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I married a top – but now he wants to be a bottom

I am a man in my early 30s married to a man in his mid-50s. ...
vigorous national
  05/14/24
Pipe dream.
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  05/14/24
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'married'
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Mods.
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  05/14/24
Time to man up, doobs
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vigorous national
  05/15/24
totally normal, talk to your kids about top burnout.
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vigorous national
  05/15/24
top burnout tp
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  05/15/24
How do you address it? I'm a top btw
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  05/15/24
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Heady hideous set elastic band
  05/15/24
Top burnout is a fairly common occurrence
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Lots of ppl with experience sounding off itt, glad we can ge...
vigorous national
  05/15/24
does top burnout also occur in hetero couples? asking for my...
lilac multi-colored rehab police squad
  05/15/24
this is all ((completely)) normal and healthy, btw
Yapping Mint Meetinghouse
  05/15/24
my 14 year old son was struggling in school with mental heal...
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  05/15/24
Just tried to discuss my top burnout with wife but she wasn'...
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  05/15/24
honey i can't, my top burnout.
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  05/29/24
"in pursuit of a pipe dream " can someone exp...
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  05/15/24
The grody old top will NEVER be a twink bottom
vigorous national
  05/29/24
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vigorous national
  05/15/24
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vigorous national
  05/29/24
this didn't get enough lulz, deserves to be a yuge meme.
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  05/29/24


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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:17 PM
Author: vigorous national

I am a man in my early 30s married to a man in his mid-50s. We have always been in an open relationship: we met at a sex party. When we met I was always a bottom and he a top. Over time, however, he has become obsessed with bottoming. He never penetrates me, even in a group, and has starting expressing jealousy about the tops that I attract. I feel he is throwing our life away in pursuit of a pipe dream and I long to get back the dominant top that I married – a role he is suited for physically. He has been looking at escort websites, which I find depressingly inevitable. How can I wake him up to reality?

Top burnout is a fairly common occurrence and it can lead to a shift in a person’s power exchange preferences, usually temporarily. This is less likely to happen when partners switch, exchanging roles from time to time, but clearly that is not for you. It might be wise to relax about this and try to tolerate – even support – his period of exploration. In fact, dominance and submission are not so different; just polarised aspects of the same erotic style. So some tops frequently fantasise about bottoming but are not prepared to practise it – and vice versa. The top usually does most of the work: initiates, arranges the scene, toys and so on, so your husband may want a break from the responsibility. I can understand your disappointment and fear of losing your preferred sexual style, but people and relationships change and evolve over time so it would be best to talk patiently and lovingly with your husband – without reproaching or blaming him – about what he is feeling and the reasons for this change. You need to understand each other. Gently express your sadness about the potential loss you are facing. Then do your best to show that you love and support him.

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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:21 PM
Author: appetizing gaping

Pipe dream.

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:38 AM
Author: shimmering autistic hell

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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:28 PM
Author: Exciting jet giraffe abode



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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:19 PM
Author: chartreuse magical mexican

'married'

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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:39 PM
Author: vibrant electric furnace tank

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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:19 PM
Author: Pale regret multi-billionaire

Mods.

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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:22 PM
Author: Passionate obsidian private investor

Time to man up, doobs

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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:39 AM
Author: vigorous national



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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:41 AM
Author: lilac multi-colored rehab police squad

totally normal, talk to your kids about top burnout.

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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:30 PM
Author: Yapping Mint Meetinghouse



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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:03 PM
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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:56 AM
Author: Unholy pearly boltzmann milk

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:14 AM
Author: vigorous national

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:31 AM
Author: confused mind-boggling factory reset button

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:37 AM
Author: vigorous national

How do you address it? I'm a top btw

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:39 AM
Author: confused mind-boggling factory reset button

Prep

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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:15 PM
Author: Heady hideous set elastic band



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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:05 PM
Author: wonderful personal credit line school

Top burnout is a fairly common occurrence

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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:05 PM
Author: vigorous national

Lots of ppl with experience sounding off itt, glad we can get a conversation started

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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:27 PM
Author: lilac multi-colored rehab police squad

does top burnout also occur in hetero couples? asking for my wife.

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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:30 PM
Author: Yapping Mint Meetinghouse

this is all ((completely)) normal and healthy, btw

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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:33 PM
Author: lilac multi-colored rehab police squad

my 14 year old son was struggling in school with mental health issues until one day his health teacher talked about top burnout. realizing that he didn't *always* have to top was such a huge relief. there's so much social pressure on boys to dominate each other. toxic masculinity! ever since he started bottoming he's more relaxed and we're seeing a dramatic improvement in his grades.

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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:36 PM
Author: Fishy bisexual menage foreskin

Just tried to discuss my top burnout with wife but she wasn't very understanding

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Date: May 15th, 2024 2:06 PM
Author: bat shit crazy carmine theater stage half-breed



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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:50 PM
Author: lilac multi-colored rehab police squad

honey i can't, my top burnout.

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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:56 PM
Author: Insane headpube orchestra pit



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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:05 PM
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Date: May 15th, 2024 2:07 PM
Author: thriller bearded genital piercing

"in pursuit of a pipe dream "

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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:09 PM
Author: vigorous national

The grody old top will NEVER be a twink bottom

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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:13 PM
Author: vigorous national



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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:03 PM
Author: vigorous national



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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:07 PM
Author: lilac multi-colored rehab police squad

this didn't get enough lulz, deserves to be a yuge meme.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47700987)