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Adopting an older kid is TCR IMO

- Provides a kid a supportive environment in which they can ...
Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
Wtf
Confused Property
  07/26/21
?
Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
having grown up with adopted siblings, i would never adopt. ...
Sick Garnet Personal Credit Line Field
  07/26/21
I'm sorry for what you/your family experienced. But you don...
Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
true, but at least they are your kids and have your genes. g...
Sick Garnet Personal Credit Line Field
  07/26/21
Fair, well, that could be another point *for* adopting becau...
Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
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Overrated greedy background story philosopher-king
  07/26/21
sadly this is probably tcr if you have a jesus complex wi...
Rusted fragrant set sweet tailpipe
  07/26/21
I've been in at least one relationship that I think would pr...
Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
I read your edit. I'm really sorry to hear that the situati...
Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
the genetic data is pointing in this direction--that environ...
Thriller site depressive
  07/26/21
OP here. Like most poasters, I suffer from mental illness. ...
Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
What Clique were you/them in in School?
Spectacular Peach Plaza
  07/26/21
very academic and unrealistic take
irradiated really tough guy police squad
  07/26/21
Why unrealistic?
Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
your view is idealistic and assumes things like people are r...
irradiated really tough guy police squad
  07/26/21
This is just a restatement of what you already said
Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
fuck off spaceporn
Chrome multi-colored round eye
  07/26/21
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Turquoise sex offender
  07/29/21
op in 5 yrs https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.metroweekly.com...
Aphrodisiac Ocher Theater Stage
  07/26/21
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Marvelous cobalt stage twinkling uncleanness
  07/26/21
yeah just raise some junky losers' offspring rather than you...
concupiscible glassy mediation
  07/26/21
With this level of unfounded bitterness, I hope you never re...
Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
it's founded on logic and experience. dirtbag parents carry ...
concupiscible glassy mediation
  07/26/21
It is absolutely debatable. See all the points in the OP. ...
Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
you mean cat, and yes, I agree with you
Sable digit ratio
  07/26/21
Also not a bad idea
Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
My wife has been advocating for us to adopt a black 16-17 hi...
mind-boggling haunting chapel dysfunction
  07/26/21
imagine her shock when he doesn't violently fuck her brains ...
Overrated greedy background story philosopher-king
  07/26/21
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Hyperventilating green cuck
  07/26/21
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Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
(Buddy Garrity)
Glittery Canary Potus Boiling Water
  07/26/21
Cuck. Also toddlers are fun to play with
Odious tank
  07/26/21
For a couple hours at a time, they are. I'll be fine playin...
Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
Also, fostering is a slightly less intense alternative, if I...
Turquoise sex offender
  07/26/21
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Turquoise sex offender
  07/28/21
"Provides a kid a supportive environment in which they ...
trip metal fanboi den
  07/29/21
? I'm for sure going to provide that environment. I can't co...
Turquoise sex offender
  07/29/21
Need to keep the flame going longer.
trip metal fanboi den
  07/29/21
It's always hard to tell if someone on here is trolling, mis...
Turquoise sex offender
  07/29/21
link
slimy effete organic girlfriend
  07/29/21
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Turquoise sex offender
  07/29/21
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Turquoise sex offender
  10/27/21
I’m glad there are people who think like this because ...
Tantric gas station
  10/27/21
yeah, it's super depressing that these kids - who literally ...
Turquoise sex offender
  10/27/21
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  10/27/21


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Date: July 26th, 2021 5:44 AM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

- Provides a kid a supportive environment in which they can thrive as a young adult

- Doesn't bring a new life into this shitty world

- Babies/toddlers/little kids are fucking annoying to deal with!!

- For women, you don't have to endure pregnancy or childbirth

- There's no timeline to worry about, like your sperm/eggs rotting; you can do it at any time

Sure, I'm curious what kind of superhuman, talented kid my genes would make. But that's the only drawback, and it isn't that bad. Some people want kids in order to leave a legacy but I don't see why they have to be related by blood, and I'll live on through my actual impact anyway.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842629)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 5:49 AM
Author: Confused Property

Wtf

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842636)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 5:49 AM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842639)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 5:57 AM
Author: Sick Garnet Personal Credit Line Field

having grown up with adopted siblings, i would never adopt. people like you and TV shows like Punky Brewster romanticize adopting kids. but it's a huge challenge, far greater than having and raising your own kids. adopted kids have major issues and you just don't know what you're gonna get. all of the drama and problems my family ever had were because of my adopted siblings. and despite all the love and opportunities my parents gave them, i'm not sure their lives turned out better than if they stayed in foster care. one ended up in prison and his kid committed suicide. they're white, too.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842644)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 5:59 AM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

I'm sorry for what you/your family experienced. But you don't know what you're gonna get when you have biological kids, either.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842646)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 6:01 AM
Author: Sick Garnet Personal Credit Line Field

true, but at least they are your kids and have your genes. genetics is everything. environment has much less impact on how kids turn out.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842649)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 6:03 AM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

Fair, well, that could be another point *for* adopting because I'm pretty mentally ill

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842651)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 11:39 AM
Author: Overrated greedy background story philosopher-king



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42843511)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 5:59 AM
Author: Rusted fragrant set sweet tailpipe

sadly this is probably tcr

if you have a jesus complex with the commensurate patience and love and understanding, then you can do it. if you're just a low level do-gooder you wont be able to handle all that they throw at you



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842647)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 6:01 AM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

I've been in at least one relationship that I think would prepare me for patiently, unconditionally* loving and providing for an angsty, perhaps traumatized teenager.

*(even if they were dishonest, disrespectful, ungrateful, violent, sneaky, pathological liars...)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842648)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 6:23 AM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

I read your edit. I'm really sorry to hear that the situation went so poorly. That risk is noted, but it isn't a deal-breaker. All any parent can do is try their best.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842661)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 11:45 AM
Author: Thriller site depressive

the genetic data is pointing in this direction--that environment means much less than the marbles you were born with

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42843542)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 1:36 PM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

OP here. Like most poasters, I suffer from mental illness. So a bio kid likely would too. I'm rolling the dice either way.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42844166)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 1:06 PM
Author: Spectacular Peach Plaza

What Clique were you/them in in School?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42843966)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 5:59 AM
Author: irradiated really tough guy police squad

very academic and unrealistic take

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842645)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 6:05 AM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

Why unrealistic?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842652)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 8:29 AM
Author: irradiated really tough guy police squad

your view is idealistic and assumes things like people are robots

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842778)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 7:01 PM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

This is just a restatement of what you already said

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42846054)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 7:30 AM
Author: Chrome multi-colored round eye

fuck off spaceporn

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842716)



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Date: July 29th, 2021 1:12 AM
Author: Turquoise sex offender



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42860696)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 8:22 AM
Author: Aphrodisiac Ocher Theater Stage

op in 5 yrs https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.metroweekly.com/2019/04/lesbian-mothers-killed-their-six-adopted-children-in-murder-suicide-inquest-finds/amp/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842761)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 5:53 PM
Author: Marvelous cobalt stage twinkling uncleanness



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42845736)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 8:47 AM
Author: concupiscible glassy mediation

yeah just raise some junky losers' offspring rather than your own child. fighting evolution to let the worst genes in society thrive won't have any negative consequences for society or you and your family directly...

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842807)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 9:15 AM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

With this level of unfounded bitterness, I hope you never reproduce OR adopt!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842884)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 9:41 AM
Author: concupiscible glassy mediation

it's founded on logic and experience. dirtbag parents carry dirtbag genes. if you can't make your own child then that option is fine if you really need a kid for some reason. but it's never preferable to your own offspring. this isn't debatable.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842961)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 4:45 PM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

It is absolutely debatable. See all the points in the OP.

And I'm mentally ill anyway (though fortunately it's under control now!), so I doubt the chances of crazy are much worse for an adopted kid. All I can do is try my best with what I get... just like any other parent.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42845453)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 9:06 AM
Author: Sable digit ratio

you mean cat, and yes, I agree with you

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842849)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 9:16 AM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

Also not a bad idea

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842886)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 9:48 AM
Author: mind-boggling haunting chapel dysfunction

My wife has been advocating for us to adopt a black 16-17 high school athlete

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42842984)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 11:43 AM
Author: Overrated greedy background story philosopher-king

imagine her shock when he doesn't violently fuck her brains out and becomes a neurosurgeon that supports you both in your old age

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42843533)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 1:43 PM
Author: Hyperventilating green cuck



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42844205)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 4:39 PM
Author: Turquoise sex offender



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42845413)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 4:42 PM
Author: Glittery Canary Potus Boiling Water

(Buddy Garrity)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42845437)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 9:57 AM
Author: Odious tank

Cuck.

Also toddlers are fun to play with

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42843006)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 12:59 PM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

For a couple hours at a time, they are. I'll be fine playing with my sibling's kid(s).

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42843932)



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Date: July 26th, 2021 5:33 PM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

Also, fostering is a slightly less intense alternative, if I understand the process correctly

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42845674)



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Date: July 28th, 2021 5:33 PM
Author: Turquoise sex offender



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42858709)



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Date: July 29th, 2021 1:14 AM
Author: trip metal fanboi den

"Provides a kid a supportive environment in which they can thrive as a young adult"

You are not familiar with the relevant social science.

Almost nothing you do will matter.

Even looking past the genes (which are by far most important) the (real) mother's lunch on a ransom Tuesday during her first trimester maters 10x more to the kids long-term outcome than your 10 years (and $500k) spent raising it.

This sounds hyperbolic, but it's not.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42860699)



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Date: July 29th, 2021 1:18 AM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

? I'm for sure going to provide that environment. I can't control what they do with it, of course.

edit: That's definitely hyperbolic, lol. I'll do my best. Even if it doesn't work out, I'll have given them an opportunity. That's a lot on its own.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42860710)



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Date: July 29th, 2021 1:19 AM
Author: trip metal fanboi den

Need to keep the flame going longer.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42860717)



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Date: July 29th, 2021 1:21 AM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

It's always hard to tell if someone on here is trolling, misled, or deranged.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42860723)



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Date: July 29th, 2021 1:22 AM
Author: slimy effete organic girlfriend

link

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42860725)



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Date: July 29th, 2021 1:23 AM
Author: Turquoise sex offender



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#42860727)



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Date: October 27th, 2021 3:03 AM
Author: Turquoise sex offender



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#43336828)



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Date: October 27th, 2021 6:04 AM
Author: Tantric gas station

I’m glad there are people who think like this because it’s hard for older kids to get adopted. It is deeply depressing to think about a kid in that situation.

The risk is that the kid may be psychologically damaged as hell by that point. Read about Romanian orphan study etc

Actually babies and toddlers are fun. Hard work but when it’s your child you love them in a way that it’s hard to comprehend before having kids. It is the highlight of my day to come home to my toddler and spend time together. It keeps me going.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#43337014)



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Date: October 27th, 2021 12:10 PM
Author: Turquoise sex offender

yeah, it's super depressing that these kids - who literally never asked to be born - are being totally passed over and neglected. it honestly seems like a no-brainer for me to help one of them instead of narcissistically making a new one.

they might have issues but that's true of any kid... certainly any bio child of mine would have a good chance of developing some kind of mental illness lol.

babies/toddlers are alright in small doses. and sure, i could end up liking them more if i had them, but imagine giving birth to one and being constantly annoyed by it lmao. i'm glad that yours brings you so much joy, though. 💕

someone in a different thread seems to think i'll change my mind, but i truly believe this is the best choice for me. i find each bullet point in the OP independently convincing, and there are a lot of them. this just makes sense to me, idk. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#43338156)



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Date: October 27th, 2021 12:12 PM
Author: Thriller site depressive



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4885776&forum_id=2#43338164)