Tomorrow's prospect just finished a STEM PhD at a highly prestigious university. She likes cooking and reading, watches little television, and was highly intrigued by my 100-book quest. She also is Catholic though to what level of intensity I cannot tell.

Hopefully this one doesn't savagely cancel on me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36123123)

rate the level of RIGOR in her STEM field

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36123139)

OKC prospect?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36123151)

i can't keep up with this story

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36123169)

just go for the youngest lol (no DBG)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36123202)

“Wife found out I asked out younger sister once, divorcing me and taking kids, taking Qs”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36123386)

if starbucks, make sure you go to the right one.

not long after i moved to dc, i set up an online date with a chick who suggested starbucks in dupont circle. (as i've told you, i hate coffee dates and eventually wrote them off completely.)

anyway, it just so happened that we scheduled the date for sunday at 11 am, but it was the first day of "fall back" (going back to regular time from DST).

well, i get a text from her that morning saying she is there. the text is an hour early. i ask her if she forgot to set her clocks back. she replies, "oh no, i completely forgot about the overnight time change!" anyway, i tell her i'll metro over as soon as i can. she says she'll wait.

well, i was unfamiliar with dupont circle at that point, but i get off at the dupont station and head to the nearby starbucks. no sign of her. i walk around a couple of times. nothing. i text her, and it turns out there's another starbucks a few blocks in the other direction. i walk to that starbucks, but no sign of her there, either. i text her and she never responds, and i never hear from her again. i guess she got tired of waiting considering she got there an hour early based on her own mistake and couldn't tolerate my mistake re: which of two starbucks within several blocks that she was at.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36123258)

but in this instance, it was just a stupid coffee date (which i hate) with someone who i didn't have much hopes for, and something to do on a sunday morning while i was brand new in dc and didn't know anyone. not a chad situation. i found the whole thing amusing.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36123356)

This is my favorite series in months, at least.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36123263)

False.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36123381)

Haven't discussed kids or any deep values stuff. We just seem to have similar interests and got along well in chat.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36123708)

likes reading

likes cooking

doesnt watch tv

and is catholic

and white...

omg, you need to lock that shit down.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36123425)

Sheesh.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36125080)

but psychologically it is exhausting and certainly can lead to increased levels of cynicism and bitterness, of which the observant XO type already has bushels.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36125943)

Online dating is a population-level phenomenon. Things like individual sentimentality, attachment etc break down because you are in a big sorting mechanism. If you can float on top of this without losing yourself then you'll be like the guy in that kipling poem.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36126046)

hopefully, you can find that rare devoted, maternalistic (not materialistic), religious girl you are seeking & get out of the depressing world of modern dating.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36125912)

Lies.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36129525)

we are FOR you!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36146812)

STEM PHD from highly prestigious uni vs. barely passed CALC 2 for econ and business students

can cook vs. cant cook

reads books. vs havent read a single book in years

barely watches television vs. i have no TV

catholic vs. atheist

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36146834)

reading good books is fun

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36146867)

He's committed to no sex before marriage.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36146959)

it's not his fault that trad catholic non-whores are in such short supply in 2018

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36147031)

odds he's melting in a vat of science?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36149295)

RIP Charles XII.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36149564)

I kinda screwed up because the bar I picked turned out to have busted AC, and then the next one I picked had just shit down its kitchen (we wanted food), so we ended up just going to the DuPont Shake Shack. Talked for about two hours. I had a good time and I think she did as well, but we only closed with a hug. Still, I'd be happy to see her again if she's interested. Sadly she is promptly leaving for a month, so this is sort of on pause for now.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36149690)

women ARE shy and need some encouragement sometimes

see my post below too

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36149896)

but the "infrequent communications" part is wrong, just at engage with her at a pace that seems comfortable for both of you, do NOT do the deliberately "playing it cool" that is dumb millennial faggotry -- easist way for her to forget him and (if she likes him) to assume that he doesn't like her back -- women are mentally ill and paranoid and will easily come to mentally ill conclusions

just be yourself, play it at the pace that seems natural and comes naturally to both of you

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36149890)

I don't mean "let me just take a shit while we talk on the phone" sincere, but still be sincere, just be yourself

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36149913)

just be yourself, your good self, but yourself, do not try to adjust to her too much

everything else is flame

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36149897)

No way to keep her interested during this intermission.

Might as well chalk it off but use the opportunity to practice your text game

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36150239)

she didn't use the bad luck re: the bars as an excuse, so she seems like both she had some interest in you and is a decent person. especially considering the date ended up lasting about 2 hours.

if you had a bad personality and/or she had zero attraction, it wouldn't have lasted that long, believe me.

should be a nice confidence boost. keep honing your dating game while she's gone; don't wait for her to come back or have any expectations that after a month away she will retain interest. time tends to dissipate that. but, whatever you did to target/find this chick, keep working that angle, IMHO.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985993&forum_id=2#36150415)