 years old but relatively prestigious.

the commute admittedly is a big draw especially because wife's job is 10 minutes away from this new company and we might consider moving to that area.

however, lately, we've been thinking about risking it all and moving abroad, which makes me question whether i need to rock the boat at all right now.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454901)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM
Author: Mauve lascivious den internal respiration

no, that sounds worse in all respects. can you negotiate work from home?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454738)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM
Author: provocative location

absolutely not. but i've reached the end of the rope at current job, with no hopes for promotion. would you say it's better to ride out my paternity and leave a few months later? job searching is scary, i suck at getting interviews but i'm at A++++ interview once they meet me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454763)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:30 PM
Author: provocative location

need more opinions please.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455016)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM
Author: vengeful boiling water theater stage

20 minutes one way?

Take it, but don't give your boss 2 weeks notice, just continue vacationing then leave.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455809)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 9:55 PM
Author: provocative location

terrible idea.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35457086)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:42 AM
Author: vengeful boiling water theater stage

?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458756)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:48 AM
Author: ruddy background story property

they are insistent on the start date? that's lame. id try to push back on that a little.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458779)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:33 PM
Author: laughsome gay wizard

starting a new job when u have a 2 month old at home isn't ideal. better to coast on ur reputation at current job for another 6-12 months then find a new role.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462500)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:56 PM
Author: Clear state

hell no you shouldn't feel bad. i'm taking like 2, maybe 3 weeks from biglaw for babby 2 this summer. and my wife is having a c section.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454727)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:59 PM
Author: lavender flirting hominid corn cake

You owe a corporation nothing. HTH!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454746)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM
Author: vengeful boiling water theater stage



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455812)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:24 AM
Author: Mentally impaired marketing idea school cafeteria

What would GC do?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458670)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:45 AM
Author: ruddy background story property

It will definitely be held against you. If you plan on leaving soon yes absolutely take it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458768)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:06 PM
Author: Vivacious locale associate

do you feel bad about cashing your full paycheck?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462298)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:13 PM
Author: fragrant flickering nursing home sneaky criminal

cr analogy

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462355)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:10 PM
Author: nofapping slate step-uncle's house

I just saw what guys ahead of me were doing and followed suit, which was 1-2 weeks per pregnancy. What is actually customary at your job?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462325)