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Should I feel bad about taking my full 3-month paternity leave?

company has a 3-month policy that matches maternity and pate...
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/20/18
fuck yeah
Excitant Messiness
  02/20/18
fuck yeah i should feel bad?
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/20/18
no fuck yeah you should take the full amount
Excitant Messiness
  02/20/18
...
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/20/18
do u actually have a kid?
snowy laughsome hell toaster
  02/20/18
lol yeah
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/20/18
doesn't have to actually be his
translucent step-uncle's house roommate
  02/20/18
how long before shrews demand "peternity" leave
alcoholic supple wrinkle
  02/20/18
Moar like “eternity leave”
bespoke french chef fanboi
  02/20/18
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Cerebral drab gunner station
  02/21/18
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very tactful pistol knife
  02/21/18
do you have to be married or can you match some other chick'...
Mind-boggling chestnut locale kitty cat
  02/20/18
i'm not sure tbh.
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/20/18
firm-wide email.
Mind-boggling chestnut locale kitty cat
  02/20/18
you should only feel bad if you fail to take advantage of th...
duck-like know-it-all candlestick maker
  02/20/18
ty bro. i just get anxious about being fired.
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/20/18
i'm not sure i can help with that, just with whatever moral ...
duck-like know-it-all candlestick maker
  02/20/18
You mean you get anxious about the future FMLA lawsuit payda...
Shaky coral state
  02/20/18
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comical nubile selfie persian
  02/20/18
what's the grace period after i come back
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/20/18
However long you can credibly claim they retaliated against ...
Shaky coral state
  02/21/18
good to know friend, ty
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/21/18
Fuck. This has happened to me twice now. I would pay to see ...
boyish business firm
  02/21/18
Relevant to my interests.
boyish business firm
  02/20/18
State your IQ if you have to ask this question?
Ungodly jewess church building
  02/20/18
prob 110-120 tbh, not that high.
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/20/18
of course not. America 2018 is a complete $mash&grab
lemon piazza son of senegal
  02/20/18
cr. use this time off to find an even better job for more...
indigo spectacular dog poop double fault
  02/20/18
spin, ratfucks
chest-beating nudist school cafeteria
  02/20/18
...
Pink talented lodge mood
  02/20/18
You’re fucking insane if u don’t do this. Holy shit.
Black space goal in life
  02/20/18
...
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/20/18
I took two months and got immediately fucked when I got back
boyish business firm
  02/20/18
fucked how?
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/20/18
Director decided I was under utilized. My boss is retiring a...
boyish business firm
  02/20/18
What kind of shit job do you have where you get "writt...
Racy free-loading home internal respiration
  02/20/18
Standard govt. That's not the terminology they use but same ...
boyish business firm
  02/20/18
honestly if you don't think you'll be there much longer, you...
Glittery dead locus
  02/20/18
hehe
Dashing center
  02/20/18
lol @ this good little goy wagecuck feeling guilty he's taki...
Shimmering Frisky Gas Station
  02/20/18
...
indigo spectacular dog poop double fault
  02/20/18
...
contagious beta ceo
  02/22/18
UPDATE: got a job offer today, pay is $7k higher than curren...
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/21/18
I wouldn’t. Sounds objectively worse. The 7k sounds ins...
bespoke french chef fanboi
  02/21/18
current base is 110, this is 117. assume 15% bonus for both....
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/21/18
I would gladly give up 7k for an additional 2 weeks vacation...
bespoke french chef fanboi
  02/21/18
Toss up on vacation. Direct reports for sure are not worth 7...
boyish business firm
  02/21/18
Yes
boyish business firm
  02/21/18
expound pls
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/21/18
Better setup. Direct reports opens entirely new field of po...
boyish business firm
  02/21/18
we will have 1-3 more kids. i've had direct reports in the p...
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/21/18
no, that sounds worse in all respects. can you negotiate wo...
Lascivious startled boistinker
  02/21/18
absolutely not. but i've reached the end of the rope at curr...
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/21/18
need more opinions please.
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/21/18
20 minutes one way? Take it, but don't give your boss 2 w...
indigo spectacular dog poop double fault
  02/21/18
terrible idea.
House-broken slap-happy address deer antler
  02/21/18
?
indigo spectacular dog poop double fault
  02/22/18
they are insistent on the start date? that's lame. id try to...
Flickering friendly grandma prole
  02/22/18
starting a new job when u have a 2 month old at home isn't i...
underhanded maniacal mad cow disease
  02/22/18
hell no you shouldn't feel bad. i'm taking like 2, maybe 3 w...
Histrionic Rusted Depressive Kitchen
  02/21/18
You owe a corporation nothing. HTH!
Frum wagecucks weed whacker
  02/21/18
...
indigo spectacular dog poop double fault
  02/21/18
What would GC do?
glassy chapel party of the first part
  02/22/18
It will definitely be held against you. If you plan on leav...
Flickering friendly grandma prole
  02/22/18
do you feel bad about cashing your full paycheck?
coiffed exhilarant black woman
  02/22/18
cr analogy
purple alpha
  02/22/18
I just saw what guys ahead of me were doing and followed sui...
dun hairraiser area windowlicker
  02/22/18


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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

company has a 3-month policy that matches maternity and paternity. i took 6 weeks to start. i'm 4.5 weeks in, but chatting with my boss tomorrow. thinking about taking the full time.

i don't see much of a future at this job, should i just yolo?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447233)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM
Author: Excitant Messiness

fuck yeah

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447235)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

fuck yeah i should feel bad?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447242)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: Excitant Messiness

no fuck yeah you should take the full amount

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447264)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447266)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: snowy laughsome hell toaster

do u actually have a kid?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447238)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

lol yeah

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447239)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:08 PM
Author: translucent step-uncle's house roommate

doesn't have to actually be his

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447360)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:12 PM
Author: alcoholic supple wrinkle

how long before shrews demand "peternity" leave

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447390)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM
Author: bespoke french chef fanboi

Moar like “eternity leave”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447724)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 6:17 PM
Author: Cerebral drab gunner station



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455357)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:38 PM
Author: very tactful pistol knife



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455850)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: Mind-boggling chestnut locale kitty cat

do you have to be married or can you match some other chick's maternity if you make a "good faith argument why you feel that you're the father."

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447245)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

i'm not sure tbh.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447246)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: Mind-boggling chestnut locale kitty cat

firm-wide email.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447255)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: duck-like know-it-all candlestick maker

you should only feel bad if you fail to take advantage of the full 3 months plus whatever other extra time you can convince your employer is necessary

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447248)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

ty bro. i just get anxious about being fired.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447257)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: duck-like know-it-all candlestick maker

i'm not sure i can help with that, just with whatever moral qualms you might have about lying to your employer even knowing your employer will gladly fuck you over for profit with no qualms

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447278)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: Shaky coral state

You mean you get anxious about the future FMLA lawsuit payday you might get?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447281)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM
Author: comical nubile selfie persian



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447293)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

what's the grace period after i come back

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447303)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:01 PM
Author: Shaky coral state

However long you can credibly claim they retaliated against you for taking your leave. Obviously settlement value goes down with each passing day and there is probably a point at which it is just too attenuated, especially if you fuck up post-leave. But LJL at them if they think your shitlawyer isn't going to get all your bosses and coworkers emails about you and comb through all of them for evidence that people were upset about your leave.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454770)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

good to know friend, ty

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454776)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:06 PM
Author: boyish business firm

Fuck. This has happened to me twice now. I would pay to see the emails my worthless shrew boss has sent. HR guy randomly told me L&I claims have a 3 year window.

That said, seems bitchmade.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454805)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:09 PM
Author: boyish business firm

Relevant to my interests.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447365)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: Ungodly jewess church building

State your IQ if you have to ask this question?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447251)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

prob 110-120 tbh, not that high.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447259)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:58 PM
Author: lemon piazza son of senegal

of course not. America 2018 is a complete $mash&grab

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447282)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:01 PM
Author: indigo spectacular dog poop double fault

cr.

use this time off to find an even better job for more money and fuck your boss and coworkers in the ass

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447307)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM
Author: chest-beating nudist school cafeteria

spin, ratfucks

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447339)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM
Author: Pink talented lodge mood



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447729)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM
Author: Black space goal in life

You’re fucking insane if u don’t do this. Holy shit.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447290)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:03 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447326)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: boyish business firm

I took two months and got immediately fucked when I got back

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447296)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

fucked how?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447301)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM
Author: boyish business firm

Director decided I was under utilized. My boss is retiring and they gave me all of his job responsibilities (no raise or anything). Announced this to me the week I returned.

Not flame I filed a complaint. They pulled similar shit last time, writing me up my 4th day back. I work with all shrews.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447342)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:10 PM
Author: Racy free-loading home internal respiration

What kind of shit job do you have where you get "written up"

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447372)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:11 PM
Author: boyish business firm

Standard govt. That's not the terminology they use but same dif.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447381)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM
Author: Glittery dead locus

honestly if you don't think you'll be there much longer, you should take the full amount, and also use all of your benefit time every year including sick time. this might affect your chances for promotion, but a big company like this isn't going to fire you for using all of your 'benefit time.'

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447609)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM
Author: Dashing center

hehe

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447612)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:05 PM
Author: Shimmering Frisky Gas Station

lol @ this good little goy wagecuck feeling guilty he's taking the full amount of what he was offered by his (((GC))) (((masters))) who would can his ass at a moment's notice if it suited them

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447738)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:49 PM
Author: indigo spectacular dog poop double fault



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35448021)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:26 AM
Author: contagious beta ceo



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458681)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:53 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

UPDATE: got a job offer today, pay is $7k higher than current job, benefits are worse (2 week vacation instead of 4, no match for 1 year instead of 4% at current), but position has better exit options, commute is shorter by about 20 minutes, and unlike current (no direct reports), i will have two. however, if i accept, i need to cut short my paternity at 6 weeks, give my two week notice, and start. take it?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454689)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM
Author: bespoke french chef fanboi

I wouldn’t. Sounds objectively worse.

The 7k sounds insignificant, unless you make like 50k

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454712)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

current base is 110, this is 117. assume 15% bonus for both.

yeah it's very hard to give a shit about new job great first impressions, i will have to likely work my ass off for the next 3-6 months and all i'll have to show for it is a couple hundred dollars per paycheck (if that?), worse benefits, less vacation, etc.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454743)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: bespoke french chef fanboi

I would gladly give up 7k for an additional 2 weeks vacation and no directs. Would weigh on the exit options.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454782)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:08 PM
Author: boyish business firm

Toss up on vacation. Direct reports for sure are not worth 7k but it's a great resume item. I'd give up a couple weeks to save 20 mins a day though.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454823)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM
Author: boyish business firm

Yes

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454717)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

expound pls

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454766)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:04 PM
Author: boyish business firm

Better setup. Direct reports opens entirely new field of positions. 20 Mins per day easily makes up for a couple weeks vacation. More money.

Transitions suck. Having direct reports will suck. What's the new environment? That's probably the biggest factor.

Don't even consider the paternity leave (unless you plan on having lots more kids)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454792)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:17 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

we will have 1-3 more kids. i've had direct reports in the past. doesn't that dilute the value this time?

the environment is more stuffy and corporate (but overall collegial) i'd say. current company is 3-6 years old but relatively prestigious.

the commute admittedly is a big draw especially because wife's job is 10 minutes away from this new company and we might consider moving to that area.

however, lately, we've been thinking about risking it all and moving abroad, which makes me question whether i need to rock the boat at all right now.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454901)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM
Author: Lascivious startled boistinker

no, that sounds worse in all respects. can you negotiate work from home?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454738)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

absolutely not. but i've reached the end of the rope at current job, with no hopes for promotion. would you say it's better to ride out my paternity and leave a few months later? job searching is scary, i suck at getting interviews but i'm at A++++ interview once they meet me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454763)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:30 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

need more opinions please.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455016)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM
Author: indigo spectacular dog poop double fault

20 minutes one way?

Take it, but don't give your boss 2 weeks notice, just continue vacationing then leave.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455809)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 9:55 PM
Author: House-broken slap-happy address deer antler

terrible idea.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35457086)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:42 AM
Author: indigo spectacular dog poop double fault

?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458756)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:48 AM
Author: Flickering friendly grandma prole

they are insistent on the start date? that's lame. id try to push back on that a little.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458779)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:33 PM
Author: underhanded maniacal mad cow disease

starting a new job when u have a 2 month old at home isn't ideal. better to coast on ur reputation at current job for another 6-12 months then find a new role.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462500)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:56 PM
Author: Histrionic Rusted Depressive Kitchen

hell no you shouldn't feel bad. i'm taking like 2, maybe 3 weeks from biglaw for babby 2 this summer. and my wife is having a c section.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454727)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:59 PM
Author: Frum wagecucks weed whacker

You owe a corporation nothing. HTH!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454746)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM
Author: indigo spectacular dog poop double fault



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455812)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:24 AM
Author: glassy chapel party of the first part

What would GC do?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458670)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:45 AM
Author: Flickering friendly grandma prole

It will definitely be held against you. If you plan on leaving soon yes absolutely take it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458768)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:06 PM
Author: coiffed exhilarant black woman

do you feel bad about cashing your full paycheck?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462298)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:13 PM
Author: purple alpha

cr analogy

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462355)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:10 PM
Author: dun hairraiser area windowlicker

I just saw what guys ahead of me were doing and followed suit, which was 1-2 weeks per pregnancy. What is actually customary at your job?

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