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I married a top – but now he wants to be a bottom

I am a man in my early 30s married to a man in his mid-50s. ...
iridescent heaven
  05/14/24
Pipe dream.
aquamarine son of senegal prole
  05/14/24
ran here
boyish rebellious scourge upon the earth
  05/15/24
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embarrassed to the bone motley whorehouse roast beef
  05/15/24
'married'
olive halford headpube
  05/14/24
(bigot who doesn’t respect gay open marriages with 20+...
black stirring dragon shitlib
  05/15/24
Mods.
lilac idiot
  05/14/24
Time to man up, doobs
duck-like charismatic gaming laptop potus
  05/14/24
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iridescent heaven
  05/15/24
totally normal, talk to your kids about top burnout.
citrine crawly trailer park
  05/15/24
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Ocher Juggernaut
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At-the-ready Submissive Chapel Rigor
  05/29/24
GLOBAL ISLAM NOW
charcoal beady-eyed address hairy legs
  05/15/24
Summon UES jew
iridescent heaven
  05/15/24
top burnout tp
godawful green location indirect expression
  05/15/24
How do you address it? I'm a top btw
iridescent heaven
  05/15/24
Prep
godawful green location indirect expression
  05/15/24
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fishy razzmatazz dog poop
  05/15/24
Top burnout is a fairly common occurrence
Lime Legend
  05/15/24
Lots of ppl with experience sounding off itt, glad we can ge...
iridescent heaven
  05/15/24
does top burnout also occur in hetero couples? asking for my...
citrine crawly trailer park
  05/15/24
this is all ((completely)) normal and healthy, btw
Ocher Juggernaut
  05/15/24
my 14 year old son was struggling in school with mental heal...
citrine crawly trailer park
  05/15/24
Just tried to discuss my top burnout with wife but she wasn'...
Cerebral azure main people
  05/15/24
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Brindle electric theater stage
  05/15/24
honey i can't, my top burnout.
citrine crawly trailer park
  05/15/24
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Cream heady temple boiling water
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thirsty abode
  05/29/24
"in pursuit of a pipe dream " can someone exp...
Pontificating marvelous bawdyhouse
  05/15/24
The grody old top will NEVER be a twink bottom
iridescent heaven
  05/29/24
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iridescent heaven
  05/15/24
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iridescent heaven
  05/29/24
this didn't get enough lulz, deserves to be a yuge meme.
citrine crawly trailer park
  05/29/24


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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:17 PM
Author: iridescent heaven

I am a man in my early 30s married to a man in his mid-50s. We have always been in an open relationship: we met at a sex party. When we met I was always a bottom and he a top. Over time, however, he has become obsessed with bottoming. He never penetrates me, even in a group, and has starting expressing jealousy about the tops that I attract. I feel he is throwing our life away in pursuit of a pipe dream and I long to get back the dominant top that I married – a role he is suited for physically. He has been looking at escort websites, which I find depressingly inevitable. How can I wake him up to reality?

Top burnout is a fairly common occurrence and it can lead to a shift in a person’s power exchange preferences, usually temporarily. This is less likely to happen when partners switch, exchanging roles from time to time, but clearly that is not for you. It might be wise to relax about this and try to tolerate – even support – his period of exploration. In fact, dominance and submission are not so different; just polarised aspects of the same erotic style. So some tops frequently fantasise about bottoming but are not prepared to practise it – and vice versa. The top usually does most of the work: initiates, arranges the scene, toys and so on, so your husband may want a break from the responsibility. I can understand your disappointment and fear of losing your preferred sexual style, but people and relationships change and evolve over time so it would be best to talk patiently and lovingly with your husband – without reproaching or blaming him – about what he is feeling and the reasons for this change. You need to understand each other. Gently express your sadness about the potential loss you are facing. Then do your best to show that you love and support him.

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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:21 PM
Author: aquamarine son of senegal prole

Pipe dream.

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:38 AM
Author: boyish rebellious scourge upon the earth

ran here

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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:28 PM
Author: embarrassed to the bone motley whorehouse roast beef



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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:19 PM
Author: olive halford headpube

'married'

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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:39 PM
Author: black stirring dragon shitlib

(bigot who doesn’t respect gay open marriages with 20+ year age gaps)

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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:19 PM
Author: lilac idiot

Mods.

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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:22 PM
Author: duck-like charismatic gaming laptop potus

Time to man up, doobs

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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:39 AM
Author: iridescent heaven



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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:41 AM
Author: citrine crawly trailer park

totally normal, talk to your kids about top burnout.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47663115)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:30 PM
Author: Ocher Juggernaut



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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:03 PM
Author: At-the-ready Submissive Chapel Rigor



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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:56 AM
Author: charcoal beady-eyed address hairy legs

GLOBAL ISLAM NOW

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:14 AM
Author: iridescent heaven

Summon UES jew

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:31 AM
Author: godawful green location indirect expression

top burnout tp

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:37 AM
Author: iridescent heaven

How do you address it? I'm a top btw

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:39 AM
Author: godawful green location indirect expression

Prep

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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:15 PM
Author: fishy razzmatazz dog poop



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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:05 PM
Author: Lime Legend

Top burnout is a fairly common occurrence

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47663757)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:05 PM
Author: iridescent heaven

Lots of ppl with experience sounding off itt, glad we can get a conversation started

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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:27 PM
Author: citrine crawly trailer park

does top burnout also occur in hetero couples? asking for my wife.

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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:30 PM
Author: Ocher Juggernaut

this is all ((completely)) normal and healthy, btw

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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:33 PM
Author: citrine crawly trailer park

my 14 year old son was struggling in school with mental health issues until one day his health teacher talked about top burnout. realizing that he didn't *always* have to top was such a huge relief. there's so much social pressure on boys to dominate each other. toxic masculinity! ever since he started bottoming he's more relaxed and we're seeing a dramatic improvement in his grades.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47663863)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:36 PM
Author: Cerebral azure main people

Just tried to discuss my top burnout with wife but she wasn't very understanding

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47663869)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 2:06 PM
Author: Brindle electric theater stage



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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:50 PM
Author: citrine crawly trailer park

honey i can't, my top burnout.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47665876)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:56 PM
Author: Cream heady temple boiling water



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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:05 PM
Author: thirsty abode



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Date: May 15th, 2024 2:07 PM
Author: Pontificating marvelous bawdyhouse

"in pursuit of a pipe dream "

can someone explain

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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:09 PM
Author: iridescent heaven

The grody old top will NEVER be a twink bottom

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47700990)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:13 PM
Author: iridescent heaven



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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:03 PM
Author: iridescent heaven



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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:07 PM
Author: citrine crawly trailer park

this didn't get enough lulz, deserves to be a yuge meme.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47700987)