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So I live in Australia. Family back home doesn't speak to me, I have no friends
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Date: October 26th, 2018 4:45 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant No prospects either. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098179) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:00 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant They're pure shit.
Thanks man. I luv you too homie. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:14 AM Author: Razzmatazz anal meetinghouse (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098214) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:03 AM Author: free-loading mischievous garrison french chef so doing medschool in adelaide wasnt worth it huh (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098205) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:07 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant In the end it was because I would never get a job in Radiation Oncology in Los Angeles and would never get paid what I get here. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098206) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:13 AM Author: cream regret location Do you have Asperger's or something? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098210) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:14 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Do you have parents who call you a loser to your face. If I went back home I would be making a fraction of what I make here and have Boomer parents calling me a loser. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098213) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:15 AM Author: cream regret location Well, no. There's got to be some etiology about why they are calling you a loser. Are they upset you moved to another country? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098215) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:17 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant They're miserable Boomers. There isn't much to it. When I lived in LA and there were no jobs their whole thing was to call me a loser and tell me to get a better job and how they would just walk into a workplace and demand a job in there. And I was barely scraping by to make ends meet then. So I should go back and fight tooth and nail with superstudyazns who are retards just to make like a 1/3rd of what I get here to be able to enjoy myself in my downtime? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098217) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:18 AM Author: cream regret location Do you have siblings? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098219) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:19 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Yes sir, 1 of each. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098221) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:21 AM Author: cream regret location middle child? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098223) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:22 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Yes. WBU? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098224) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:25 AM Author: cream regret location Same thing happened with my brother. My parents are critical of all of us -- pretty much equally. My middle brother is a successful radiologist, but he takes the parental overload a little more seriously than we other 2 do. Middle children seem more independent and have to have an identity.
Believe me, I'm the youngest of 3 and we all reach out to the middle. For some reason, they get fucked emotionally on balance when growing up. He became distant. While he's not hostile, he just won't get close to the rest of us. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:28 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Thats fucked up man. So how do you reach out to him and shit? Whats his story? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098230) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:31 AM Author: cream regret location I came to early. We're like 13 months apart. From what we can figure, he never had any time to bond with my mom emotionally when young. So, I came along and he probably felt discarded a bit because my mom had a new infant.
I talk to his wife all the time, but he has no interest in talking that much. He'll say hello and whatnot on the phone, but he's got his own thing going on. He's very close to his wife's family, and that's probably the best. He needed something to bond to and he's doing well.
My suggestion is you find a woman and invest in that, if you're anything like my brother. It seems to bring my brother peace. While he's still not close to my family, he seems happy with where he's at now.
I'm not saying what you are experiencing is what my brother went through, but he had a rough time for years until he met his now wife. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:34 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Yeah I was thinking of looking more into women but I am stuck in a shitty regional town and it's just not looking likely unfortunately.
Are you also married and shit? |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:36 AM Author: cream regret location I'm divorced and no kids, but I'm super close with my immediate family. Not feeling a relationship need.
You need to move to a real city and find someone. Seems like you have a void that moving continents and going to Med school still hasn't cured. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:41 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Yeah I will always have that void until they or I die. But I'm not sure that latching onto someone else will fix it. It will either be or it won't. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098250) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:51 AM Author: cream regret location Time to shit or get off the pot. We always thought my middle brother would be alone until he found his wife. He was also a professed loner, and then it changed when he met his now wife.
Change your focus from trying to please your parents and concentrate on what makes you happy.
Maybe you feel criticism because you're just not happy. If you were happy, you'd probably see that they would see that and you'd feel the approval from your parents. Mom's especially know when their kids aren't happy. It's innate to them. You might see it as criticism, but she just wants to make suggestions and "help" to get you to that happy place.
I imagine her slightest suggestions to you are taken by you as a criticism, when she's doing all she can to make sure you are a happy man. She's probably just as frustrated as you are about the situation and your relationship with her.
I've seen my mom hurt with my middle brother pulling away from her, and it's not pretty from any angle. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:55 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Yes your right man. I'm not happy never been happy. I've been trying to make changes like moving to a city but it's not easy in my profession.
I just don't know if latching onto someone is the solution. It just seems to be a veil. I'll never be happy so what's the point.
Dood this probably seems incredibly fucked up but I didnt speak to my parents from like 2012-mid 2014. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 6:02 AM Author: cream regret location Call your mom tomorrow (or today) and just talk about mundane shit and say you missed talking to her and avoid anything about your profession and your love life. Talk about good shit and set the tone that you'll be talking about pleasant shit.
No need for negativity on your personal level to impact your relationship with your mother. Talk about good things and focus on that when you talk.
Current state of mind you being lonely or not fitting in where you at are off the table. Just talk like a son to your mother and let her know you're okay and you like just wanting to hear about what she did today.
Don't talk about aspirations, where you want to be. Just talk about what you did today and let her do the same. The rest will just flow. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 6:05 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant I try to man. It's pretty tough. You can't tell her anything.
She always manages to turn it into something like 'Australia is the land of the commoner' or 'No one leaves their family and heads to Australia' or something along those lines.
Like when my grandmother died no one even called me. I just get a text saying she died. It was fucked.
You give good advice though man. You're a good dood. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 6:08 AM Author: cream regret location You're mom is hurt you left. My mom's a hardass too. I have a beautiful home and she'll still find some leaf or some shit on the floor and criticize me for it.
Some mom's are like that.
You set the tone on the next call, tell her you love her and miss her and swallow your pride. Then ask her what she did today and not to leave out any details. Redirect her hurt over you leaving and have her talk about herself. Be interested in what she did and show you want to know about what she's doing. Mom's feel love when you ask about how they are doing. They did a hard job raising all of us, they just want some appreciation for it. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 6:16 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Yes that is very true. I should ask her more about herself and whats going on and shit. Honestly man tell me if I am a piece of shit for having not spoken to her for so long.
Man I wish I had a friend like you IRL, you're a good fucking dood.
I have noticed she doesn't insult over the phone like she does over text. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 6:20 AM Author: cream regret location if she's like my mom, she's boiled over and the texts flow from emotions. you call and set the tone this time and I promise it will be different.
Don't worry about who did what in the past. Talk about the here and now. You guys can sort that shit out with your mutual therapists once you're talking regularly. Make her a priority. She's not going to be around forever. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 6:22 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Your mom sounds exactly like mine. I will this weekend man.
man do you live in a city? This shit is crippling when you live in the sticks. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 6:27 AM Author: cream regret location I live in Phoenix, but my parents are in St. Louis area. I've grovelled to my mom more than a few times. We both have controlling mothers. You just need to learn how to communicate with yours. I've got mine under control...to a point. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098295) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 6:31 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant You are right man. I need to be a better person but fuck is it hard. This shit helped me by the way man, thank you. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098296) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 6:34 AM Author: cream regret location You don't have to change or be a better person. You honestly sound like a great dude just worrying about how your mom feels.
Just agree with her and let her still have some control. My way is letting her picking out furniture when she visits or pick an area rug. Just agree, you don't have to actually agree. Just give her the sense of control she's looking for.
Lose the battles and win the war. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 10:01 PM Author: bonkers range immigrant So fucking true. its all about letting them feel they have the sense of control. Thats what it's all about.
Fuck man you're a 180 dooder |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:18 AM Author: twinkling curious useless brakes headpube show more appreciation to your family dude (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098218) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:19 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant You don't understand what it's like man. There's no rationalising with them. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098220) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:20 AM Author: twinkling curious useless brakes headpube no family is perfect, sometimes you just have to let things go.there's no substitute for family ties. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098222) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:22 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant They're literally hoping I fail so they can say 'I told you so.' (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098225) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:26 AM Author: twinkling curious useless brakes headpube sounds shitty. i'd still try to make that connection but you do you man (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098229) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:28 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Yeah I try man. Yeah I'm just doing me. You going to be posting during the fight man. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098231) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:31 AM Author: twinkling curious useless brakes headpube which fight man? baranchyk yigit? pulev-fury? prograis -flanagan?
lol.
for the jacobs fight ill try dood. gonna have to dual screen it with the world series |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:33 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Miracle Man-Technician but I see you;re point.
Man Prograis is going to fuck up Turbo Terry |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:35 AM Author: twinkling curious useless brakes headpube most likely. flanagan was a pretty ordinary lightweight. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098241) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:44 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Yeah and well matched. Who wins Prograis or Taylor. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098260) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:45 AM Author: twinkling curious useless brakes headpube damn man, tough one. i favor taylor, im not entirely sold on prograis yet (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098262) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:48 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Explain... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098269) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:29 AM Author: Comical stage but you're a bort legend (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098232) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:32 AM Author: Salmon Partner Filthpig I understand family strife, they sound shitty. But, they're still family. Makes me appreciate my prole parents, they're loving proles that are really great and encouraging.
More importantly, why don't you have any friends? You've been in OZ for a while now, how have you not been able to form any sort of meaningful relationships? Too much time on XO? No hobbies or interests?
I make friends easily, so, I'll never understand those that don't. It really takes reaching out on your part.
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:39 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Nah I have friends but I am a loner by choice.
My problem is I have too many interests and hobbies to forge any relationships.
I blow my horn 3-4 hours a day, then beach, running, bicycling, and shit. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:42 AM Author: electric bearded quadroon hospital Get into a group that is training for something then, or start rock climbing in a gym...climbers and the chillest easiest friends to make. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098254) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:46 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Man I'm a loner. Always have been. I can't stand to be around people for more than an hour. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098265) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:44 AM Author: twinkling curious useless brakes headpube get into alcoholism and become a regular at a bar (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098258) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:44 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant lol I can't even do this where I live. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098261) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:45 AM Author: twinkling curious useless brakes headpube jfc (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098263) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:47 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant I'm living in a hotel. Maybe I'll talk up some Boomers tonight... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098267) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:37 AM Author: Razzmatazz anal meetinghouse I’m going to be in Brisbane for a night in early December. Beer? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098243) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:40 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant What are you doing there? Yeah we can meet man. Go during Fury-Wilder. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098247) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:43 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant I hit you up just now (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098257) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:48 AM Author: electric bearded quadroon hospital Transfer to the UK and join my pub quiz team. I live in a terraced house with 3 apartments. All couples and mid-30s ish, hit up the pub every Thursday. They've incorporated us into their group of friends and we are now close with 12 or so folks, mostly welshies. If not for my neighbors, we would be in very similar situations. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098268) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 5:50 AM Author: bonkers range immigrant Whats it like there man? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098270) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 6:27 AM Author: electric bearded quadroon hospital Other than the shit winters, London is a great city. Spring + Summer are 180...and easy access to the rest of Europe. Food, liquor/beer, and the arts scene are all 180, and the Summer season really makes up for the worst of winter.
London is like the US in a lot of ways, but I figure Australia is the closest equivalent to the US next to Canada. The pub culture really is great, the parks and hiking are surprisingly 180. My only real complaint is how bad the winters are...but I'm from LA so the change was more drastic than if you're from the east coast.
London will never be Paris, though. I want to move back to France, but London is a good alternative for now. If you're ever in London, hit me up and we can grab a drink.
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Date: October 26th, 2018 6:43 AM Author: cream regret location Well, it's humid as fuck. Rains all the time. People are dour. No central AC, will give you a single ice cube or 2 in a beverage.
The people are funny and witty as fuck once they get a drink in them. Hard to reach the English, but once you do they are awesome friends.
They tax the fuck out of you and it makes NYC seem cheap on the most basic of needs. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 7:00 AM Author: electric bearded quadroon hospital Talking about London? Do you live here? The humidity hasn't bothered me, and we only had a few really warm days over Summer. Some people are dour, but take well to you making fun of it as the cheeky American. You don't need AC and I stopped caring about the ice about halfway into my year in France.
You're right, the people are funny and witty as fuck and make Americans seem like hicktard cousins. Drinking with the Welsh is even better than the English, they are a 180 people. The English are hard to crack, but once you do you are right that they are amazing friends. My neighbor is a gardener (engaged to a solicitor for an American insurance megacorp)...and redid my garden and replanted my flowers in front and in back just because he wanted something to do on a Friday. I don't see an American ever doing that.
It is expensive, though I feel like it's on the same scale as NYC. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 7:06 AM Author: cream regret location I did live there for 2 years. Miss it. Dated a Welsh the whole time I was there. The Scottish and Welsh seem the most friendly. Actually, the Welsh almost seemed American to me. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098323) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 7:09 AM Author: electric bearded quadroon hospital Yep, the Welsh are great. Healthy hate of the English too.
Come back to London. Why did you leave? And while we are at it, where did you live? I'm near Kentish town ... go to Hampstead Heath with my dog almost every day. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 7:09 AM Author: cream regret location I lived in Islington. I only left because I was on a contract that couldn't be extended through work. Amazing shit to do there though. You could spend a lifetime in London and not see everything worth seeing.
I agree with you though...Paris! |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 10:08 PM Author: stimulating chest-beating ticket booth Can I do this? I am great at trivia my team won so much we got banned from the locla bar (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37103694) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 7:42 AM Author: Mustard Church International Law Enforcement Agency This makes me sad. I miss my mom. She was so petty and acted so ridiculous, and used to drive me nuts, but she was just mom, a mom. When she was dying she wouldn't believe me when I told her repeatedly I was happy, happy enough. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 9:02 AM Author: electric bearded quadroon hospital My mother was an alcoholic, petty and acted ridiculous and used to drive me nuts too...but after they're gone all of that falls away and you still miss your mom. I wish I could tell her what's going on in my life every day. Despite her many faults, she was a great mother when it came down to it she made me who I am and I owe her everything but can never repay her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098564) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 7:45 AM Author: opaque jew parlor If your family has decided they're not going to be a positive thing in your life, cut them off. You owe them nothing. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098360) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 7:45 AM Author: Mustard Church International Law Enforcement Agency She went thru a phase where she would give me furniture, but it had to go in a particular place or I couldn't have the piece. This used to drive me wild. I guess she just wanted love. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098362) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 7:50 AM Author: Mustard Church International Law Enforcement Agency Whenever she saw a car parked in her special sticker parking lot downtown that didn't have the requisite sticker, she would bound out of the car in a huff and write a nastygram and leave it on their windshield. Ridiculous, right?
When she was sick and in physical therapy rehab she wouldn't do the exercises and when they changed her assigned room that made her so mad. She was so mad because they changed her room on her to give her old room to someone else. Man, she fixated on that! I thought she was losing her marbles. People are dying all around her and rather than opening her heart to the preciousness of things she railed against the other sick person who "took her room." Poor mom. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 7:57 AM Author: Mustard Church International Law Enforcement Agency She didn't protect me from dad when he wrote a letter to my undergrad university president complaining about how I couldn't get "a real job.". The university president had to stick up for me. Man, that was humiliating. Why didn't mom stop that nonsense. 22 year olds are so sensitive and vulnerable. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098374) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 9:30 AM Author: henna cracking fortuitous meteor stead lmao my mother berated one of my professors at my UG graduation because I got nojerbed (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098638) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 7:59 AM Author: Mustard Church International Law Enforcement Agency She needed more affection from me when I was older and I didn't know how to give it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098378) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 8:01 AM Author: Mustard Church International Law Enforcement Agency Once when I was about 25 I was sleeping in my childhood bed and cold and I grabbed the blanket off the guest bed in another room. This enraged mom, who didn't want me messing up the bedspread. She came in, yanked the bedspread off me, and stormed off. I was so upset that she would do that I left the house about 10 minutes later and didn't come back for months.
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Date: October 26th, 2018 8:06 AM Author: Mustard Church International Law Enforcement Agency I'm sort of crying now. There wasn't anything particularly wrong w her as a mom... She was offputting to me because she would always yell at dad and it made me uncomfortable to sit next to someone who would yell and freak out for no reason. I should have just taken her out more, met her for lunch more ... I only did ONE mothers day brunch w her ... Why was I so hard? I should have bridged the gap more. Poor mom. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098394) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 8:11 AM Author: Floppy Personal Credit Line Space You’re a good dude. Reading all your posts. We all make mistakes but I’m sure she knew you loved her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098401) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 8:23 AM Author: gaped hairraiser hissy fit jfc life is tragic. sounds rough brother, but she probably knew you cared too. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098425) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 10:03 PM Author: bonkers range immigrant Jesus man, I feel awful for you. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37103672) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 8:10 AM Author: Mustard Church International Law Enforcement Agency When she was dying she said she was sorry and I said "you were great mom, thank you," and she kept crying and saying she tried her best, she really tried, etc. She wouldn't stop crying at that visit and I just hugged her and then fled.
That was the last time she was really coherent. Poor mom. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 8:12 AM Author: Floppy Personal Credit Line Space You did good. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098402) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 8:14 AM Author: Mustard Church International Law Enforcement Agency Thanks man. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098407) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 8:14 AM Author: Mustard Church International Law Enforcement Agency She always made everyone wear stupid hats Christmas morning. I hated it. Hell, that's one reason I had a kid... So we could have Christmas morning privately, and i wouldn't have to wear a stupid hat and open presents w my mom and dad like a little kid in my late 30s! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098406) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 9:17 AM Author: electric bearded quadroon hospital Mom had cancer. At the end of it, pretty sure I was the reason she finally went. Diagnosed my last year of law school. Family waited a week to tell me thinking they'd save me from the reality until after my last set of law school finals. Dad called me Sunday going into week 2, thinking I had finished. I cried, hard, then burst out laughing because I still had another week of finals and could have gotten an extension if they told me earlier.
I got the extension for my last 2 finals (had to provide the scans of my mothers tumors, which the administration apologized for me having to provide), saw my mom in the hospital...surgery was a relative success but initially given 6 weeks to live. She made it another year. Finished finals and graduated with my cousins holding up an iPad so my mom could see me walk during graduation from her hospital bed.
When I got married and after I received my bar results that I had passed, she died a few days later. Both of her sons were married and on the path to good careers. Her time of protecting and taking care of us was over.
She was an alcoholic, emotionally abusive at times and difficult as all hell. But she loved fiercely and I carry that with me always. I would do anything to tell her what I've been up to these past years. The best I can do is try to live in a way that she would be proud of. She taught me the joy of traveling and to live my life for myself. I moved to France and then to London. The rest of my family resents me for leaving, but I know damn well she'd be proud as fuck of me right now.
If you're parents are still around, reach out and keep the dialogue going. As much as you hate certain parts about them, when your parents are gone they are gone and you won't ever be able to reach them again. Have the conversations you need to and want to while you can, no matter how "uncomfortable" ... I'd do anything to have an uncomfortable conversation with mom again. |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 9:32 AM Author: henna cracking fortuitous meteor stead I don't get it....did you change your career path to something good after law school? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098642) |
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Date: October 26th, 2018 9:56 AM Author: electric bearded quadroon hospital Worked "remotely" for the year in France...got an in-house gig in London. Interviewing with firms in London now b/c fuck being in-house cucked. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4115504&forum_id=2#37098763) |