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Parentmos: Do you say "No Gifts" for kid's birthday party, or are you prole?

When throwing a birthday party for your kid, do you tell par...
red cuck
  02/12/26
it mortifies me when my kids to receive gifts from effective...
twinkling address
  02/12/26
Explain. These aren't strangers. It's other kids from their ...
red cuck
  02/12/26
lol at actually knowing all of your kids’ classmates&r...
twinkling address
  02/12/26
lol @ not knowing ur kids' classmates' parents. the prestige...
insanely creepy ebony church building
  02/12/26
(weird try-hard extrovert dad who me and other chill dad tha...
twinkling address
  02/12/26
oh i dont talk to them. i just do a doobsian background chec...
insanely creepy ebony church building
  02/12/26
oh. well that’s insanely cr.
twinkling address
  02/12/26
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insanely creepy ebony church building
  02/12/26
seems gay. the point of gift giving isn't the cheap trinket,...
gold patrolman
  02/12/26
Next birthday party for my kids, I am planning on requesting...
nofapping crystalline piazza
  02/12/26
(renee good’s wife)
twinkling address
  02/12/26
if RG's son's paternal grandparents aren't fighting tooth an...
nofapping crystalline piazza
  02/13/26
As people ITT have noted, of course you’d prefer not t...
pale twisted lodge
  02/12/26
The difference here is putting your foot down and saying no ...
red cuck
  02/12/26
think about how many $20 pieces of shit gifts you have to gi...
buck-toothed tan codepig institution
  02/12/26
We decline gifts just to make attending our kids’ part...
bronze school
  02/12/26
Decline, or proactively say "No Gifts"?
red cuck
  02/12/26
Some people say "books only", this keeps out the c...
Free-loading Hot Legend
  02/12/26
Books only is cr. I've tried this with my wife, but she's sa...
red cuck
  02/12/26
Some people apparently think "No gifts" is snobbis...
Free-loading Hot Legend
  02/12/26
they’re right. not to say it’s not the cr anyway...
twinkling address
  02/12/26
only proles would think it's too snobbish
Crimson Galvanic Keepsake Machete
  02/12/26
This is incredibly rude because 1. it displays entitlement t...
Cream submissive national organic girlfriend
  02/12/26
this seems obnoxious and off-putting, but would be good in t...
insanely creepy ebony church building
  02/12/26
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twinkling address
  02/12/26
Just gift the birthday kid a VHS copy of Varsity Blues at al...
charcoal den
  02/12/26
Gift registry or GoFundMe is tcr
Unholy mustard internal respiration tanning salon
  02/12/26
Both are unbelievably prole, more prole than just letting pe...
soggy forum preventive strike
  02/12/26
lmao.
twinkling address
  02/12/26
if someone send me a gofundme "in lieu of gifts" i...
mahogany death wish giraffe
  02/12/26
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Free-loading Hot Legend
  02/12/26
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nofapping crystalline piazza
  02/12/26
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Concupiscible temple rigpig
  02/12/26
Prole
Poppy mad cow disease rehab
  02/12/26
Just take the gifts and then regift every single one to anot...
Free-loading Hot Legend
  02/12/26
If its a bigger birthday party, i usually say something like...
exhilarant senate boiling water
  02/12/26


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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:21 AM
Author: red cuck

When throwing a birthday party for your kid, do you tell parents of other kids they should not bring a gift? You and your family can still give gifts.

I don't recall anyone doing this when I was a kid. Now, it's de rigueur in my prestigious suburb. It's also highly cr. The kids can get a few nice gifts from their parents, grandparents, aunts, and uncles. They don't need 20x of some chinese plastic Amazon junk from their classmates.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665415)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:26 AM
Author: twinkling address

it mortifies me when my kids to receive gifts from effective strangers. but it’s not about the inevitable useless plastics chinese shit they get. it’s about teaching your kids to accept gifts with grace and gratitude and an opportunity for other kids to experience and learn about gifting.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665421)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:29 AM
Author: red cuck

Explain. These aren't strangers. It's other kids from their class and around the neighborhood.

Learning about gratitude is cr, but you can learn to appreciate the family gifts and that gifts aren't that important in comparison to your friends being there for you on your special day. Birthday cards are still acceptable and encouraged--ideally homemade.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665430)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:39 AM
Author: twinkling address

lol at actually knowing all of your kids’ classmates’ parents.

your points are fair and make even more sense when there’s an accepted community standard approach. i would argue that peer interactions are inherently different from intergenerational family interactions and as such offer much better training examples, but ultimately i would prefer the approach you describe so don’t have a lot invested in defending the gifting method.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665464)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 1:53 PM
Author: insanely creepy ebony church building

lol @ not knowing ur kids' classmates' parents. the prestige of the parents is the biggest indication of the quality of your kids' school.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666033)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:37 PM
Author: twinkling address

(weird try-hard extrovert dad who me and other chill dad that i barely know still manage to laugh about)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666143)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:41 PM
Author: insanely creepy ebony church building

oh i dont talk to them. i just do a doobsian background check on them

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666149)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 3:27 PM
Author: twinkling address

oh. well that’s insanely cr.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666247)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 3:36 PM
Author: insanely creepy ebony church building



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666263)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:30 AM
Author: gold patrolman

seems gay. the point of gift giving isn't the cheap trinket, it's to express appreciation. the quintessential gift is flowers and no one needs them and they only last a couple weeks. banning gifts is missing the forest for the trees imo.

i think it's fine to limit gifts to a low dollar value or to stuff thats not chink slop like just cards or something. eliminating them entirely teaches kids that the purpose of a gift is the gift itself, rather than the gesture. plus kids love to give and receive crap.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665431)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:42 AM
Author: nofapping crystalline piazza

Next birthday party for my kids, I am planning on requesting in lieu of gifts to please contribute to the gofundme for Renee Good

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665474)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:46 AM
Author: twinkling address

(renee good’s wife)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665488)



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Date: February 13th, 2026 8:57 AM
Author: nofapping crystalline piazza

if RG's son's paternal grandparents aren't fighting tooth and nail to get custody of him then they've officially failed at life

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49667920)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:53 AM
Author: pale twisted lodge

As people ITT have noted, of course you’d prefer not to have the cheap crap (this does not make you some UMC uncle moneybags, lol; no one wants this shit). The same way budding-adult boomers in the late 70s and 80s preferred not to dress up to go to some Rotary Club meeting chock full of his dad’s back-slappy-but-morally-straitlaced wwii gen friends and biz associates.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665524)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 12:07 PM
Author: red cuck

The difference here is putting your foot down and saying no gifts, which I hadn't previously heard of before I had kids and which I don't think was a "thing" for kids' birthdays party back in the day.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665741)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 12:12 PM
Author: buck-toothed tan codepig institution

think about how many $20 pieces of shit gifts you have to give over the course of the year and how much better it would be if everyone just saved that money and each parent bought one kid a $300 present.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665751)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:55 AM
Author: bronze school

We decline gifts just to make attending our kids’ parties easy for the other parents.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665540)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 12:08 PM
Author: red cuck

Decline, or proactively say "No Gifts"?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665743)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 12:09 PM
Author: Free-loading Hot Legend

Some people say "books only", this keeps out the cheap crap and also makes you look all highbrow. A family of SCHOLARS.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665747)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 12:27 PM
Author: red cuck

Books only is cr. I've tried this with my wife, but she's said no gifts period, which I don't mind at all.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665783)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 12:33 PM
Author: Free-loading Hot Legend

Some people apparently think "No gifts" is snobbish, like "We're too good for your prole shit!"

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665792)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:01 PM
Author: twinkling address

they’re right. not to say it’s not the cr anyway.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666056)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 3:30 PM
Author: Crimson Galvanic Keepsake Machete

only proles would think it's too snobbish

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666253)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 1:00 PM
Author: Cream submissive national organic girlfriend

This is incredibly rude because 1. it displays entitlement to a gift and 2. it tells the guest what they can and can't bring. In fact it's tacky to mention gifts at all, except perhaps in the context of "no gifts please."

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665863)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 1:55 PM
Author: insanely creepy ebony church building

this seems obnoxious and off-putting, but would be good in theory

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666038)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:01 PM
Author: twinkling address



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666058)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 12:12 PM
Author: charcoal den

Just gift the birthday kid a VHS copy of Varsity Blues at all parties your kid attends.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665750)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 1:51 PM
Author: Unholy mustard internal respiration tanning salon

Gift registry or GoFundMe is tcr

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666026)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 1:55 PM
Author: soggy forum preventive strike

Both are unbelievably prole, more prole than just letting people bring whatever presents they want.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666036)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:01 PM
Author: twinkling address

lmao.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666060)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:03 PM
Author: mahogany death wish giraffe

if someone send me a gofundme "in lieu of gifts" i'd honestly fuck their dead mother

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666063)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:26 PM
Author: Free-loading Hot Legend



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666117)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 3:34 PM
Author: nofapping crystalline piazza



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666261)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:27 PM
Author: Concupiscible temple rigpig



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666119)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 3:31 PM
Author: Poppy mad cow disease rehab

Prole

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666255)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 5:30 PM
Author: Free-loading Hot Legend

Just take the gifts and then regift every single one to another kid's birthday part.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666668)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 8:24 PM
Author: exhilarant senate boiling water

If its a bigger birthday party, i usually say something like "Gifts not necessary - just bring your party hat"

I feel like "No gifts!" is a bit sanctimonious, but i also want to make it clear parents can just bring their kid and there's no need for it to be a fucking errand for them to pick out some toy i don't want in my house.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49667195)